If you were stage I, did you get chemo???
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Thanks for all of the good responses to my original post. I met with the medical oncologist yesterday and ordered the oncotype dx test. Right now I am in a waiting pattern. They did also tell me the upgraded my Grade 1 to a Grade 2 based on the final pathology report from the lumpectomy. THey said a majority of the tumor had Grade 1 cells but there were a few small areas that showed some Grade 2 cells. My tumor was 1.4cm. For now my medical onc said she will only push for chemo if my score is high. If it's in the gray zone, then it's a personal choice as she just can't tell me that it will benefit me or not. If it's low she says there won't be benefit for me. She said if I needed chemo it would most likely be 4x T & C. I am not so much worried about the tiredness or nausea, I am most freaked out by the hair thing. I have a 4 year old son and I just don't want to have to explain "cancer" to him at this point. If all I need is surgery and no chemo, that allows me to explain this to him when he is older especially if there is no other obvious things going on and they are giving me a great prognosis with low chance of recurrence. I just keep thinking about my neice and nephew too that just lost their dad last year to cancer. I am more of a mess over the potential of chemo than the BLMX because of the kids.......ugh. The two weeks of waiting is going to be long. I will post an update when I know the outcome. Thanks ladies!
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I have a lot of learning to do, but it's worth saying that grade is still used to determine chemo at some NCI-ranked hospitals. At mine, if you had a grade 3 tumor, or lympho-vascular invasion, those were determining factors (along with the usual: node-involvement, size, etc.) I had three reviews of my grade 3, all concurred. You can always have your slides reviewed by multiple parties, it is well worth doing so. I did by two separate,unaffiliated hospitals. They both agreed. From what I understand, grade 3 cells tend to be easier to determine than cells falling between 1 and 2.
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I had a very small .7mm tumor, no nodes, grade 2, highly er/pr + Onco testing was not useful because of being Her/2 positive and therefore onco test would prove to be high anyway. Even though I was Stage 1, chemo was automatically recommended because every Her/2 positive tumor is treated w/Herceptin and Herceptin is given with a chemo.
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I had multiple small tumors and was 31 years old. Oncotype came back 18. Due to age,oncotype intermediate range and multiple tumors, I did 4 rounds of TC.
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Yep - Stage 1 under the age of 50 & I did the chemo.
As it was explained to me, taking the chemo added to my survival percentage by about 5-10%.
Chemo doesn't kill ya but boy it sure takes your body for a roller-coaster ride to hell & back. It ain't fun BUT, BUT, it is managable and it isn't forever.
When dx'd with bc, I took a stance that I still am following. I am going to do whatever it takes to stay alive for very long time. At the end of my journey when I look back, I will have no regrets. I will not have to say "I should have....".
Yes, chemo took it's toll on my body but I'm still kickin' & riding my Harley. Don't let anyone tell you different. Chemo is poison, plain & simple. That's how it works. Yes, the hair falls out, ya loose your eyelashes, eyebrows & the *down-under* hair <grin>. But guess what? It grows back just fine. Makeup, wigs & caps of all kinds fill the void of going to the hair dresser. I worked every single day through my chemo.
My chemo really gave me a whack. I had to do 4 doses. After dose #2, we figured out that I was alergic to it. I did dose #3 and my onc was hesitant to give me dose #4. I came all unglued on the poor guy and I took dose #4 with all its risk. I came through with flying colors.
I did Tamox for a couple of years until I broke my ankle after dumping my Harley. I ended up with DVT in the leg and was hospitalized for that for 7 days. An SE of Tamox is blood clots. Go figure. I went onto Femara. About a year later during my annual physical, I now have high cholesterol. An SE of Femara. To deal with the high cholesterol, I'm now on Lovastatin.
I was pre-menopause before chemo. My first chemo slammed me into chemo-pause. My *power surges* could melt paint off the walls! Night sweats that I floated in. I took Effexor for about 2 years then weaned off. I still get warm flushes, but NOTHING like what I did in the beginning.
