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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited October 2010

    A BIG Hello to ALL!!

     I know it has been ages since I was here last but I do try to keep up with most of you on FB.

    Looks like life goes on after BC - whether we like it or not.  Hoping those that are struggling find some relief very soon.

    As for me - I'm doing good. We have had some financial issues (thank you cancer) but other then that UB & I are doing OK.  He had his port removed last week after almost 3 years so we are happy campers. Considering what allot of other people are going through (cancer or not) we are hanging in there.

    I wish nothing but the best for all of you.

    Aunty Em

  • Shirlann
    Shirlann Member Posts: 3,302
    edited October 2010
    Hi dear girls, my

     big news is that Saturday Walt and I celebrate 57 years married, WOW, even I am impressessed with that number.  We are both well, Walt much better since his latest angioplasty, and me, just the same.  But fat. 

    Oh, I saw the talk about Tylenol, half the people waiting for liver transplants are Tylenol abusers, people who chew them with no water and take too many.  Sigh, they should tell us this in a better way.

    Hope everyone is doing well.  Hugs and kisses, Shirlann

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited October 2010

    Congrats to you both Shirlann!!!!!\

    As for the Tylenol, I wasn't an 'abuser' I just had a doctor who didn't believe in pain meds and I had no choice. Sometimes I did chew them and swallow them dry as I couldn't even lift my head to take a sip of water. So sad in retrospect....poor me!

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited October 2010

    Congratulations Shirlann and Walt! I'm beyond impressed. Keep on feeling good and loving each other every day!

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited October 2010

    congrats Shirlann on 57 years. My parents celebrated 53 years this past May.

    My son took quite a bit of 800 mg tylenol while in the Navy, they wouldn't send him to the medical center when his knee started acting up, the medic on ship gave him the 800 tylenol and said to take them when his knee hurt. He doesn't take much meds now.

    Sheila 

  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited October 2010

    OMG Shirlann this is eerie................I have been thinking about you the past week or so wondering how you have been!!!  Thanks for checking in and CONGRATS on the 57 years - YOU GO GIRL!!!!

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited November 2010

    Hi sisters!!! I have been MIA....sorry!  Busy..as usual. I was on vacation in Arizona last week...so that was nice.

    I miss you ladies.  I get on FB...but not that much...I try and check in to see how everyone is doing. Just not enough time in the day.

    Shirlanne...so good to see you ....happy 57years!! Congrats! By the way...you are not fat!!

    Cathi....I am sorry you are having such a tough time. Please listen to Barbe...she gives us such great advice!!! Hugs Cathi....you have so much on your plate..please take some time for Cathi!!! xoxoxoxo

    Well...life is good here! Love is still strong and awesome!! I just keep reminding myself, how very blessed I am to have found Tom!!

    Say a little prayer for my daughter Danni.  She just had her heart broken in two. Poor thing...she is such a great girl...and has been so heartbroken 2 times.  She is planning on moving from Chicago to Denver. She still has yet to find a job in her field.  Denver has more possiblities. So...a prayer for a job in denver, and healing of her heart would be greatly appreciated.

    Val.............great to see you here....miss you girl!!

    Love to all....back to work.

    xoxo

    Lisa

  • Makratz
    Makratz Member Posts: 12,678
    edited November 2010

    Hello to many old friends and to some new.  I wanted to share with you that Cheryl Ann Coykendall Knapp is in the hospital and having a hard time.  Her foob has been pink and hot and they are doing tests on her.  SHe is frightening and asked me to pass this info along.  Please keep her in your prayers.  SInce her hospital does not support java, she cannot get on BCO.  She is able to comment on FB.  If you are FB friends with her, please go and offer your support.

    XOXO

    Linda

  • rockwood
    rockwood Member Posts: 4
    edited November 2010

    Sueps,

     I'm so sorry you are in this situation.  I feel like we are travelling much the same path.  I was diagnosed yesterday and awaiting a consult with the surgeon next week.  All the women on my mother's side have died from BC.  I'm 47, and a single mom....and I am terrified.

    Most terrifying is the pain in my rib cage and knee, although every twinge and ache seems like a death sentence.  The nurse brushed it off as hormonal.  I'm feeling like a hypochondriac. 

     I know it is the most difficult thing in the world, but try to be positive and kind to yourself.  Remind yourself that there is a lot of success in the treatment of this disease and you are a strong....but understandably frightened ....woman.  My prayers are with you.  I hope you are able to rest.

    Rockwood

  • MNK
    MNK Member Posts: 13
    edited November 2010

    I'm new here but I'll add my prayers for Cheryl Ann.

  • juli0212
    juli0212 Member Posts: 1,415
    edited November 2010

    Oh gosh, thoughts go out to all of you newly diagnosed and re-diagnosed.  Good luck with treatments/surgeries that may be imminent.  WHAT can one say....just so sorry.  :(  BC SUX

    ~juli

  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited November 2010

    crap, does it ever end?! Thanks for the info Linda.

