Prayers, Blessings & Wishes for Saint
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jenni_ca
Thanks... I'd like that...
I'm burned up because the recording says you can place an order 24/7, but you can't... the answering service couldn't even take ANY orders... AND even when I called during normal business hours, NO ONE knew about this deal... I even talked to a manager, and he was going to check into it, and call back... but he NEVER called me back.
Harley
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Saint's family. I will send prayers up throughout this day. There are no words sometimes, but prayers will be sent.
HUGS to you all.
Shiny
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Today is Saint's funeral and her final rest.
Please send extra prayers of strength and comfort to her family & friends that must pass this last gauntlet of letting her go.
I heard from her DH, Greg, this morning that the visitation yesterday was filled with blessings. He also talked to the florist and was told many conversations that came from those of you who chose to participate in the single pink rose tradition. The florist, who is a friend of their family said that they had never seen anything like this before, in all of their years of business. It touched the employees as they worked to get it all organized.
I know that others are choosing to send a monetary gift in support of Pat's dream to see that Molly make it to Scotland at the end of the summer. The need is real. The opportunity great. Several have asked 'where we stand' on that project and I will speak to Greg as the week unfolds to get a better grasp of what is still needed.
Thank you to all who were able to navigate into the chat-room/memorial/story sharing experience last night. I know that many of you were with us in spirit, as holiday & family responsibilities kept you away. It was a time of "healing" for me personally, to hear such great camraderie around the efforts that Pat took to reach out & offer encouragement and comfort. She had such a delightfully 'wicked' sense of humor and those insights were worth a chuckle.
We had a moment of communal silence, there were many toasts, candles were lit.
We gain much from supporting one another and that was obvious last night.
I learned this morning, that Pat's very dear local friend, Kelly, who she spoke of with affection and admiration, also Stage IV, followed Pat to heaven on Saturday. They were each other's rock and comfort. They had weekly outtings for coffee that took the better part of the day. They were both animal lovers. Kelly had a house of cats. The entire week that Pat was with us in Door County on their RV get-away, we searched for an appropriate 'cat' gift for Kelly.
Pat is quite persnickity in her gift giving. We must have gone into 2 dozen gift shops, but narry the 'appropriate' gift was found. The morning they went home, our neighbors were having their annual garage and antique sale. There was a collection of 11 little porcelein cats in playful repose..... some chasing balls or tangled in yarn. I bought the whole lot and shipped them to Pat who gave them with glee to Kelly. So I feel as tho I got to know a smidge of Kelly's story.
The two of them had a vision to create a Stage IV/Cancer Cares Creativity support group thru their church. Alas, they weren't able to make-it-happen, as they both were in decline.
So imagine Saint welcoming Kelly to heaven in the same week. They are no doubt searching out the best coffee haunts together, exploring the pearlie gates welcome committee's coupons with their usual flair.
Knowing this timing is yet more affirmation for the goodness of how our lives are lived.How there are threads that are unmistakeably woven together. All is well.
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Strength and courage.
Strength and courage.
Strength and courage.
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Over 70 flowers..wow..how cool is that. We are one hell of a bunch...no place in the world like bc.org...it always brings me to tears!!! Love ya, Saint!
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My deepest sympathies to the Wilson family.....Saint was a wonderful woman that will be missed by so many....she made a real difference. Soar with the angels our dear Saint.
Here is a poem that I think is very appropriate for Saint.
Loss of Mother Poem
Now that I am gone,
remember me with smiles and laughter.
And if you need to cry,
cry with your brother or sister
who walks in grief beside you.
And when you need me,
put your arms around anyone
and give to them what you need to give to me.
There are so many who need so much.
I want to leave you something --
something much better than words or sounds.
Look for me in the people I've known
or helped in some special way.
Let me live in your heart
as well as in your mind.
You can love me most
by letting your love reach out to our loved ones,
by embracing them and living in their love.
Love does not die, people do.
So, when all that's left of me is love,
give me away as best you can.
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I'm afraid that last poem is directly paraphrased from "Epitaph" by Merritt Malloy - one that was posted by "LaughJofully" here just before Pat passed. (I suppose the question is: Who plagiarized from whom?) Anyway - I sent the Malloy version to Greg, Luke and Molly, as well as to Fr. Gary, who wil be officiating today. He said he would incorporate it into the service. Thanks, Linda!
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((((((((((In Loving Memory Of Saint))))))))
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Just got the grandkidlets down for a nap...played outside with them all morning, whispering prayers for Molly, Luke and Greg and all the others that were touched on earth by Saint...
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I've been praying for all of Saint's Family.
I chanced to look at her husband's facebook page and it said widowed in his marital status as if some horrid streak of fate had crossed his path. oh, that made me cry that he remembered to update his page. .. it's so unfair.
dam disease.
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Here's a picture of one of the pink rose arrangements that graced Saint's final farewell.
Molly just posted this on her FB wall & asked me to share with everyone.
Greg also asked that I thank all the troops here at BCO & beyond that got involved in this project.
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Strength and courage.
Strength and courage.
Strength and courage.
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(copied from the Stage IV thread)
I've taken the liberty of cutting & pasting Saint's sister Gail's post from the other thread, as suggested by Alpal above:
"As I get ready for Saint's funeral today I want to thank all of you who were her friends and support over the years. She was truly an incredible person and we will miss her terribly. If only you could have heard that laugh! She was a warrior and I will always be awed by her will and determination. She beat the crap out of cancer for 9 years and now she has won!
Words can't express how I felt when I saw all those pink roses. That you guys would do that is amazing. I told everyone at the visitation about it and took them to see her roses. You are all amazing women so she was in good company!
She was my little sister and I will miss her forever. Thank you again."
