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horse-n-around
horse-n-around Member Posts: 79

I have reseached till my head hurts and can't sleep worth beans over this Frown

It seems like the more you research the more confusing everything gets!

I am 45 yrs old

I had calcifications show up on a routine mammogram, they couldn't do a standard bioposy due to the fact I have VERY little breast tissue and had implants done about 7 yrs ago (I was barely a AA before) if that gives you any idea about how little I really have.  I had to go under GA and have a surgical bioposy done.    I was extremely shocked to say the least when the diagonoses came back.

DCIS, 2.5 cm max, nuclear grade 2, cribriform with papillary with calcification and focal central necrosis. hormon positive for both types.   No evidence of invasive , but margins a little to close for my surgeons comfort so I need more surgery no matter what.

I was basically given two choices, lumpectomy with radiation  or Masectomy and no radiation.  With either one, they want me to go on hormone treatment (like Tamoxifen)

From what I understand, radiation is not a good choice for someone with exisiting implants,  Very high chance of capsular contraction (over 50%) and radiation scatter.  Not good odds in my mind.

 I have pretty much made up my mind to go with the masectomy & re-construct.   I did meet with the plastic surgeon and he did confirm my understanding of the radiation issues and exisiting implants.

I also have decided in no way will I take Tamoxifen!. Way to many side effects IMO, I already suffer with migranes, varicose veins (blood clots are a huge concern of mine) and My mother had uterine cancer (stage 2b when it was caught). 

 My biggest concern now is should I opt for just removing the right breast or remove them both?  Its not like I had much in the first place (before implants) , I hate so say it this way but its not like I am losing much of my own tissue, in either case and I really don't want to keep "worrying" either about it happening on the left side.

 I have another appt with my surgeon on the 4th and plan on asking her if I was tested for the BC genes or not, because I think that will play heavily on my decision.  None of my lymph nodes have been tested so those are a huge unknown.  I would love to have more questions for her, but my  mind is blank (I think its fried with information overload).   

What would some other good questions be to ask?  

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  • Deirdre1
    Deirdre1 Member Posts: 1,461
    edited January 2011

    Hi Horseinaround, sorry to meet you under these circumstances!

    Here's my opinion after choosing a bi-lateral with immediate reconstruction (which is FAR from immediate reconstruction IMO).. But first I want to tell you that we have all felt what you are feeling right now and I couldn't sleep after my many appointments - if I were to walk this route again the very first thing I would do is add a therapist to the list of specialists.. So many people will give you their opinions and although done in the best spirit it can really mess with your own decision process.  A therapist will help you focus and center on what is best for YOU coming from YOUR position.  Everyone's decision is personal and even if your DCIS matches someone else as far as the dx goes that doesn't mean you will arrive at the same treatment plan as they did.  That's why I always encourage someone in your position to seek out a therapist that hopefully has worked with women with breast cancer.   This will help with your decision making and I believe it will also help with your recover.

    OK - so the mastectomy that you have decided on is it "nipple sparing"?  The reason I ask is that having your original nipple and areola will help your brain better accept this monumental change to your body.  Once I made the decsion to have a mastectomy I went looking for a doc who could do a nipple sparing mastectomy - unfortunately there was not a ps in our town, at the time, who could do the procedure.  If I had to do this again I promise you I would leave my home town to go to where ever there was a plastic surgeon that could do a nipple sparing.  The emotional toll is incredible (at least it was for me - and many of the women I have spoken to) and somehow if the original nipple and areola were intack I think my adjustment would have gone much smoother.  I am not prone to depression but I have to admit it took me 3 years to finally start freeing myself from the depression I fell under after my simple bi-lateral mastectomy (as if there is anything simple about it!).  Also, knowing what I know now I would only have removed the one breast and maintained a "watchful waiting" on the other breast.  As I said earlier there is an encredible toll that losing your breast can have on you and having one of my breast (though saging from nursing <grin>) would have been easier to accept (for me).

    I was told that if I had a bi-lateral mastectomy there would be symetry  - symetry did not occur for me in the first surgeries!  I ended up having to replace my implants and have my pocket revised within a year.  You are right about the radiation on a breast that has an implant in it - there are more problems with outcome and appearance, though some women haven't experienced any problems at all.  So another question might be (if you decide to look at radiation) how much radiation they might use and if there is radiation treatment that has less exposure.

    You might also want to have your tissue slides reviewed by another pathologist in another facility.  Too often a local hospital will not have the experience of a breast cancer center.  I had mine re-read (for a second opinion) by Vanderbilt, but there are many other excellent facilities out there.   The second opinion will give you a better "comfort" level with your dx.  To do this you just need to call your bs and ask him/her to submit your tissue slides for review to (insert you facility choice here), also have your tissue tested for HER-2- if you haven't already had that test.   And please always make sure you have copies of the written report so you can refer back when other issues come up.

    Again, I'm so sorry you have to go through this and I hope you have a better outcome than I did.   And I don't mean to make your head spin - with a therapist you will have a better chance at taking each piece of information from others (including me) with a grain of salt and arrive at a better decision for YOU.  Best, Deirdre 

  • kad2kar
    kad2kar Member Posts: 336
    edited January 2011

    horse-n-around  I had same type dx and was going for one only with augmentation to the other.  When it came time for the exchange and aug I had to have another mammo on my real breast (although I had just had the test 3months previously. Well, I now have 2 mastectomies and no nipples, Im not sorry they went too (my left nipple was very close to the DCIS). My main concern was rads and chemo but with the bilateral no rads and the chemo docter just threw his hands in the air and shrugged his shoulders. Im not having chemo either because of side effects.  Im 64 and had several biopsies since I was 18. So for me it was OFF WITH THE BOOBS!!!. Now I wont worry about BC anymore. As Deidre says it is alot to take in but the Bottom line  is do you and your family want you around for a long time?  Bless you and Im sending Prayers. Take a breath and you will know what the right decision is for YOU. Read through the different threads and feel free to join in on any of them ,the women here are here for each other, when you are up and when you are down and even when you are ANGRY. Take care and let us know how you are doing.

  • Nedeza
    Nedeza Member Posts: 666
    edited January 2011

    Hi Horse-n-around~

    First of all welcome!  I say this because this website support group will be your godsend!  It has helped sooo many to get through this journey of uncertainty, fears, etc.  I joined the BCO (breastcancer.org) over a year ago.  I was diagnosed with DCIS & was given an option of lumpectomy/radiation or a mastecomy/reconstruction.  With much research that was available to me at the time I chose to have a single mastecomy with an immediate reconstruction...no radiation.  I was told that reconst. on a radiated breast can very difficult.  I had a single since my diagnosis was in it's earliest stages (stage 0).  I am very happy with my results.  I love the fact that I still have my "healthy" breast with nipple intact vs. my MX side without a nipple.  The only regret is that I did not join this support group earlier.  I found this website AFTER I had my surgery so I had no clue that a nipple sparing mastectomy was available.  Had I known I certainly would have inquired about this procedure.  I'm sure this procedure is not for everyone so you would need to inquire.  Women who have had this nipple sparing mastectomy have an advantage of coming out looking pretty "normal" after the reconstruction.  Anyway, I had immediate reconst. on my MX with a silicone implant & had my healthy side augmented to match.  I was a 36 nearly B before BC (breast cancer) & am now a 36C.

    Whatever you decide on...do check out all resources.  Check out all the forums here. 

    NAE

  • horse-n-around
    horse-n-around Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2011

    First, thanks for the replys, I am so glad I found this forum

    My surgeon "thinks" she can save the nipple on the the affected breast IF she is comfortable with the margins, won't know for sure until she gets in there again. 

     She did tell me sometimes the nipple will die and shrivel up and fall off Surprised,  I am not sure if I could handle that if it happened,  I am so squemish with stuff like that.  

    I was never comfortable with my body prior to getting the implants, because I was litterly flat. I wore silicon "fake" breasts in special bra's for 10+ years.

      I know the issues with body image stuggles, what I am facing now is different now, but not in a lot of ways.  I have never been conformtable with my nipples being touched, they are way OVER senstive and I struggled terribly trying to nurse my children,  it was brutal to say the least.  I cringe if  hubby touches them.  In some weird way losing sensitivity would probably be a good thing for me.

    The hospital that I am working with is very stong with Cancer treatments, I am pretty comfortable with what they have said so far as the diagnoses.  The plastic surgeon seems to think he would have no probelm matching the other side (won't guarentee it can be done with one surgery) but because I have so little tissue of my own and already having a implant changes things.