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited November 2010

    Thanks for the info Linda...I will contact her on FB....although I am not on their very often either.

    How are you doing Linda?? Long time!!

    xoxo

    Lisa

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2010

    Such quiet. That's good news if it means we are all moving on from bootface and doing well. Not so good if some of us are struggling but not sharing. Myself, bootface is at bay, dancing with NED. The rest of life is a challenge. Connor is here for a few weeks. Needs $5500 of dental work at age four. GRRRRR

    It's coming up on two years since my son Cailen died. The family has wanted to set up a memorial fund for him, but the right one did't strike us. Finally one has. Smile Train.  Thus the Cailen Bruce Campbell Memorial Fund has been born. I wanted to share the information with my BC family. I'm only posting it in this thread, and just once so that you can see it. If anyone wants to be represented, I would love seeing your name on the list. $5 is plenty. It's the emotianal support that matters. It's an amazing charity that runs lean and mean. If this is inappropriate, let me know and I will delete it.

    Anniversary holidays are the pitsCry

    http://www.smiletrain.org/site/TR?pxfid=7370&fr_id=1030&pg=fund&et=-uXSSzurEQSmqXn4qmaLzg..&s_tafId=1061 

    Copy and paste the entire link to access the site.

    Send a few hugs, okay???

    Judie

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited November 2010

    Judie, how the heck can a 4 year old need that much in dental work???? Those teeth won't be with him much longer!!!

    What a wonderful memorial for your son. I never did know how he passed...is it too personal to ask?

    I'm one who struggles but doesn't share...that hit a note!

    {{{{ Judie }}}}

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited November 2010

    AWEEEEEEEEEEEEE Judie  XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX LOVE YOU.

    Unlike Barbe I am one who  struggles  and does share,  a big blatt A$$ I guess,  but not today,  no time no energy.

    Just wanted to pop in and say hi and I love you all. 

    If I don't make it back beffore HAPPY THANKSGIVING TO ALL.

    xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited November 2010

    Happy Thanksgiving to all of my dear sisters here.  I think of all of you every week, even though I don't post.

    Judie....that is wonderful that you finally found a charitable cause in your son's name. I can't believe it's been 2 yrs already.  And NO...I do not think it is inappropriate here...we are your friends.

    Love to all!

    xoxo

    Lisa

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2010

    Happy Stuffing Day to one and all!!!

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited November 2010

    I hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving!  Mine was pretty darned horrible, but I won't get into that right now. 

    Judie, I think it's wonderful that you've found this charity to which people can donate in Cai's name.  I can't believe he's been gone for almost two years.  I hope your remembering him is more joyful than painful these days.  I can't even imagine......God Bless you, Judie!

    Love and hugs to all,

    Karen

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2010

    Thank you so much, Karen. Mine was also a tough Thanksgiving, but I made it a good one. Family issues can be real joy killers if you allow it. I decided to have a great day and did, by gum!!! The day after, Mei asked Connor what he would like for dinner. He wanted grandma's turkey leg. Hmmm...do I look like a turkey? Fun having him around. He goes in Tuesday AM for two hours of dental work under general. Good thoughts and prayers welcome.

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited November 2010

    Oh you BET he's in my prayers for Tuesday!!!

    Did you spend Thanksgiving alone with Mei and Connor and miss your family dinner? I wonder if that made it harder or easier on the pain you would have felt for your son....

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited November 2010

    Hi girls, look like it's been real quiet around here,  Judie love the pictures of Conner on FB,  And prayers for his surgery and a pain free speedy healing process for the little cutie.

    Our Thanksgiving was a good as it could be with the TENSION in the air,  Ed made a wonderful meal, Jaclyn and her family were here,  and Amanda and SIL were granted a joint visit for the day - she even brought the pies,  what I thought was as good a day as it could have been CONSIDERING,  I was told today  was not,  and we are RUDE .  Anyway won't bore you all,  to much to tell,  just trying to hang on,  hang in.  Things just don't seem to get better and now I am starting to question the case workers,  out and out contempt and defiance of court orders is met with a NAUGHTY BOY  -  YOUR IN TIME OUT FOR 10 MINUTES kind of attitude.  I am frustrated.  But I love you all.  Sending good prayers for everyone.

    XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited November 2010

    sweet and gentle hugs to everyone...

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited November 2010

    Oh Cathi, what a bunch of crap! So be rude. They can just suck it up and blow it out their asses!!!!

    Your ex probably paid for them to move down to you!!! Ever wonder if he knew about all their shit?

    Give them to me for ONE week and I'll send you back a couple of humans....honestly.

