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MANY MANY MANY PRAYERS FOR YOU AND THE ENTIRE FAMILY  -  If you wanna chat send me a message on FB, xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

Lisa so happy for you-  I am hearing possibly MR Right has finally find his way to you - WONDERFUL.

Ladies I had a very rude awakening  several hours ago,  I almost lost a HUGE HUGE CLIENT because of stupid errors  on my part , because of nothing more than pure fatique,  it is an attorney in CA and their largest client is The Disney Corp,  I handle so much stuff for them,  and they finally called me on it tonight,  oh man was I eating crow,   so I have realized I MUST stop dragging my heels and get Ella in daycare,  case worker has already filed the paper work,  I just have to get into the office and the daycare and firm it all up - and I shall next week,  I have been trying to work until all hours of the night,  even though I am restless and can't sleep,  I am still not capable of performing quality work at 2 & 3 in the AM. I have several West Coast clients that require I work with them up until 9PM EST,  so that in itself can be trying with 2 little ones in the house,  gosh working from home with kids isn't as easy as it sounds.  So it's off to bed I shall try and go -   HOPING YOU ALL HAVE A WONDERFUL FRIDAY -  XOXOXOXOXOXOXO

Hi Lisa - you sound on top of the world lassie. Really glad things are working out ok. Give your big  guy a XXX from me. Or send him over for a personal xxx.

Cathi, my anger just boils about what you are going through - as you might gather! The father of your wee yins needs to put his hands into his FECING pockets and reimburse you. Have you told them about the mets???? They need to know my wee love.

Love to all of you

Nettie xxx

Dink, I will be praying for you as well. This week has been crazy at work, my boss was on vacation and on Monday, the primary production server went down and I had to help coordinate the repair with the IT man from a sister company. The server was down for a day and a half, that time I had to deal with the users in the company asking when will it be fixed. Then when it came up, I had to catch up my job with 4 days (weekend) of work to do. That kept me too busy to post and when I got home, I was too tired to post but I was reading.

This coming week is my last week of work, I signed the severance agreement this week that spells out what benefits I will get. I really need to get with a financial advisor to manage my 401k and retirement money that I can withdraw at this time. I was able to fill out the paperwork and get the medical insurance set up with my husband's company (almost twice the cost of my plan and very high deductible) without any lapse in coverage.

Sheila

Cathi,  I can't believe how much our kids sound alike.  Madison came to me about a week ago and said she was going to have to move back to MS because her mom said so.  KaLee is back with Randy and Madison doesn't want to  be around him  Th CPS case has been dropped so we aren't their guardians any more.  I asked KaLee about it and she said she was planning on moving in January because she will save some money between now and then.  She also said that his mom wouldnt interfere and had no problems keeping the kids.  I told her I just didn't want them everyday as we were their grandparents and not their parents.  I got a call from KaLee today wanting to bring the kids over this morning so I could take them to daycare since Randy is "not in exas and around the kids."  I was so mad.  I told her that she would have to have them here in time to catch the bus at daycare by 6:50.  Randy showed u with the kids at 7:10.  She had the nerve to be upset with me but I stood my ground and told her this was lying and she is teaching her children to lie.  I also told her I would not cover for her and Randy and if anything started up again I was going back to CPS and pressing charges against them as well as CPS because they never did their job.  They never followed up with us, they never held them accountable for classes, they never once checked on the children.  he worker said it was really just "excessive punishment,:  Any way, we are watching things very closely.  s long as I dont say anything the kidss can practically live with us. 

I'm here for you to, if you ever need anything.  I think I'm going on a trip to Orlando, FL for business December 6 weekend, are you near Disney World?  I'm thinking of going to Paris with my mom and aunt next year but I have to wait to see what is going on with the kids.  You will see, now that all of this has happened, it effects you and Ed in that you are scarred to go anywhere in case smething happens and you need to be there for the kids.  It's like you are now the guardian forever and only you can take care of the kids.  I hope eventually that changes but for now, I will never go far for long.

I will be seeing a man at church who is a financial advisor next week about converting my 401K and retirement plan to something that will actually grow.

I started the task of cleaning my office today. I had already gone through and gotten rid of things that I no longer needed. While going through my desk drawers, I found the notebook that I started writing my questions down in 3 yrs ago when I was diagnosed. I can't bring myself to throw that notebook away. My sister agreed to take one of the two potted plants at the office to her house, the plants were gifts when I had my surgery and I have amazed myself by keeping them alive for 3 years, not just kept alive but thriving. She has made me promise to help her take care of them so she won't kill them. One lady at my office said that if I didn't have any place to keep them at home, she would take them off my hands . . . I don't think so! This is really a bittersweet week at the office. We are having lunch delivered tomorrow from Fats Cafe.

Sheila

Hi ladies,here's what's been happening. As the summer began, I started househunting in my area, looking for an affordable 2-bedroom condo or small house. I found one that was a tad overpriced, put a bid in about 30,000 lower than the asking price, and after counter and recounter offers we were still 20,000 apart. I declined to make another offer as the apartment needed quite a bit of work (2 bths and kitchen), and the final price would only be 7,000 lower than a recent sale of a well-maintained and upgraded apartment in the same development.

I didn't even have a chance to feel badly about it when my company announced a restructuring, and suddenly there was a chance at a promotion. I applied and I've had three rounds of interviews, with today's interviews being the most important. I termed them the interviews of my life.

As you know, when you move up the ladder, there are fewer positions as the hierarchy in most companies is based on a pyramid. Well, the designers in my company had no hierarchy at all (or very  little), and so very little to no chance of promotion. With the restructuring, we now had a design director who was creating two associate design directors to help her manage the several offices across the US. I'm in the running for one of those positions! Even if I don't get a spot, the visibiity the interview process has afforded me is tremendous. Who wouldn't love a half an hour of one-on-one time with some of the most important people in their company!

So, with that, I put a hold on house hunting as a job offer could involve relocation (one position would need to be based in Boston). Not much is happening with the places I've looked at locally...most are still available...so if I end up staying in my current position, I haven't lost out on anything in the housing market. And if I get the spot that would mean staying in the NY area, I would feel OK about looking at a wider area and perhaps a wider price range (haven't discussed salary, yet).

The suspense and anxiety is thrilling in a really good way.

WOW Nancy that is awesome -  YOU GO GIRL -

Shelia you are a wonderful woman I just know all will work out for you- XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

Leesa I hate to say this but your DD  - like mine is not putting the well being of her children first,  it's really hard being in the middle of CHILDREN/GRANDCHILDREN, but the little ones are the real victims in all this,  they need & deserve protection - and you are apparently the one to provide that -  it hurts to RAT your DD out but,  I have done it with all this and I will continue to do so if in anyway I suspect bad behavior from Amanda or SIL. Ella is starting daycare on Tuesday - I am feeling kinda sad about that,  I know it is the right thing for her and I,  and Landen and Ed,  I have a feeling I will cry when I leave her though. She is such a GOOD BABY, always happy,  she crawls all over the place now and is even starting to pull herself up into a standing position on furniture and in her crib.  I haven't yet told Amanda about her going to daycare,  she had enough of a fit when we started Landen.  Our case worker was here yesturday,  she said if/when they get the children back,  for at least 6/mo they MUST keep them in daycare 5 days a week - as a second set of eyes  -  AT THEIR EXPENSE.  - 

Well anyway hope everyone has a GREAT HOLIDAY WEEKEND. 