     I will try to call today and see if the HER-2 test was done, not sure if the office is open today.  Worst case I can find out when I go tomorrow.

  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited January 2011

    Lots of good responses.  In the end we each have to decide what's right for us, and that's what you see in the variety of approaches that other women have taken.  I had to have a mastectomy (too much DCIS in a small breast) and chose to have a single mastectomy.  I also had an implant added to my 'good' breast.  Reconstruction is not a simple or quick process; I was lucky that mine went very smoothly but it's important to go into it knowing that there is about a 40% - 50% chance that you might need revisions (those are the stats from the implant companies themselves).  And once reconstruction is completed, often there are little things that can cause problems - I'm 5 years past my surgery and I still have on-going phantom itching, I often get muscle aches around my 'foob' if I do something strenuous, etc.. None of these things are major problems but if I'd ever thought that a reconstructed breast would be trouble-free (as compared to natural breast), I would have been wrong.  There's no question that I think about and worry a whole lot more about my reconstructed breast than I ever do about my natural breast.  So I'm grateful that I don't have the same issues on both sides and I'm very glad that I had the single only. But that's me.  Others are happier to have bilaterals. 

    One thing that you need to keep in mind as you make your decision is that although usually radiation isn't required after a mastectomy for DCIS, this isn't guaranteed.  I've been on this board for 5 years and more & more, I am seeing women who have mastectomies for DCIS who still get radiation.  The issue is the margin size near the chest wall - recent studies have shown a significantly higher recurrence rate after mastectomies for DCIS if the margins are too close and that's why more doctors are now recommending radiation.  In your case, with small breasts, if it turns out that your area of DCIS is larger than expected (and this is possible - there is no way to know the actual size of the area of cancer until it is all removed and clean margins are attained), then close margins could be an issue.   Have you had an MRI?  If not, I'd recommend that you ask to have one. No screening tool is perfect at determining the size of the area of cancer but MRIs have been proven to be more effective than mammos at showing the whole area of DCIS. Certainly that was the case in my situation.  My mammo showed two distinct areas of DCIS; my MRI showed my breast to be full of DCIS.  The MRI was proven to be correct.  So an MRI might be helpful to you - and to your surgeon - to get a better idea of what's going on before you get into surgery.

    Good luck with your decision.   

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited January 2011

    horse-n-around- So sorry you have had to join our "club" here but you've found the absolute best source of online support out there.  This site is such a lifeline as you try to navigate the murky BC waters.  (I swear we could all get medical degrees when we are done.)  You've gotten lots of good responses but I just wanted to add a few things.  I had a nipple sparing MX and it definitely makes you feel a lot less disfigured.  One thing I would ask you surgeon, though, is where they will be doing the incision.  Mine was done below the fold of the breast so now it is barely visible.  I assumed this was standard but have since seem many done where the surgeon goes right through the center of the breast.  My BS told me the surgery can take almost twice as long to do a NSM and have the incision below.  Unless you are very large breasted there is no reason for them to do it through the center.  So don't assume- make sure you ask where the incision will be.  Also, not all BS agree on the benefits of Tamoxifen after DCIS and Tamoxifen.  Mine said she would prescribe it if it made me feel better but that she didn't think it was warranted.  As far as whether or not to have a MX on the healthy side I would ask yourself which is worse- do them both now or possible go through this all over again sometime in the future.  For me, I knew I just wanted it over and done with.  A lot of women choose just one side so they can keep the sensation in the other but it sounds like that's not important to you.  If you choose to just go with one side then Tamoxifen would probably not be a bad idea.  Whichever way you go everyone is here to support you and help you through.  There is a great thread of here for those who have had NSM.  It is called "Nipple Sparing Mastectomy with immediate reconstruction".  Good luck!

  • horse-n-around
    horse-n-around Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2011

    I spoke to the surgeons office about a hour ago

    no genetic testing was done (I guess due to lack of family history, insurance won't cover it) nor did they test for HER-2 as mine has been determined as non-invasive. 

