I have cancer...It is sinking in...uuuggghhh...

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You can do this and we can help you through.  Stay in touch with all of us!

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WOW is right...there is nothing about it that isn't mind boggling, but YES...you can do it! It's a whirlwind at first, but once you're into the rhythm of your treatment schedule, it will FLY by. Just keep telling yourself; there is a light at the end of the tunnel! Be gentle with yourself, rest when you need too, stay hydrated, and come here often for support. We're here for you! 

Hi sohard, you have been on these boards for a while now, long enough to come to understand that anything is possible if you are prepared to put in the effort.  Yes, the effort needed to get through tx is huge but you also have to remember ..... you are not alone.......and you don't have to do this alone. WE are HERE. We are here to support you when you are feeling lonely, we are here to advise you when you have questions but no answers, we are here to give you comfort because you feel so bad both physically and emotionally, we are here to lift your spirits when they begin to flag, we are here, we are here. Already the strength of the women of BCO is standing beside you and we will never leave, not while you have need of us......YOU CAN DO THIS !!!! Remember just ask and we will be here. Love n hugs to sohard. You can do this.  chrissyb

Sending you big, big hugs and prayers- Like all the others said, you can do it (((((((hugs)))))))))

I know how you feel sohardbnme, I was diagnosed June 30th, and yes I went through the WOW WOW feeling too I didn,t know whether to cry, scream, or start throwing things.Well I am a newbie at this, but just wanted to let you know too, you are not alone.

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i will be starting chemo in august too ! we will stick together and get through this !! hugs to you !!

Dear sohard,  I remember being told that the biopsy was positive for cancer and those were the only one's I heard.  I am coming up on my year anniversary now and frequently don't even think of the cancer.  I am now because I am coming up on my one year mammo, US and Mri.  I read on one post some great advice, Don't think about next month, next week, all you have to do is show up for today's treatment. You've come on a great site for info, advice, emotional support, and extremely knowlegabel women.  I still use it almost every day, and stay in contact via email and phone calla with one women I met here.  You are not alone, we are all here for you  Karen

Hi! My name is Kelly and I to have cancer! I will be having a double mastectomy w/ lymph node dissection, and port place also this Thur. the 29th of July. I am 39 yrs. old. I too am scared.... to say the least. I will be starting chemo at the end of Aug. I think is the plan. I only hear some of what the Doc. tell me.  So much goes in one ear and out the other...... Good Luck! Please kept me posted for this is so new to me as well. Thanks!

Kelly

I was diagnosed Dec 21st bilateral mastectomy supposing to be nipple sparing Dec 29th. I was in shock like all of us. I had many many complications and lost both nipples, infections both incisions, and an incision that broke open. 6.5 weeks of two very strong IV antibiotics. But now now 7 months later I have both tissue expanders still in and my exchange surgery scheduled for October 1st.  A long drawn out process but moving foward.   My husband found a wonderful article about the grieving stages you go through after loosing a breast. It was so on target.  The emotions are raw and intense. There is fear, sadness, anger, depression.  Not all at the same time but then sometimes all at the same time. Sometimes more intense than others. I think the key is that we realize these emotions are normal for this life changing experience. It is so important to be gentle with ourselves and realize we are ok if we cry or get angry. The hard part for me was to realize people who said they were going to be there through the bad and good were really only there if I said everything was fine. The moment I wasn't the "perfect" patient and voiced my fear, anger, sadness dismay at changed body they were gone or telling me I shouldn't feel that way. So be selective about who you choose to share with. Make sure they are going to really be there for you.  It is hard but we are able somehow to get through it. My husband and I brought a notebook where we wrote down our questions and their answers and comments because it was too hard to remember it all.  Like all life challenges and grieving times ......... time helps. I hope you will find the support you need and the answers you seek.