Now come to find out, I'm braca1+ and am scheduled for double mx + DIEP in Feb. 8-10 hours on the operating table is going to be tough, but, like I said, no regrets. I'm going to give it my all. I have to set an example. My daughter is braca1+ too and I have to show her that whacking off the tata's ain't all that bad.
I know I'm long winded, but, I wanted you to see that it is doable and managable and, that little boost of extra insurance was well worth it.
It's an individual choice for sure. Everyone has a unique experience with chemo. I gained a TON of support during my chemo with these boards. Surround yourself with a good support system and you'll be just fine.
Good luch with your decision.
bonny
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Hi - I am a nay-sayer to chemo and will always be. I don't want the life I saw patients "living" when they had gone through rounds of chemo and no improvement. No there is an article in the "Cure" magazine that questions even the need to have an axillary dissection if one node is abnormal. I had found enough info in the respected medical journals when I was being pressured to have an axilllary dissection and chemo, when there was a "woops" with the results of my node slide during surgery. Suddenly the negative findings were called positive. I pressed, with a lot of push back, for the actual size of the mets they said was now there. Dr. Susan Love's book was saying that this is an important finding. Mine was less than < 2mm. From being a pathology student, the results weren't making sense to me but questions were not received well. I said that I was not doing ANYTHING till I knew the size of the supposed mets. The 2nd path said it was questionable cellular changes. I refused an axillary dissection and chemo. At the time they were pushing for chemo, I knew about two friends who had taken the same chemo treatment and now had heart damage. The oncologist, who I didn't like any way told me that side effect is rare. Well, it's rare if it doesn't happen to you! I don't know that many people who have had BC and to see two long term survivors with serious heart complications made me doubt the truthfulness with the doctors as to the side effects. You have to evaluate your available support network. As a former medical professional, I know the support network you will need to go through chemo. I did not have that in place with a recent move for my husband's job to a place where the medical care is just marginal. Besides, the support that was there till I finished radiation has basically disappeared.. When asked why I won't do some volunteer activity and I declined, I was told, "well you are done with treatment now, what is wrong? Well, do you have about 4 hours to tell you how bad I feel but cover it up on a daily basis, so I'm free to listen your problems, such as your shoulder pain from arthritis - try adding Tamoxifen to that problem! I couldn't find an oncologist l liked or trusted in the required time period so I basically felt like, I'm going to die anyway, I'm going out in a way I can manage, and that does not/will never include chemo. I saw too many chemo failures and deaths I wouldn't wish on a dog. Since I was married to a veterinarian, I never saw a dog go through what happens to humans in the name of "treatment". I'm not sure how you square what I know about human and veterinary medicine with someone who has experienced the end of life issues with both species.
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KansasKay Not all chemos give heart issues. Adriamycin is know to give heart issues but as you know it's rare but can happen. Herceptin, which is not chemo also can give heart issues but they resolve once taken off the drug. Your heart is monitored on Herceptin.
I am not on Adriamycin and I'm glad my onc didn't recommend it because I would have refused it. For me I rather be on Herceptin and risk having a heart issue because without Herceptin my prognosis would be very poor.(I'm also on Taxotere & Carboplatin… almost done).
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Naysayer, what if this poster's Oncotype comes back 30? Would you "always" say no to that,too? No one said chemo was perfect or benign (though it's very important to note that the TC regimen has been a huge breakthrough for limiting long term SEs like heart problems).
From this vantage, I'm really mad at my aunt's best friend who was node positive, had a family history, and refused it all. Now, it's back three years later (no surprise). She is going to die, perhaps 20+ years sooner than she needs to. And make all of her friends suffer.
It's a personal choice, to be sure. But when I made my decision, I realized I was doing aggressive therapy not just for me, but for my husband, and my parents. They did all the research on pros and cons, and felt I must do it. Perhaps asking people who really love you to do the research and assist with the decision may also be helpful. My father, for instance, read many of the studies from his library database.
I don't pretend chemo is the "right" choice in borderline cases, but it was right for me.