Gail, is Saint's sister that lives just down the road a little bit. Saint would often tell me the exploits of the two of them in the kitchen. Gail is quite an extra-ordinary cook. She called our Saint every morning to make certain everything was off to a good start. She cooked Pat's favorite dishes in the hopes of luring her to home-cooked goodies, when the going was tough.
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Dear Saint's family,
I hope the you had the send off you wished for for your Saint (mum, wife,sister) and that you were comforted by the presence I am sure of so many loving supporters, friends and family.
Thinking of you and wishing you well, always.
I hope today onwards with each day you feel more strenght and more healing coming through to lift you up in your life.
Hugs and prayers for you.
Shiny
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How very kind of Saints family to share with us during their time of grief. It means a lot to me to see those flowers and hear the stories, thank you. Faith hope you're hanging in there as well as can be expected right now. Hugs to all of you.
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Thinking of you all. Praying for peace and comfort for you.
((((((((((Saint's family))))))))))
((((((((((Faith))))))))))
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For us, she was "Patty"...
That was until sometime in middle school when she decided it should be spelled "Patti" - and, as I recall, she always dotted the last "i" with a little girl circle...but then, when she hit Beloit, she became known as "Pat" (eventually even pronounced à la Midwest - with the fleeat "a" in the middle - always sounded like "Peeat" to our NY ears - LOL!) and we were all absolutely forbidden to call her anything else...
One of my first memories of her in our childhood was when we were not more than 6 or 7 (she and I were only 11 mos. apart) and we adopted the neighborhood stray tomcat - a huge orange tiger, who spent all of his nights prowling and fighting with all of the other cats in the area - Our Dad named him, albeit inadvertently, when he found him in our garage at night (Pat had made a kind of "nest" for him secretly when it got cold outside - She had been feeding him for days, but Daddy was adamant about NEVER letting that stray into the house with his children...) He came into the house and said "That damned cat is in there and in the dark, I only saw his eyes lighting up - looks just like a punkin'" - Well that was it, Dad finally had to give in and "Punkin" became our (most famous) house pet. Daddy still said that we shouldn't try to handle him too much. He was, after all, a wild thing, who wasn't used to people. The next thing I remember is Patty, walking down the street with her doll's carriage - and the looks I realized all the neighbors gave her when they peered inside. She had taken that huge old, wild thing, put a little white cotton doll's bonnet over his ears and stuffed him into that carriage and was taking him for a walk! BTW, she also fed him by squirting milk into his mouth out of a plastic doll's baby bottle. He was completely docile when she wanted to play with him. He never hurt any of us in any way, no matter how we played with him. He was around for at least another 10 years, and always Pat's favorite. I think that animals felt her love and simply trusted her.
...and then there were the flowers: I don't know how many of you can remember this, but when we were in school there was a tradition when another girl had a birthday. We would make "corsages" out of ribbons and sweets for the birthday girl to wear on her dress all day at school. It became a kind of fierce competition in middle school. You could tell how popular a girl was by how covered with corsages and candy she was on her birthday...Anyway, one Spring day before school, Pat realized that she had forgotten to prepare the corsage for her best friend the night before - and told Mom she couldn't leave without one. Mom said she should go into the garden, pick some flowers and create a "real" corsage. Well, you CANNOT imagine the time and energy she put into that thing - little roses and greens and ribbons - I remember because she took so much time that I was certain we would both be late for school. It became the hit of her friend's birthday that year and ever after, Patty had to conjur up another flower corsage for each of her friends on their birthdays. (Oh yeah, and WE all got them too - they were always the MOST special!) By the time she was 14, she was spending every afternoon as an apprentice in a local flower shop and there was simply no going back after that. She was a natural at her art. Her greatest talent was all that love - it began with animals and flowers and spread to everyone and everything else in her life...Wow - now that I've started, there are so many more stories I could tell - I will have to go on tomorrow - if you are interested - it helps on this end, believe me!
All the best for all of you,
Maura
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please go on Maura.
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Yes, I would love to hear more
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Maura, what wonderful stories! You have a gift for telling them, that's for sure! I'd love to hear more, and especially if it makes you feel good to tell them. Love to you and Pat's entire family -- which I guess is pretty much the whole world -- this is bringing tears to my eyes, and Saint certainly deserves them!
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Maura, I would love to hear more stories too. Thank you so much for thinking of us as much as you do.
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It's lovely to read stories about someone we hold so dear.
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Maura thanks for the stories. Would love to hear more too.
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Same here Maura,
I enjoyed that one above, just picturing "Saint" with he rpushchair and her cat, etc, you paint beautiful pictures with your memories of your dear beautiful sister. Sleep well.
Best wishes to you and the whole family. xx
Shiny
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Maura, trust me ... as long as you're willing to share with us, we'll be here waiting eagerly for more pieces of the woman we knew as Saint. The cat in the cradle story is priceless!! I can see where she'd do the same thing today too, ya know? Hugs to all family who may come here, and of course to my bco sistahs.
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Yes, Maura, more please. How I wish I had a sister!
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Maura...looking forward to more stories. Precious! (((((((((((((Hugs to Saint's family))))))))))
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OK - Back for the next instalment:
How about "School Days"?
I guess you could say that Pat's infamous NOT being able to keep a secret as a child was, in some ways, the reason I ended up becoming a flutist. We went to a public elementary school on Long Island, where we were offered group lessons and rentals on the instrument of our choice. String players could start at 8, wind players at 9. Our eldest sister Gail had played both cello AND flute, so I had experienced both very young and I still remember the first time she brought her flute home from school and opened the case. I KNEW it was what I wanted as soon as I was 9! Pat chose the violin and I also remember thinking that there was just too much scratching that went on with that thing before kids got good at it ( No offence, