THEY HAVE NO IDEA!!

Where is that Mar?  So glad your mom is home and you both are doing okay.  bon, you are a great daughter.  xo

Bon, so glad to hear your Mum is on the mend.  My Mum is 92 now and although she is pretty healthy and still living alone and driving! (I don't think that is a good idea but she won't hear any of it) even a cold knocks her around quite badly now - your Mum must be one tough lady to cope with all that she has been through in the last week. Fingers crossed she gets back to full health quickly. 

That beach looks like Waihi Beach, NZ, where I walked with my friend and our dogs today! So good for the soul to walk along a beach on a lovely day with dogs running around you.

What holiday are you celebrating this weekend? It is Father's Day here in NZ.

somanywomen...Sounds like you had a wonderful time. I bet it's nice to live within an easy drive of where you grew up so that you can get together with old friends when and if you'd like. And to have the inlet and the ocean as your backdrop...not too shabby!

Mom is doing fairly well at home, thanks to the 'cooking' skills of my step-Dad. He is trying ti take charge in the kitchen...with Mom barking orders from the sidelines. It's a hoot. I am so incredibly grateful to that man. He is a peach of a guy. To anyone out there thinking that maybe it's too late to ever find a partner for the rest of your life, especially after breast cancer, my folks are proof that it can happen and that both parties thrive. When they were married nearly 24 years ago my friends voted Mom as the poster child for "Its never too late".  

somanywomen - that seems so funny to me - Labour Day in September and Father's Day in June! Our Labour Day is at the end of October. We don't have Thanksgiving or 4th July (sounds like you all have a great time over there) - our national day on 6 Feb is called, not New Zealand Day as you would expect, but Waitangi day (it commemorates the signing of the Treaty of Waitangi which is the agreement between Maori chiefs and the English to co-exist amicably).  Unfortunately what should be a national bonding day is usually anything but with activists usually disrupting the official celebrations and the rest of us being saddened by what happens - many of us have little respect for the celebration anymore.  There are many who would like to return to a more inclusive of all races and cultures 'New Zealand' day celebration but it will be a long time coming I think.

Why aren't you allowed to take your dogs on the beach?  Some of our popular beaches have dog exclusion over the summer but you can pretty much take your dog to any beach in the winter.  Dogs are not allowed in our national parks without a permit and some farm parks exclude dogs because they have sheep free to control the grass.

Bon - a good man is worth more than his weight in gold.  I am forever grateful to my DHs first wife for telling him she didn't want him anymore - I have definitely been the winner for the past 24 years!  So glad to hear your Mum is 'barking orders' - she must be feeling a lot better!

Aww, Mary, that is really nice!!

Bon, hope you got that walk on the beach sweetie.  Flash - nope ... Mr. D not making the journey. We have diff ideas of vacation! he doesn't like travel, I love it!!!

hugs orchidgal   this website is a lifesaver for so many of us, giving us the opportunity to talk freely with people who get it.  we don't want pity, we don't want to be coddled, we just want to be understood, and to be heard.  thank you bc.org !!

orchidgal that was pretty insensitive of your exercise instructor right after you told her of your surgery.  People don't even think.  And that is why we come here.  It is sad that the membership keeps growing.  But the old seasoned vets seem to stay around and give the new recruits the support they need.    We all make the decision that we think is best for us but who really knows?  I figure it's all a crap shoot anyway.

NO ONE - and I mean NO ONE - can understand the fears and stress that comes with cancer unless they have had it.  

They can be supportive and kind and help with things, but they don't truly get it.

Ladies............I could not have said it better, and that is exactly how I feel....From that first phone call to "come back for a redo".........to right now when I have to make a decision about radiation, and hormone meds................How about when you get your pathology back, and you find out your tumor was smaller.........no node involvement...............good margins.............no chemo...............and some as-hole says to you............Your lucky.......................No I'm not you freak..............I may be better off then someone with a larger tumor.......node involvement, poor margins, and has to get Chemo................but I still have cancer nut job, and we have no guarantees that it isn't coming back somewhere else......I'm just plain tired of people............I don't want to be the center of attention, but pleeeeeeeeeeeeease don't act like I had root canal.............It is true people think once you have the surery, path report, treatments, that your fine, and completely safe..........Gone, gone, never to return............Unless you walk the walk, pleasssssse do not try to "talk the talk".............YOU HAVE NO IDEA.....................but my BC friends on this website do, and thank God for you all.

Allison...........Thank God they found your cancer............I don't care how they have to find breast cancer in younger women, or what it cost to find it.........dense breasts is an excuse, it won't show well at such a young age, it is unusual for something that young to get breast cancer, well I say bullsh-t to that theory...................What they are saying is don't waste the money on the young cause for everyone we find, there will be 20 that will be negative..............Sorry bucko, but my theory is..........find the one, very early, no matter what type of test, or scan it takes, and don't worry about the 20 who you think you "wasted money on doing the testing.........

I just hope you do well Allison.  I am 76, so I am one of the so called "lucky ones, haha), who will probably die before the cancer has a chance to recur........................Oh yea, I got that line too from several people...................."Well, I'm sure something else will take you before the cancer has a chance to come back"..........................I am pleased with my results after surgery, and pathology, yes I am, but at my age don't dare tell me how lucky I am that I am going to go through 33 radiation treatments, and on a hormone that  can literally destroy you, while it is trying to help you..................Love your picture......take care, and hugs to you

Hugs DuckyB1

"Something will probably take you before the cancer" Oh God, please, no, no, no, someone actually said this???? People do not get it, that's just it and they never will. This site is a God send and your words were kind and comforting, you are one of the amazing women here who got me through this horrible disease that noone who (doesn't have it) could understand.

 To Allison, love the screenname.  I'm in my 30s too,  it just sucks, and it's unfair, been through chemo. I got the works. I read something on this board that made sense. The woman said "I got it, I took care of it and now I will do my best to NOT take life for granted and see things with ALOT more clarity. It's just something bad that happened to me, a lot of bad things happen to us in life, I'm going to move forward and try to keep showing up." I just loved her outlook.

 GOD BLESS ALL THE WOMEN ON THIS BOARD!!!!!!! I know I would have been lost, and so much more afraid, you all gave me hope. We all need Hope! Have a goodnight everyone!