    We also discussed the mammosite, which would have been a alterative for me on the radiation but I don't have enough breast tissue for the balloon to be far enough away from the skin :(

    I still have my appointment for tomorrow to discuss farther.  I know she wasn't very happy when I said there was NO WAY I was doing the hormone drugs.  I am sure this will be a topic discussed heavily tomorrow.  However, my mind is made up on that one - NO

     I will ask about the MRI, I do wonder if the implants are covering up anything.

     on the rebuild, I get the iching, sore muscle, wonky feelings every so often since getting my original implants, I really don't notice it much.  I figure its a small price to pay for being able to dress in normal fashions and where a bathingsuit without the top riding up and giving free peep shows.

  • Deirdre1
    Deirdre1 Member Posts: 1,461
    edited January 2011

    Hi again Horseinaround:  True DCIS is alway non-invasive - so even though it is non-invasive I still requested and was approved for HER-2- statues (that was several years ago and now more often than not the Her-2- test is done regularly even on DCIS) and I had BRCA too.  I would imagine that other testing - BRCA for example - should be done if you have any members of the family who have cancer - not just breast cancer.  A general suseptabilty to cancer can get your genetic testing approved by insurance, and your bs should have taken a history, but if not a genetic counselor might be the best route.. I wanted the genetic testing so I paid up front for the testing and THEN submitted it to the insurance company for payment  - they wanted to refuse it but they know that it is almost "standard of care" so they did approve it and I was reimbursed. Best, Deirdre 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited January 2011

    horse-n-around,

    I just wanted to stop in and offer my experience...

    I am almost a month out from a Nipple Sparing Mastectomy with immediate reconstruction, I'm 37 yrs old.  I went for a double because at the time I was treating LCIS/ADH, which are multifocal.  (even if it wasn't a situation that potentially affected both breasts, I still would have done a BMX, I have a strong family history).  In the end, I found out a couple weeks after that pathology forund several cms of DCIS in my LCIS breast & abnormal cell activity in my healthy breast, (dense beasts & DCIS didn't show on mamms, US or MRI).  I am now so GLAD to be done with all the worrying. 

    Leading up to BMX I was edgy, but thought I was handling it well under the circumstances.  But now that it is over and I have 1-2% chance of BC, I am a different person, the weight that I was carrying around that I kind of just got used to feeling was heavy, and now I am focused on healing and tissue expanders/fills and I am a much lighter person. 

    In a few months I should be nearing the end of the recon, of course there are always the chance of obstacles, but I choose to feel positive and grateful that right now is good and if there ever arises a setback, I'll deal with that then.  I am so impressed with the NSM, My nipples are healthy, pink and doing great!  I suggest if you are thinking about this surgery to discuss it with your Dr and compare with another.  Many times the success of saving the nipple is on the surgeons experience.  Kate was right about it being a more involved surgery, 5-6 hrs, I have the incsision under the crease and as I get my fills I can tell you that looking down at my nipples makes me feel like myself, minus the sensation, which is ok by me.

    Whatever you choose, rest with the fact that you looked at all the angles important to you.  Good luck with your research and definitley check out the nipple-sparing mastectomy (NSM) thread if you are curious for more info!

  • annielynn
    annielynn Member Posts: 49
    edited January 2011

    fire-dancer..thanks for your post.  I, too, have dense breasts and DCIS didn't show on mamms, US, or MRI.  I've had three doctors recommend bilateral.  I am very interested in NSM.  Under what circumstances does a doctor not recommend NSM.  I am large breasted and wonder if that plays into the decision.  If the docs can't see where the DCIS, is that a problem for NSM?  Thanks

  • horse-n-around
    horse-n-around Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2011

    my BS said the to do the NSM they need a good size  margin between where the DCIS was found and where the nipple is,  that was all.  There are only 2 Drs around here that will even attempt to do it, so it sounds like that is another challenge

  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited January 2011

    horse-n-around,

    You mentioned that you no longer notice some of the feelings/issues that you've had since you got your implants.  I'm sure you know this, but in case not, you have to understand that reconstruction is nothing like adding an implant in an existing breast.  When I had my reconstruction done, I had an implant added on the other side.  I'm small breasted too so my breast is now probably 50% implant and 50% breast tissue.  Still, my natural breast with the implant is a natural breast, with all the movement and feelings of a natural breast.  My reconstructed breast is nothing like that.  The process of reconstruction is different and the results are very different.  So if you are thinking that you know what to expect because you've had implants, please realize that this isn't like that at all.

