MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

Good point, Beccad.  I'll take it out into the woods behind the house.  The turkey vultures other beasties will probably appreciate it. 

Good grief!  I was off a few hours and this thread has been really busy.

Welcome to all the newbies!  Hang with us - we will get you through this and have some fun along the way.

How about having the chocolate covered strawberries on the beach?  Make it a two for one special?

Lynniea - Have a great weekend and don't think about BC.

Hubby and I are off today to play a round of golf with some good friends.  Temp is supposed to be 84 today - perfect day to be outside and going to take advantage of it.  Been feeling sooooo good these days, I can hardly stand it.  Still have toe pains from Tamox but just ignore it and go on.

HAVE A GREAT DAY LADIES! 

nana3 - Welcome to the Middies.  We are a fun but supportive group.  As you can see, not all the conversations are about BC.    Praying you don't need chemo.  Please come back and let us know.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{ Annette }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Probably a long over-due rant.....

annatek--how old is this child?   Good grief1  I hope you made him clean up the mess!  Sometimes its good for the people around us to learn that we do have limits and can be pushed past them and erupt. 

Aww, Native- I should have explained, he has autism. Most of the time he is a great guy, he is 24, but other times there is no other way for him to get it out...unless I choose to drug him into oblivion which I cannot do. he tries and most of the time, he succeeds. other times, not so much:)

Sunagle and Sandee I will be spending the weekend with old gal pals the 1st weekend in april.  I can't wait.  We too laugh the whole time we are together.  There are six of us and we have all known each other since we were 5 and 6 years old.  Pretty odd but we charise our friendship.  We usually get together in the fall but this year my bc put things on hold and we decided to wait until I was through with treatment.  So looking forward to it.  It is part of keeping me grounded and reminding me always where I come from.

NavyMom-San Antonio is a geat city, I live 1 hour from there.  Lots to see and do.  If I can give you any suggestion  let me know.

Jean the chocolate covered strawberries where so good, thanks.

Lynnea hope you have a wonderful time on your trip.

annettek, thanks for the info, never thought about having mood swings with an aromatase inhibitor, guess I was in lala land...Now I have that to look forward to. (I will review the side effects before I have to start taking it for sure)

 I feel for you in dealing with all of this plus your son, you can make it thru, just have the faith and maybe buy a different kind of ketchup bottle?...

thanks for the kind words...they help, more than you know. It is funny, I open up on here like I do not *in person*....I love the little bum (ah, he is not quite so little...6' 190 lbs) but it can get pretty kookoo sometimes. There is nothing funnier on the planet when I stand on something to scold him (as I am 5'1")- after we are done scowling at each other, we both start cracking up. He is very limited in his speech but communicates pretty well. If that makes any sense:) When I told him this afternoon that he just can't throw things around when he is frustrated he looked at me and trailed his fingers from his eyes (for sad). I apologized for calling him everything but white boy. It is a journey, I will tell you that. Before  I got the BC I  was just starting to plan his house...we have to have something in place before we are too old and the bc scare showed me just how quick life can be. I want to build a farm/ranch and maybe have three or four other guys living there. There is simply nothing else out there where I could ever let him live. I have not gone through this for 24 years to turn him over to a life of nothing, so to speak. So I am going to do this and I know that it won't be so hard to find some other families that want in. The problem with what is out there is people may start out with their hearts in the right place but then they start getting those state funds and well, they pay the people that work there next to nothing, don't put the money into the place and cram as many people as they can in there with the minimum staff. I will plow everything into it and make sure the folks working there are paid a decent living wage. I want to do this closer to Austin as the countryside is beautiful and we can get volunteers from the UT to work with the guys. I want to have goats so I can call it "Goat Creek Farm" and everybody living there will have to have a job of some kind on the farm - to the best of their ability-maybe eventually make and sell soaps and lotions so it can become self-sustaining. Everybody needs a purpose in life and god-willing this kid has a long life in front in of him. I want it to be the best it can be. He is ready to have more-he goes to camp in the summer for a week and simply thrives-freaks me out, but he loves it. It is a 24/7 kind of life we have, but we're his parents.  But mama does get tired. Nobody really gets it because I appear to be one of those god awful silly butt people with a life of ease...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Would I trade it? Nah, not if it meant I did not have him. I wish he would not have been struck this crap, any more than I would want him to have any other condition. But years ago I had the closest thing to a spiritual experience as I ever have had. He was about four and it was a tough time, I was overtired and ready to keel over-I was doing a program with him that entailed heavy physical and mental interaction for 7-8 hours per day every day and just about had had it. We all went to the rodeo and him and his brother were walking in front of my husband and I...now this sounds corny but it happened....I felt, rather than heard "Annette, you don't deserve this, you should have a completely healthy and whole child. I will give you that but I will take him" It was a cloudy day and light shot right down on top of him...I ran up and grabbed him (freaking him right out of course) and said NO WAY, I LOVE HIM. Of course everyone thought I lost my mind but instead I think I found it that day.

Wooooooo, sorry for going on...seem to be full of emotion and memories...sometimes I guess I need to remember that kind of stuff when I am just exhausted. Thanks

Annette--we all have had our meltdowns. With my 3 girls I used to get so frustrated with them sometimes!  And that was long before bc!  The home you want for your son sounds wonderful!!  My dd worked at a new home nearby for developmentally disabled adults, called Friendship Place.  It is run by the Covenant Church, and they have a few of them in MN, and maybe other states too.  It's a wonderful place, she tells me lots of stories.  She quit to be a full time mom, but goes in every few weeks to be the 'craft lady" and do a craft with the residents.  She is in the process of adopting a 3 yo boy with down syndrome form the Ukraine.  I am very excited to have a new grandson (she has another son, 16 months old), but a little nervous too!

Hope all you ladies are having a relaxing evening!  We have a big snowstorm heading our way, so we'll probably make it to church, but not much else tomorrow--but we have a truck if we really need to get somewhere. It's a good excuse to hunker down and have a lazy day!

TMarina, congrats on your new grandson and hugs to your daughter for taking on that challenge. I hope she reaps rewards over and over.  I love those foced stay-in days, as long as we have plenty of food and wine!  We're having dd and sil over tomorrow for dinner ... I get so happy when I know they're coming over - we're so lucky that we all really enjoy each other's company.

MJB, hope you have a better day tomorrow hon.  What a way to try and make things better though by baking with your son, and with chocolate no less - you go girl!!!

Annettek, hope you are doing ok today