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

AWE Leesa you are right Ed had to about pull me out of the room,   we both went day one to get the RYTHM down of getting 2 children up,  dressed fed,  etc,  etc,  of coarse I had a LIST  A MILE LONG of what she does,  what she likes,  but everyone there knows me  now and how I was with Landen when he first started.  She had a wonderful first 2 days,  Ed and I are taking turns with the pick up and drop off,  he was mostly taking and picking up Landen but it's a bit more with Ella,   so we had to invest in extra car seats but were able to get some nice ones at the consignment shop all saftey approved,  when he drops off he goes on into the lot,  so that would have left me with out seats.  WOW 2  kids - 4  seats - .  Landen has to see an ENT next Wednesday,  might have seen on FB he's been batteling cold after cold for a couple months he also had broncitis in Aprill,  his Ped's DR ordered n X-ray his adnoids and tonsils are huge,  thinking they may have to come out,  he also shows signs of sleep apena from the enlargement and he snores like a man always has,  another symptom , so we shall see,  everyone used to always get their toonsils out,  Amanda has always had huge tonsils as well,  I begged back in 84ish for them to be removed and they said didn't do that anymore,  she would get sick and could hardly rake in liquids they were so large, just like Landen does now,  and I guess hers still are huge.  Boy I sure am getting a full grandmom work out these months. Benn having some real bad back and hip pain,  haven't really been taking pain meds,  trying to do it with Tylenol PM, I think with not lifting our 22 pound butterball all day I will see some relief. But I do still worry about her in daycare.

HAPPY WEEK TO ALL - XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

Liza glad to hear the dog was found.

Since I am out of work, I am trying to made a daily routine, watch GMA, clean for 1 hour, watch Dr Oz, clean an hour, sit down and sew an hour, get the picture. I am also limitting my internet time so I will get some work done and some of my internet time is job searching.

Sheila

Leesa so HAPPY Lexie came home safe and sound -   as far as the bone mets,  it's kind of a PAIN MANAGEMENT thing at the onset, I should have started Zometa a few months ago,  just to help with bone strength and structure -etc,  rads could be an option at this point for pain control,  but don't have the time for that right now,  I think that the hours of non-lifting will eventually help to some degree. I hope,  today I spent 2 hours at the WIC office,  a great program ,  sure will help with Formula for the next few months,  but had to take both children and we were there almost 2 hours -  they were great the first hour and a half - then they were just OVER IT , and wanted to leave.

Shelia I love to daily schedule for right now,  but you surley will run out of cleaning to do soon. But if your ever in my neck of the woods - LOL

Leesa I think everyone is just busy with life -  not that we aren't I just like to check in every few days at least - in case someone needs a HUG  -  And of coarse I get  a lot of venting done here.  I just to scroll through a lot of threads, but don't do that anymore.

SLEEP TIGHT ALL -  XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

Hi Guys,

I miss everyone too!

Leesa, thank god  you found the pup. I was almost in a straightjacket when Big Gray went missing! Hope your errant kids are behaving themselves. You and Cathi are heros, be under no illusion!

I was at physio on Monday and there is little they can do. I was also at the At Risk of Lymphodema course which was fascinating!

Nanci - I am so very, very pleased for you! You must be very well thought of within your group. My fingers, and everything else is throughly crossed for you love. Do keep us in the loop.

On a sinilar vein,Shiela I am sure you will find something soon. You are hard working, able and committed! When all this madness happened last year, I was almost demented with all this time on my hands, yet all the restrictions and constrictions. Have you thought of classes? Try to enjoy some free time too!

Wee Amy is back in hospital, but will be out for her Christening on Sunday, albeit it might be just on a day pass. Poor wee mite is so open to chest infections. Her mum can't even visit her as she has a bad cold. She was baptised early on, but her Chrisening had to be postponed due to health problems. The family will be gathering again and we are so looking forward to being together on a happy occasion! Just wish the wee yin was in full health. Prayers gratefully recieved my dear lassies. Lilly Rose is thriving - so alert, They are comng up tonight.

God bless you all, hugs from Glasgow!

Nets xxxxx 

Hi Guys,

I miss everyone too!

Leesa, thank god  you found the pup. I was almost in a straightjacket when Big Gray went missing! Hope your errant kids are behaving themselves. You and Cathi are heros, be under no illusion!