    As for a single vs. a bilateral, you should talk to your oncologist about what your risk level is to get BC again. I was 49 at the time of my diagnosis; I've had breast problems all my life and my mother and her sister both had BC, so I have family history.  I expected my risk to get BC again to be in the 40% range so I was shocked - pleasantly so - when my oncologist estimated my risk to be 22%.  While that's "high risk", it's a risk level that I can live with.  So as you are making this decision, you need to understand what your risk level is to be diagnosed again, and then decide if this risk level warrants a bilateral mastectomy now, or if it's a risk level that you can live with.  

  • Nedeza
    Nedeza Member Posts: 666
    edited January 2011

    Horse-n-around~

    Didn't I mention you came to the right place!!!  I'm glad that you are getting feedback & hope that you find what you need to help in your decision.

    NAE

  • horse-n-around
    horse-n-around Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2011

    thanks Nedeza, everyone has been very helpful!

    Beesie
     I think you might have mis understood what I intended when I talked about my existing implants.  After implants I had wonky feelings, itching some soreness.  When I moved certain ways I could feel the muscle flex over the implants.  These are the strange feelings you get used to.
    I understand what you are saying when it comes to the breast not feeling the same,  to me, less feeling would be awesome (sounds bad I know).    My implant to breast tissue ratio is about 10-15% tissue to 85-90% implant right now.  The PS explained most of it to me pretty throughly,
    based on history / demographic I was supposed to have had less than  .8% chance of getting BC.  No family members that I am aware of have ever had it.  My mother had uterine Cancer, several of her brothers had lukemia (my mom was one of 11 kids), my grand father on her side had lung cancer (heavy smoker).  I asked (over the phone) what the hormone positive precentages were and didn't get a answer, I am meeting with the Dr again tomorrow so I will find out then.

  • Deirdre1
    Deirdre1 Member Posts: 1,461
    edited January 2011

    Horseinaround:  When I was working with the genetic counselor I was told that although I had a history of bc because of my father it was the cumulative cancers in the family that really made me "high risk".  Originally I was told that I had a low risk because there was only the one other member that had breast cancer but here's the thing - if we go back even one generation not everyone in that generation had access to regular health screenings and so someone who was noted as dying with liver cancer (as an example) might have well had breast cancer but it had developed in met's before discovery so no one bothered to check a lump that had been there for 30+ years.  My father's family (Irish-Catholic) had 13 kids and within the group alone 1/2 (1 child died at birth) died from one cancer or another - so half of his family died of cancer, lung cancer, bone cancer, liver cancer, etc.. notably none were hormone related, but because this family was a faming family (in Ireland) they didn't go to the doc until and unless their lives couldn't go on without medical intervention.. So many of the cancers that were picked up could have been secondary to the primary and the primary cancer might never had been picked up at all.  So the individual who died of liver cancer (a non drinker by the way) could have had breast cancer that metastisized or uterine cancer, prostrate cancer etc.(note these ARE hormone related)  but they might not have seen a doc until they were very sick and so the original cancer wasn't picked up -the metastatic cancers were noted as the primary cancers.  What I am suggesting is that a bs or a ps can't really understand the complexity of the family cancer's without a genetic work up.. and when I had the genetic work up 50% of my father's family had died of cancers so my genetic counselor suggested a breast MRI, BRCA testing (neg) and that I have my ovaries and uterus removed.. I had the BRCA that was negative and the breast MRI which was the only test that could see the DCIS..  Not with a mamo, or a digital mammo or an ultrasound all done within days of that same breast MRI and all negative except the breast MRI.. This is incredibly complex and so my suggestions would be that with the cancers you have in your family it would be a good idea to get a genetic counselor and have a genetic map created.  My genetic map is now available for my kids (though I hope they NEVER need it) and it was helpful to me in making some of my decisions.  I will warn you that it is not the be all and end all as genetic markers are a relatively new science and although they are discovering new connections every day, that means that the one's they know of don't show the full picture - so be careful if you do get a genetic map to be a bit discrimatory about which pieces you use.. but it is a helpful tool used carefully...  If it is used to induce fear it's better off in the trash!  I hope this makes sense I'm on a drug that does tend to create confussion within my brain (just a natural anxiety aide) ...Best, Deirdre