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Thanks ladies. I know that I can get through the chemo like many of you did - not because I want to but because I have to. I know in the end for me I can't look back and have regret my whole life that I didn't do all that I could to kick cancer forever. I have to think that way for my 4 year old son and husband. I just keep praying my score comes back so low that there will be no added benefit of chemo. I just want to spare the people I love the torture of seeing me go through it and living it with me - especially my innocent little boy. That part breaks my heart more than BLMX or anything else....knowing I have to teach him about cancer and perhaps scare him. I know if I have to do the chemo, we will work with the counselors to figure out the right way to handle this with our son, but I just don't want to have to do it. You know what I mean? Please pray for a low, low score. Test result expected in about 10-14 days. The waiting is killing me...............
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I will pray for a low score for you.
... another thought... have you talked to you oncologist about what kind of chemo he would recommend IF your score came back higher? Mine said he would have been fine with CMF... that regime "usually" does not have full hair loss (only thinning) ~ and supposedly less side effects in general... this made me a little bit less nervous while waiting for my score.
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I did not receive chemo in 2007 after my first diagnosis of 1.6 cm, ER/PR +, Her2- , grade 2 tumor. My oncotype score was 15. I had a BLMX and took tamoxifen for a little over two years when it came back in the same area.......The second time around I had the new lump removed and AC x4 T x 4, and 6 weeks of radiation to the area. I remember agonizing about the same choice that you are dealing with now. It is a hard one. Good luck to you!!
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Oh ya, I was 37 at diagnosis.
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I'm stage 1 T1 going to uncoligist today my Dr was sure they would do both chemo and rads. are you as scared and nervas as me?
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Naysayer,
One would have to weigh whether the chemo actually afforded those extra years you saw in your friends who ended up with heart problems in the long run. Is having a long run with heart problems better than a short one? I know of way more women who did chemo that are alive and well and thriving than women who didn't do chemo and are gone. None of us like having to make the choice to do chemo, some of us will do it even if it's just a few percentage points in our favor, some not. The real issue is what our individual pathology discloses and what the best science is for treating it. Of course, it would be easier for someone in early stage, grade 1, her/2 negative and no node involvement to skip the chemo.
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I hope your score comes back low. It is my understanding that chemo is most effective for grade 3 tumors... the rapidly dividing type. Grade I & II do not have as positive outcomes when given chemo. I'm not sure why this is but I've read it in some of the postings throughout this website.
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Ladies - I'm a scientist first in any medical decision I make and chemo is included in that area. I've had Master's level statistics courses along with courses in evaluating scientific research studies. I was a research scientist evaluating test methods to improve the early detection of certain diseases. I also benefit from being trained as a Medical Librarian (Master's level) at one of the leading cancer centers in the US - MD Anderson. Several of my close friends work there now. My husband is a research chemist who can probably figure out any statistisics issue better than the majority of the doctors you are seeing, though I seriously doubt that their ego would give him his due! Doctors don't really have that many statistics courses compared to my area of concentration and certainly not that of my husband. When the first oncologist started throwing around statistics, my husband got mad because he knew the guy was not using the absolute %. He said to the doctor "liers figures and figures lie" and the Indian doctor didn't know what to say when asked to give my absolute % of improvement vs the general statement that "taking chemo improves your % by 30%". I'm not going into the discussion with someone playing loose with the truth and "buying what he is selling"! There is so much more going on that I typed in one response.
I was not going to ever take AC because I have previous heart damage due to a severe childhood episode of Rheumatic Fever. There is no need for me to take Herceptin so it is an non-issue. The treatment for Rheumatic Fever also left me with antibiotic resistant MRSA - 2 episodes in the last 3 years. Yes, I want to be on something that is destroying my immune system!
