Fellow "deletees"

Still way more charitable than I feel. I would describe the way I feel as borderline postal.

rosemary-b:  Your blessing concept is the same as "Pray for Your Enemies".  I was always told your enemies have no power over you if you pray for them.  Works for me! 

I have a feeling that the deleter has a personal vendetta against some of us.  Be very careful out there!

Is anybody in Pennsylvania (location of bc.org) where the local papers might do a story on THE DELETER?

Seriously, a lot of people who donate to this organization think their money goes to helping breast cancer patients, not abusing them.

They should not be asking for donations to a message board that you can not trust to be operated in a fair and equitable manner.  How is it fair that hateful comments about individuals, the President, and the first family are allowed to stand, but posts that argue against hatred are deleted?  Bullies of any kind should not be tolerated.

Barbara:  The page has been deleted.  I can't access it.  Can anyone else?  It is so hard to believe this crap has made the news in two cities and Melissa doesn't try harder to find the perpetrators?? This really is pathetic.  Maybe she and they think because we have bc we don't have the courage to fight back.  If we put our heads together, we can find a way to stop this.  We are strong enough to fight bc, by damn it, we CAN and WILL find a way to stop these sickos!!  Oh!  I am getting emotional again but you don't win a battle by just bitching about it.  It takes action!  I agree we all need to keep our personal info off the internet as much as possible.  If any belong to Facebook, be aware of what is on there.

Medigal, I found it when I googled. Edited the post out of respect to remove it and the name of the bullied person. She would surely not want to relive that again. And it a sad state of affairs that she ever had to deal with something that horrible.

Avatar is me with the wild horses in the background @our retreat. Barbara - Blog at http://PostBCJourney.blogspot.com
Diagnosis: 4/30/2010, IDC, 1cm, Stage Ib, Grade 2, 1/4 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-

State Cyberstalking, Cyberharassment, and Cyberbullying Laws:

http://www.ncsl.org/default.aspx?tabid=13495

I'm sorry that the thread got deleted.  It gave me an "adrenaline rush."  But, you cannot blame Melissa.  She just knows the thread got out of hand and that was that.  She warned us and she came back and probably got angry because she's had to do this over and over.  I know how unfair we all felt when this happened waaaayyyy back.  We do not know who the deleters are.

Blue, I hope your "pointed PM" does some good.

Maybe she's in the process of punishing the stalkers but we just don't know about it yet.

I'm just catching up. I posted a study from the San Antonio Breast Cancer Symposium on lymph node dissection a month ago and it was "deleted by the community."

I was banned for two weeks for mentioning it.

I wrote to the "community" saying how can you ban a study? I got no answer. Melissa has no accountability. She decides what we should talk about and how. Period.

It may be legal but it is not good for potential grant givers or donors to hear there is no free speech here.

Has anyone noticed that the You Say Yes, I Say No thread has been removed from the Moving On board?  I avoided it, but have to say I'm not sorry it's gone.  I haven't been on the one you are are discussing, but at least more than one thread was removed.

I do agree that deleting the threads that cause such are an easier way to be done with it.

I joined way, long ago and it's the only board I was really active on for a long time, still is, but I limit my reading and posting.  So you can imagine my shock when we had the first angry, out of line, posts.  It went on for a while and was removed as well.  Experience is a great teacher for a beginning board, which this was back in '02.  All the explainations in the world made no difference to those involved and pleading for sanity was ignored.  So, delete.  Easy.  And the boards were made a safer place for those who wanted to discuss bc and all the things about IT. 

Medicine and politics are intertwined -- in our states and in DC, but shouldn't be on this site, IMO.  Yes, we went to arms with the health ins. changes last spring, and I think that was correct, because it affected us so deeply--each of us, and our kids.  But otherwise, it should be about the gals who actually have little else on their minds other than bc and their journey thru it.  Again, IMO. 

When we have so much mental energy to expend on infighting and personal attacks, it sorta says we''re done with bc and really cannot hide behind that shield any longer.  There are so many places to take on "discussion" or "debate", let's find those, and if we want to hang out here to help newbies, Fine, but take the other "stuff" outside.

So, if you wish to flame me, please do so in a lady- like manner.  And if not, that's pretty good,too. 

Iodine, the 'you say goodbye' thread is the one we are lamenting.

Hello All, 

I am very sorry that this has upset many of you. Unfortunately, it had gotten quite nasty, and when I checked my private messages this morning, there were a number of requests to please end it

Although I completely agree that most of you were very informative, interested, and kind, there were too many hurtful posts "deleted by the community". There is always this danger that the emotions involved with politically oriented issues take over  --- and people are hurt along the way.

If you can start a thread, and keep it nice and fair, we are so pleased to support this. 

Please understand our dilemma. I am not trying to further hurt anyone, just protecting the safety and feelings of the overall community at large.

I welcome your constructive ideas! 

Many thanks, and our appologies,

Melissa and team 

there needs to be a button to show who was reporting the post so that people are accountable for their own actions. How hard would it be to program that?