  • horse-n-around
    horse-n-around Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2011

    Well,  made a very difficult decision today.   They are BOTH coming off,  I was 70-100% hormone positive and due to the fact I really didn't have any real breasts to begin with,  it seemed to be the better way to go.  Doc says no need for the hormone restricters if they both are gone (and there was NO WAY I was going to take them).   Its  definetely a very scarey decision, but I really think its the right one for me.   Dr wasn't to sure about it to start with, but after we got all said and done, she agreed it might be the right way to go for me

    I hate going to the Drs even for rountine stuff, 7 years since my first mammogram until the one I just had done.   I do have a fair amount of cancers in my moms side of the family (as noted in my earlier post) which does play some in my decision.

    now I sit and wait!

  • Cowgirl13
    Cowgirl13 Member Posts: 1,936
    edited January 2011

    horse-n-around, just a different suggestion here for while you are waiting--spend some time with your horse.  I couldn't have done it without my horse.  It helped me immensely.  thinking good thoughts for you.  Be very kind to yourself now.

    Lizzie 

  • Nedeza
    Nedeza Member Posts: 666
    edited January 2011

    Horse-n-around~

    God bless you!  My thoughts will be with you!  Take a deep breath!  We're here to carry you through it!  When you do have your surgery come & visit us on the Exchange City thread!  Very informative thread as you await the reconstruction process.

    Hugs,

    NAE

  • julie75
    julie75 Member Posts: 635
    edited January 2011

    horse-n-around:  As Nedeza said, we're here to help you!  Sending thoughts of strength your way and will check back to see how you are doing.

    Julie

  • horse-n-around
    horse-n-around Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2011

    thanks all,

     I read and re-read so many things and many of Beesies posts (thanks Beesie!) kept reminding me of something. To date I have not seen one oncologist (believe it or not), its been all my BS leading the way and the only other consult was with the potential PS.   I really don't know what my personal reoccurance rate is.  Am I over extreming it now with my decision?    I am supposedly clear and the tumor was supposed to be pure DCIS.

      If thats the case, why do I need to do anything now?  If something "suspicious" shows up later, just take them off and be done with it.   Decisions, decisions! (UGH!!!!!)

      So, I put a slight "hold" on my pending surgery, until I speak with a oncologist,  I just want to be sure I am making the right decision for me.   I really don't know how all you ladies do it!  this is all driving me nuts

    (I think I am driving my Drs nuts too!)  3 steps forward, 3 steps back

  • blondee327texas
    blondee327texas Member Posts: 23
    edited January 2011

    HI Horse-n-around,

    I have been thinking of you all day.  I am going to see the oncologist tomorrow.  I have been going on what the General Surgeon told me I would "have" to do or would be "offered" treatment.  I have been reading all this information and it is all conflicting in my head.  I don't want radiation, but I don't want BC again.  I don't want tamoxifen, and I don't want BC again.  I called a Radiation Oncologist today.  He said I could drop by after my appt tomorrow to visit with them. 

    Glad you put your surgery on hold until you speak to an Onc.  It is okay to get a second opinion and I may do that too.  It all depends on what the Onc says tomorrow.

    Hang in there.  We are here if you need us, and i know ya'll are here for me too.

  • horse-n-around
    horse-n-around Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2011

    Hi Blondee

     I have been reading your thread too, it seems we both feel the same way about most of this  Smile

    very, very similar in the stats of dx too (I see we both have even the same date of DX, kind of scarey! LOL

     it will be interesting to compare notes from the Oncs.  My appoint was getting scheduled today, hopefully I won't have to wait to long to get in to talk to them.  What I found interesting is my BS was going to set up appts with a radiation Onc, and a medical Onc,  to be honest I didn't realize there was 2 different types. 

  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited January 2011

    horse-n-around,

    Those diagnosed with DCIS are usually told that they have time to think about their options and make their decisions. A few weeks, even a couple of months is very unlikely to have any impact. I had DCIS in two places, already had a microinvasion of IDC (invasive ductal carcinoma) and after an excisional biopsy, I didn't have any clear margins.  Yet for a bunch of very good reasons, it took me another 2 1/2 months before I had my mastectomy. Nothing in my pathology changed; the wait had no negative impact at all. In your case, since you've had surgery with clear margins, you have all the time in the world.  So take the time you need to be sure about your decision.  Particularly if you are going to have the bilateral mastectomy (BMX), you want to be absolutely certain about the decision, because once it's done, there is no going back.  