To me it is kind of like the boy who exposed that the king had no clothes! Everyone was afraid to admit the fact. I'm certainly able to do my own professional research on any medical topic as that is my area of concentration as a medical librarian with a Master's degree. I feel like the comments here are those made by people who were afraid to admit the king had not clothes, e.g. the king is the oncologist or surgeon who sticks with the NCCN protocols and does NOT mention the other studies that are close to being accepted, such as the ones I have mentioned in CURE magazine. Cure mentions the situation of too many (mainly women) patients needlessly being treated with chemo therpy that do NOT need to go to that extent of treatment. What is wrong with bringling that issue up if this is truly as disscussion board and not just a rubber stamp for chemo. I've already seen that another woman who decided that she did not want to "drink the Kool aid" was villified by many here. I made the statement that my experience over a longer period of time that most have observed the administration of chemo, left me with a negative view of this form of treatment. I also said that I have NO support network for intensive treatment. What part of that is so hard to understand! I don't live in an area where I have many friends and no family. I have my husband - period! There is also the issue of statistics. If I have a 15% chance that I could have a recurrence, don't I also have a 85% chance that I won't have any thing more with surgery, radiation, and tamoxifen? To me, that doesn't sound the same as someone's example her aunt not doing chemo and "of course it came back and now her family is suffering" My cousin, whose line of family connection to BC is through her mother's side of the family, not by blood to me, is married to a doctor. She had IDC with some positive nodes, lumpectomy, chemo, radiation, and 5 years of Tamoxifin. She still how up with mets after doing all of that at 8 yrs. Does she get more sympathy because she did chemo? Will you with hold any feeling of sympathy for me because I didn't believe chemo was recquired and could cause serious health problems besides cancer.? I have been trained to think and ask questions and not accept "this is how we've been doing it for 20 years.", especially when I see some pretty big cracks in the logic, of being accepting of a theory that has some pretty serious cracks in its foundation. Read Cure magazine, hopefully available as a free subscription from your oncologist's office. Don't belittle me until you've read the issues from the last year! - Kay
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Hi MDG,
I was diagnosed with Stage 1 (1.2 cm), ER/PR +, Her2neu-ve, and no vascular invasion, and my sentinal node biopsy was negative. I am 46. My oncogene test indicated I was a medium score and would benefit from the chemo. I just finished my second round of 4 of Taxotere and Cyclophosphamine. I have had no nausea whatsoever. Just heartburn the first round and I think I'm now starting chemo-menopause because I have hot flashes at night.. Yes, I'm losing my hair but it will be temporary.
I guess I am on the side of do everything that you can to prevent any micro cells from spreading. A year ago I was watching my sister die of breast cancer when there were no effective treatment options for her even the very aggressive chemo she received.. The fact that you are young and an early stage is a bonus. I can't comment on your feelings about your son because I don't have any kids. It is a very personal decision and I know I am highly influenced by my sister's death.
Good luck.
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Thanks for more responses ladies. My medical oncologist said I would most likely get T&C X4 in three week intervals. I realize this is much more tolerable than other chemo options. I am not afraid so much of being tired or nauseated. I am more afraid of having it be visually obvious to my son. I also don't like the idea of my cancer being so public (no hair = cancer, right?). I just want to fight this battle privately and we have only told family and a few friends with specific instructions that it is not to be discussed with others. I am usually a private person. That is just who I am.
I know if the doctors tell me there is benefit to chemo for me with my specific tumor, I have to strongly consider that as my #1 goal is to live and be here for my son. I just wish that the surgeries would be my only treatment now so it would not potentially scare him as much. I know it probably seems odd to some of you that are moms too that have gone through having chemo already. For me, I just want to protect my son. It's hard to think I will have to tell him potentially scary things or have him see things that may scare him. I know we will have to be reassuring to him and as honest as we need to be with a 4 year old, but it will break my heart. All I want to do is keep him happy, feeling safe and loved over everything. It doesn't mean I can't do that with chemo, but it will be probably harder for me. It kind of feels like you are sending your child over to a hot stove and you can't do anything to stop him from touching it and you know it will hurt him. Maybe I sould irrational, but I am still getting use to the fact that I have cancer and am only at the beginning stage of this. I have not gotten to a place where I believe everything will be OK again.