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited November 2010

    Oh Barbe, my EX is the one who gave them their first try of the crack,  now of coarse they were adults CAN JUST SAY NO, but that idiot (I am beinging kind) offered it.  But Karma, he was arrested several moths ago for trafficing (prescription meds) he was just sentenced to 5 years probation because of his health (kidney failure) but he will screw up.  Funny thing is he NEVER did drugs when we were married, a big mean drunk,  started all the drug stuff after I left.  My friend Blaire kinda said the same thing you did about the rude,  but really I am not being rude,  for not as sure as friendly as I was in the past - they have a lot to prove,  UGH - OH WELL I HAVE BRAIN MUSH, and to many ters these days,  gonna be a hard Christmas I am afraid.

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited December 2010

    Hang in there, Cathi.  Sounds like they deserve a little "rude"!!  Don't let them ruin your Christmas.  You deserve a wonderful holiday!  My Thanksgiving was ruined, so I'm determined to have the best Christmas ever!!

    Love and hugs,

    Karen

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2010

    Sounds like a round of tough turkeys this year! We shall overcome, girls!!! I'm determined to have the best Christmas...possible. I've learned that one must roll with the punches and make lemonade out of the lemons. Any more cliches anyone? LOL Yes, Cathi, it will be a hard Christmas AND it will be a good one for both of us and our sweet grandchildren. I'm already overwhelmed preparing to have one 4-year-old for two months. I don't even want to contemplate your plate...lol But you have my support always.

    Connor did well with his dental work under general. Sadly, they could not save the four lower molars...decay all the way through and into the bone. There is a small possibility that the permanent teeth will be affected. Time will tell. He now has no molars on the bottom. He's mad and want his teeth back!!! But no more toothaches, and, hopefully a mother who will be vigilant with diet and toothbrushing.

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited December 2010

    Karen so sorry about your Thanksgivings,  as mom's and woman we want and try so hard sometimes, maybe I think our expectations of  THE PERFECT holiday are too high. All our decorations are up thanks to Ed as always, but I just don't know where or how we will find the time for all the rest,  we are cutting WAY back this year on gifts - we have too,  and that part doesn't really bother me,  it's all the family tension and stress -

    We are starting to see some behavior changes in Landen and not for the good of him I am afraid,  mom and dad are each supposed to spend an evening doing his bedtime routine,  that went well the first time they each did it,  I think in a 2  year olds eyes it was like he was getting candy,  now he is refusing any part of it,  last night it was dads turn,  he became so upset, crying, saying NO ME-NA will do it, ME-MA will take me night-night- ,  did the same thing a few nights ago with DD,  just this week he has started the crying before leaving for school, has not done that in months, Ed has been taking them both in ,  Landen was just fine,  now he cries, says ME NO WANT TO GO WITH PA-PA - ME-NA JUST HOLD ME. Even  simple things like getting him a drink,  food,  changing his diaper,  ME-NA must do it.  I try and do what I am SUPPOSED TO DO and encourage him to let mo or dad,  but he gets so upset,  I am a little annoyed with DCF, they tell you all these things you MUST DO for possible reunification,  but give you NO support or help in how to do them so the kids don't hurt.  I was completely wrong,  I thought Ella would be the hard one for them,  thinking oh Landen he's 2  he will just love having mom and dad around more,  while he is happy to play with them,  it's seems like he has no faith/trust in them for the other stuff, if that makes sense. And Landen is a VERY routined child ,  any disruption to his routines he does not do well emotionally-  OH it's breaking my heart to watch him regress and become upset again.

  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited December 2010

    Cathi - this is breaking my heart! I use to work in social service area..DCF was always frustrating to work with..lots of ideas and theories but no practical help or information..no reality coming from their world! There was a book I found esp helpful...Raising your spirited child... I know the circumstances are a bit different but there might be a tidbit or two to help within your house.

    Everything is going to work out ok, I really believe that, but I also know it probably won't be easy and for that I am sorry. Know you.ve got LOTS of love and help and support here.

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited December 2010

    Thanks Elaine,  I will check out the book,  I have been doing a ton of google searches,  trying every phrase I can think of that goes with DCF's REUNIFICATION plan, have found some helpful articles,   For the most part I have been please with DCF, just lately with all the CHANGES they are asking for with the kids and seeing mom and dad,  and no real END to this in sight,  it seems like they are tthrowing too much at Landen espically in a short time, I know the agency is way under staffed and our case the children are safe with us is far far from the worst,   so I guess it's up to Ed and I to read and research the best way to handle all this for the kiddies and hope DD * SIL will see this as WHATS BEST FOR LANDEN & ELLA,  of coarse they just want the KIDS BACK and I think proably the normal thought for a parent is well LETS JUST DO IT, but that can have devestating effects I am reading, so much to think about.

    Anyway Elaine  XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Your always in my THOUGHTS/PRAYERS dear friend.

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