    Since you haven't talked to an oncologist yet, you should definitely do that.  The role of the surgeon is to operate; the role of the oncologist is to look at the total picture and help you put together the total treatment package, based on the pros and cons of each treatment specifically for you, based on your pathology and your risk level. I know that one of your concerns is about taking Tamoxifen and that's part of what's driving your decision.  I had a single mastectomy and fully expected that Tamoxifen would be recommended for me; I was totally surprised when my oncologist actually recommended against Tamoxifen. It took me a while - and a lot of research - before I understood his rationale and ended up agreeing with his recommendation.  

    In the end your decision might not change at all; you might still decide that you want the BMX. If so, that's great.  You won't have lost anything and you will have gained confidence and certainty about your decision.  That's a good thing. 

    Blondee, it's great that you are seeing the oncologist tomorrow.  Let us know what both he and the Radiation Oncologist say. I'm sure that there opinions will be helpful as you struggle with this decision, and as you said, getting a 2nd opinion can be very helpful too.   

  • horse-n-around
    horse-n-around Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2011

    My appointment with the Onc is 1/19, the waiting is like torture!  I did call and put my self on the cancellation list to see if anything opens up sooner.  I just feel like I am on pins & needles.

  • mjh69
    mjh69 Member Posts: 34
    edited January 2011

    horse-n-around,

    Very simliar diagnosis here, with very similiar thinking. My mother also had uterine cancer and died young, at 42.  Since her death, I have known that if the situation came up, I would go to the absolute extreme, which I did, after careful consideration and consultation with various prominent BSs, Oncologists, and PSs.

    I am 8 weeks out from the final transfer surgery. I feel very good-I won't say that the loss of my real breasts isn't on my mind every day, however I chose to look at this situation in a powerful light, and it has helped me tremendously.  I, like you, had small breasts to begin with, that did their job of breastfeeding 4 beautiful children..but eventually failed me at age 41.  I am now a perfect size 36B. I have no feelings of pain or discomfort, only numbness.  The surgeries were not as difficult as I anticipated.  Recovery was easy, minus the fact that I had physical restrictions.

    I should note, the final pathology after BMX showed DCIS in two areas, in non consecutive slides...one size .2cm and one .4cm.  Very, very tiny. However, I wonder had I opted for lumpectomy, would it all have been removed?  Only one spot was shown in MRI, US and Mammo.  

     My risk tolerance is low and my anxiety very high. For me, the BMX was the right option. But it is a very personal decision for us all. I just thought I would let you know my perspective, and also let you know that you are not alone in your decision making.

    Good luck, God Bless.

  • horse-n-around
    horse-n-around Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2011

    mjh69, 

    Sometimes I feel like I am procrastinating by wanting to talk to the Onc Frown.  It probably won't change my mind on how to proceed with treatment.  I guess I just really need to hear the Oncs thoughts on my dx rather just flying with what the BS said.

     I am a bit concerned about possibly having more DCIS that just isn't showing on the Mammo  on my supposedly clean left side . My BS seemed to think the left was all clear based on nothing more than a Mammo,( I even asked her the question straight up).   Also I would like to know how concerned I should be about uterine cancer seeing I now have BC that is hormone positive.

  • Deirdre1
    Deirdre1 Member Posts: 1,461
    edited January 2011

    Maybe you could ask for a breast MRI while you are waiting?  That could take a good look at both breasts and it is almost considered "standard of care" these days..  It also helps the breast surgeon as well...  You might give it a try - it might help you understand the size - it might help...  hang in there!