I guess since I lost a parent at a young age but not to cancer (I was 2 1/2), it had a profound effect on my life and still does. I am not saying my son will lose me, but I know all the thoughts I grew up with after having something so traumatic happen to me at a young age. I just want him to have a "normal" childhood.....more than anything. Somehow cancer was just something that I considered "normal" I guess. I know you can't protect your child from everything, but as a mom you want to.
I know a lot of you ladies are moms and have gone through chemo and had your kids see what that is like. I know it was probably hard for you too. I am sure many of you will tell me your kids are doing OK after everything. For now, I continue to pray that my tumor will be not likely to return so I can push through the next year of BLMX and reconstruction and close the door on BC in several months.
Thank you again for all of the support and sharing your experiences.
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Just want to add one more thing I got the Oncotype test done, and now my insurance won't pay. It seems Blue cross blue shield of Fl. is not covering it. Talked to my BS the otherday, and they are having this with all their patients, and it wasn't just me.
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KIRA: I have AETNA and they approved it but I will have to pay about $600 of the test. I think the total cost was more like $3000. I talked to the people at Genomic Health last week, they have a patient assistance program that you may qualify for. Did you talk to them? If not, I would contact them. They said I may even qualify to have part of the $600 covered by the patient assistance program. Good luck!
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The cost for me is $4000, and yes I have spoken to them. They are working with my BS and insurance to try to get it covered. It just makes no sense to me, it would save the insurance so much money it seems to me.
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It took about 6 months before Anthem finally paid for my oncotype test. They kept asking for more information. It was crazy, but they finally paid. I don't get it when the test could save them a great deal of $$ if you score low and don't have chemo.
rcca
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I am sorry, but I cannot let the posts by KansasKay go without comment.
KansasKay, I didn't read anything in this thread to suggest that anyone was questioning the decisions you made for yourself. So, there's no need to feel as if you have to defend yourself here (re: "I've already seen that another woman who decided that she did not want to "drink the Kool aid" was villified by many here.")
The problem comes when someone tries to insist that others ought to embrace her beliefs, especially when those beliefs run contrary to standard oncology practice (e.g., the NCCN Guidelines). I think what some of the other posts have challenged is the sense that you are extrapolating your choices to other people who might nor might not be in situations similar to yours.
You mentioned the following as factors in your aversion to chemo: you did not have the necessary support network in place; you could not find an oncologist you liked or trusted; you had previous heart damage from rheumatic fever (so certain chemo drugs -- Adriamycin, for instance -- would have been inappropriate for you); and your observations and experience left you “with a negative view” of chemo. I am sorry you've had such an unfortunate and unsatisfying experience. Many of us have the needed support network, though, and did find a skilled and compassionate oncologist; and had no underlying cardiac risks. Many of us have witnessed friends and relatives who went through traditional cancer treatment and are living well, many years later.
You said, "I feel like the comments here are those made by people who were afraid to admit the king had not clothes...". Well, you might think the emperor has no clothes; but please do not insist that others here should share your view and accept your conclusions. Your reference to the Hans Christian Andersen fable could be interpreted as an insult to those who do not agree with you. It implies that others here are not as well-informed as you are, and unlike you, do not recognize the truth.
You said you are "a scientist first in any medical decision" you make. I could not agree with you more, that our decisions should be based on careful evaluation of the available scientific evidence. You noted that you took "Master's level statistics courses along with courses in evaluating scientific research studies." I think you would be surprised at the level of educational background and professional training of the women on these BCO boards. Many of us have training similar to yours, and even more. So, please don't belittle our knowledge or motivation.
As a medical librarian with such strong research training, surely you realize that articles in "CURE" magazine do not hold the same weight among physicians as articles published in refereed medical journals. I am honestly surprised you would criticize an oncologist or surgeon who followed the NCCN Guidelines, which are developed by expert panels of oncologists after evaluation of the peer-reviewed medical literature on a subject. Instead, you would have our doctors base their treatment decisions on "other studies that are close to being accepted, such as the ones [you saw] in CURE magazine"? I am glad that's not the case with my oncology team, who practice in an NCI-designated Comprehensive Cancer Center. I feel fortunate that my oncologist and my breast surgeon served on the respective NCCN review panels in their practice areas during the year I was undergoing my active cancer treatment.