I was at physio on Monday and there is little they can do. I was also at the At Risk of Lymphodema course which was fascinating!

Nanci - I am so very, very pleased for you! You must be very well thought of within your group. My fingers, and everything else is throughly crossed for you love. Do keep us in the loop.

On a sinilar vein,Shiela I am sure you will find something soon. You are hard working, able and committed! When all this madness happened last year, I was almost demented with all this time on my hands, yet all the restrictions and constrictions. Have you thought of classes? Try to enjoy some free time too!

Wee Amy is back in hospital, but will be out for her Christening on Sunday, albeit it might be just on a day pass. Poor wee mite is so open to chest infections. Her mum can't even visit her as she has a bad cold. She was baptised early on, but her Chrisening had to be postponed due to health problems. The family will be gathering again and we are so looking forward to being together on a happy occasion! Just wish the wee yin was in full health. Prayers gratefully recieved my dear lassies. Lilly Rose is thriving - so alert, They are comng up tonight.

God bless you all, hugs from Glasgow!

Nets xxxxx 

Oh Nettie sending so many prayers for  Amy and all those who LOVE HER.

Prayers also for your dad Shelia  - COPD is not a easy thing at all, my mom suffered with that as well as all the other major health issues she had.

Made it through Ella's first week of daycare,  she has done wonderful,  and her teachers just love her,  she is always so happy, a VERY GOOD BABY for sure. Ed and I are still getting adjusted to getting 2 children up and ready for daycare,  takes a bit of planning,  but I normally do a lot of evening prep,  WOW taking care of children in your 20's is far easier than in your 50's.  Thank you all for encouraging daycare,  I know it will be good for Ella and me and Ed as well.

HAPPY WEEKEND TO ALL.  XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

Cathi, I'm so glad you're geting some relief with daycare for both the kids. Yes, it may be hectic in the morning, but then you can relax with your morning coffee for half an hour before tackling work uninterrupted and with your full attention. And Leesa...you have had your hands full for years. My hat's off to both you ladies.

Sheila, I've never had to deal with COPD, but based on all the commercials for medications I've seen for it, it seems to be a condition that has a lot of attention these days. I hope your dad finds something that brings him relief.

Nettie...my heart goes out to wee Amy. Such a rough start to her life. I hope it all is soon behind her and she has no more health problems.

No word on my potential new job. I've been in and out on jury duty this past week, and it's extending into next week. I usually don't mind doing my civic duty, but there is an important meeting on Monday that I will miss because the judge is such a slow poke. What took all day on Wednesday has taken about 1/2 a day in past courts I've been in, and then the courts were closed for two days for Rosh Hoshanna. If the judge didn't drag his feet, I might have had a chance to speak and get dismissed from the case, but now it looks like I won't get the chance until Monday, with no time to get into the city in time for the meeting.

The only bright side is that I will get to sleep late since court is only ten minutes away...not much of a bright side but when you're handed lemons, make lemonade.

Oh, and if I don't say anything about it on FB, it's because my new boss friended me and she'll have a lot to say about the promotion. So I'm being circumspect about all things work-related.

Hi sueps, I feel what you're going through.  Cancer is rampant in my family.  My Mom got breast cancer at 49, and I got breast cancer at 49.  Both of her sisters.  Lots of cousins, including a male cousin with breast cancer.  My Dad had stomach cancer and died in his 30s and my brother got pancreatic cancer and died in his 40s.  So when I got it, geez, my mind was crazy with fear and despair.  But the BRCA test was negative!!!  My sister took the BRCA test and it was negative!!  So my doctors were aggressive with it -- I chose a lumpectomy, internal radiation, and chemo.  My onc doctor didn't even do the onco-type test... he was determined to kill every cancer cell that was left in my body with chemo.   You'll make it through this.  I took Xanax while going through treatment b/c I was so anxious and nervous.  Stay with us and post as often as you can.  It helps. - Theresa