  • gymnut
    gymnut Member Posts: 37
    edited January 2011

    hi horse-n-around & everyone else,

    i'm also newly diagnosed & in a similar situation it seems.  i have had an mri & actually my bs said it would be necessary before whichever procedure i chose.

    i met w/ ps & rads onc last week and now have tons of follow-up q's for them & dk if i shouldget 2nd opinions & have a follow-up w/ bs on thurs.  i'm not at this point thinking about removing the right breast but deciding between re-excision/rads or mx/te/implant on left w/ perhaps small implant to right for "symmetry".  i'm just not sure how i feel about all of this & still struggling a bit to get all the info. i need (though sometimes i'm on info. overload!) and make the decision that will be/feel right for me & hopefully help me to feel most comfortable w/ self & body & choices afterwards.

    i only discovered this site yesterday & spent probably hours reading tons of things.  some of it it has been overwhelming but also very helpful & moving in terms of people's openness & willingness to share & help each other.

    dk what else to say but good luck to everyone & take care.

    if anyone has anyone particular resources to recommend, though, i suppose that wouldn't hurt.

    oh, also, i think i asked this q. somewhere else but i'm confused (& really need to get back to work though i'm self-employed at the moment so it's not like i'll get in trouble. just no $).  if anyone wouldn't mind sharing experiences w/ radiation if they went that route, i.e. side effects? did it shrink or damage remaining breast tissue? etc. and for implants/recon if you went that route, did you get any sensation?

    thanks & take care all. 

  • horse-n-around
    horse-n-around Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2011

    Hi Gymnut

    Its been quite a ride already and not a fun one,  I am sorry to hear you had to join the club no one really wants to be part of.  It can be very overwhelming at times, information overload at times. 

     As I am sure you have already read, there is no real right or wrong choice.  I am making it a little tougher for myself because I won't to rads or hormone blockers.  I am meeting with the Onc for the first time on 1/19 so it will be interesting to see what he/she has to say.  I will probably still do the DMX and reconstruct, but I am trying to cross the T's & dot the I's.

    Good luck and keep us posted 

  • gymnut
    gymnut Member Posts: 37
    edited January 2011

    hi horse-n-around,

    thanks & same to you.  i have to try to remind myself to get some perspective & to keep breathing & try to stay calm & present.  working out is one of the things that helps me to do that, though i haven't been able to workout as i normally would due to torn rotator cuff & biceps tendon (on R side while DCIS is in L breast) which i had repaired approx 2 mos. before this diagnosis & which kind of seemed like a bigger deal then than it does now if you know what i mean.  another is writing, which i haven't been doing nearly enough of lately.  aside from good friends, family etc. the other is my wonderful cat who was just on my lap purring as though he knew how stressed i was when i came in.  i'm sure he'll help me through this as best he can, as he did with the shoulder surgery. 

    still, it is a tough decision & i'm really grateful for finding this site & amazing group of strong, generous women who have pulled together to share & help one another.  the decision is not just about cosmetics or aesthetics, and i believe everyone is right that there is no one answer for everyone.  i'm also astounded by all i've learned in the past one day since i found this site about DCIS & different grades & severities etc. 

    there's still so much i don't know & there seems to be a fine line somewhere between information overload & the balance one needs to make the best choice for herself.  i guess the "good" thing is that i've so far been told that either option will leave me cancer-free, though after reading everything here, i guess nothing is that simple.  still while there are women who've unfortunately had recurrences or more dcis or another more invasive form of cancer than the docs originally realized, there is also the woman on here (sorry, only found this thread today & my brain's on overload so dk name) who has amazingly had this untreated for 17 years!

    i'm not saying that's my choice, i guess i'm just saying every case is different & we all have to make our own choices.  still, this fountain of information & support seems invaluable already & it's only been a day.

    i'd love to hear more about people's experiences, either what helped them make a choice or what has helped/is helping them get through this.

    thanks, good luck & take care horse-n & everyone else.  theoretically the "plan" is for me to make decision soon & try to have ... whatever done end of jan or early feb at latest. i want to have enough info. to feel as comfortable as reasonably possible under the circumstances that i'm making the best decision for me, but i also don't want to give the cancer a chance to do anything in there.  i want it out.

    also, i dk if it was horse-n-around or somebody else who said her doc referred to dcis as "precancerous".  fwiw, & i am obviously a total newbie here in, as horse-n said 'the club of which no one wants to be a member' (paraphrasing here), my doc referred to mine as "pre-invasive" as opposed to "pre-cancerous".  i'm also not sure, now that i think about it why at that time she said pre-invasive rather than non-invasive, whch has also been said.  i'm going to try & remember so i can ask the bs the difference when i see her later this week.

    time to feed the cat & go work out some anxiety at the gym.  take care.

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