Oh, and you might want to talk to your (former?) husband, the veterinarian, about your comment that animals don't have to "go through what happens to humans in the name of treatment." A veterinarian could explain why pets being treated for cancer seldom vomit, rarely lose their hair, and generally do not suffer the severe side effects of treatment that might be seen in human cancer patients. The reason why animals don't "go through" what people experience is because veterinarians do not treat cancer as aggressively in their patients as it is treated in people. People with early-stage cancer are treated with "curative intent." Animals are treated with the goal of making them more comfortable and allowing their owners a few more months, or perhaps years, with their beloved pets. Five years in a woman's life is not very long. Five years in a dog's life is a good bit of time.
I know these things because I actually have considerable education and professional experience in those areas. I am also an information junkie, and, fortunately, I have easy access to the library of a major public research university. I also had 4 rounds of Taxotere & Cytoxan, and although it was not a happy time for me, it was nowhere near the picture of misery and death you are painting.
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Guess what - I'm still here two years latter, when gloom and doom was all that I had in store for me if I didn't go along with the falicy of "insurance" the term used by the oncologist here. There is no "insurance" and chemo should NEVER be presented to any patient, framed in that context. It is an option to use, provided the doctor has been truthful with you. Mine was NOT and that started it off very poorly. This same wonderful oncologist is an owner in the clinic where I had been getting mammograms for 3 years. They remodeled his office to a deluxe set of suites, possibly because he is an big revenue producing center for the clinic? At the same time, they delayed implimenting digital mammography in favor of cosmetic remodeling. The OB-GYN who had been ordering my mammograms sent me to the facility that was in their clinic, rather, as I found out later, to the center where I'm now going, 30 miles away, where they had digital mammography two years earlier. This was where she had been getting her mammograms. I had not had a call back or ever told there was ANY problem on a mammogram, so I wasn't worried and this same clinician had told me that she was recommending I stay on HRT at least one more year. There is no real family history, so I was going along fat, dumb and happy that I was doing what needed to be done by getting mammograms each year. No discussion of the benefits of digital mammograms, but obviously she thought there were some or she wouldn't have gone there for her own. To show up with a 1.3cm growth, of low grade, when they did convert to digital, makes me wonder what they missed the year before. For me to trust my health to the onocologist in this same clinic when there was a problem, really made me wonder about the profit motive in their practice. I guess I'm not allowed to give any frame of reference to say that I do understand many aspects of statistics. I negelected to say that I was also a pharmaceutical rep for 2 years so I know the games that are played with studies. You've taken your drugs and I hope they serve you well. I see that it does no good to go against the status quo because you are all right and none of the issues I raise are valid. What I actually meant is that we in veterinary medicine to not put animals through the horror I've seen in hospitals, watching my own father begging for death. Oh yes, that is the way I want to go out, with my loved ones last memories of me was hearing my screams. If you haven't seen misery and death then thankfully you haven't seen what I've seen. As I said, there isn't any discussion of alternatives, it's all just standard of care. Of course I know what the standard of care has been in many medical situations over the years. We have the right in this country to refuse any treatment that we are not comfortable with. I am not telling some to go to Mexico and have a coffee enema for cripes sakes. I'm saying that there is real science out there, questioning the use/over use of chemo and axillary node dissections. You're not the person who will pay if I'm wrong by buying into this too soon. I just want other women to know that they can ask questions and what they could be, because I still hear too much of a mentality of the doctor always knows best. The frequently refer to Dr. Susan Love because she raises some good issues and taught me how to frame the statistical quesitons so Dr. Draino was getting away with the general statement, "chemo reduces your risk by 30%." 30% of WHAT???? Those of you who just said, "take the chemo" didn't suggest that she frame the question to get some real answers. She apparently has doubts, how about helping her think it through, because maybe by asking some hard questions, she will get the information she needs to make a truly informed choice rather than just saying well, if the NCCN says that's what I need to do.... when maybe that is not the end all be all agency in her particular situation. It's pretty worthless to call this a discussion if it is only accepted if we all agree. Science has never progressed by accepting the accepted for any length of time.
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MPG I just want to say I am a teacher and although I was only able to take the one chemo treatment I still lost all my hair. I went to school with a hat on because I really hated the wig. The children have been great. I see kids from k-5th and all treat me just as they did before treatment. My hair is now about an inch long, and I have chosen to to natural, and the kids are great about it. I will add I wish I had been able to finish the treatments.
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Wow - Kansakay you are coming across as very defensive. Plenty of stage 1 women do not need chemo. Plenty do. Each of us have very individual cases - as much as the docs categorize us into stages and grades - as a scientist you would know that it is not nearly this simple.
My oncotype was 23 - middle ground - so I happily did chemo. 44 at diagnosis, and with two young kids and as others have posted, would be much happier with the knowledge that I did chemo as the gray oncotype category is not known at this time if chemo really helps. I really don't care. For me, I know I did all I could with the info. I had to decrease my risk of recurrence. I feel GREAT. LOOK GREAT! Had no side effects at this point and don't expect to have any. I did CMF which is very "popular" in my region. It was very easy for me to tolerate.
I was put into chemopause, and the pause stuck, so I am on femara with quarterly estrogen checks by my oncologist. With femara I am lucky that I don't have any noticeable side effects and have been on it for a year now. Like most of the women on here, I have no family history, and my only risk factor was having my first child at 32.
My point is, Kay - I think we all support your decision. For you this is what made sense. The sense I get from your posts on this thread is that you believe those of us who are stage I and did chemo "drank the Koolaid" because we are somehow less intelligent, or misinformed - or basing our decisions on FEAR not FACTS. This could not be farther from the truth - I am very informed and very intelligent, as I believe most of us are. I most often question authority, had multiple opinions and many doctors in my family that reviewed my case.
The question was - "If you were stage I, did you get chemo?????" and you can see many of us did, and many of us didn't- as I said,and you know it would be wrong to not use the oncotype to help us to make our decisions.
Hoping that all of you waiting for the oncotype get a low score!
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Hi MDG - yes I got chemo and have 1 more rad left (30 total). Due to my age, 43, and the recurrence rate of 3%, I elected to cure my cancer w/6 rounds of chemo (TC), radiation & anti-hormonal drugs (tbd). I looked at chemo as a really bad cleanse with an opportunity to see what my natural hair color really is! Praying for wisdom and peace in your decision.
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MDG, any news yet? Thinking of you!
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No news yet....they scheduled my surgery for 1/27. I am freaking out. It's like I want to get this over with but I don't want that day to come. I just cried after I got off the phone with the scheduler. I hate breast cancer - really hate it! I have another week of waiting for oncotype results. I am trying to encorporate relaxation and deep breathing into my daily routine so I can decompress. I am stressed, emotional and full of anxiety at this point! Will keep you updated.
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mdg
we all know how hard this is. I wanted to comment on your concern about your son. Kids actually take their cues from you. My kids were a little older at my dx and we waited to tell them anything until the lumpectomy---and it took a few weeks for the oncotype to come in..... then we told them about the chemo and what would happen---
Truth is, not much happened. I had my treatment (ACx4), was nauseous and tired for a couple of day, then went to work.... I did lay a little low on their school activities--but the whole thing took only 8 weeks. I got a human hair wig and my kids, although they knew I would be getting a wig, could not tell it was a wig when I came home with it on.
I think my h and I were honest with them, but we also kept them on their schedules, etc. which made a huge difference-- we just tried to keep things as normal as possible. My kids were 11 and 6--- and their view of cancer was entirely different--they both had classmates who had had cancer and had friends who had parents with cancer--- and they saw it is as completely curable... it was so very different from my childhood view of it when no one ever talked about it and the survival rate was very different.
Your son will take his cues from you.... I think the anticipation of chemo is far worse than the actual experience. And that is still (maybe) in the future--- first is the surgery-- have you decided on mastectomy or lumpectomy?
Your little guy will be fine...... and so will you.
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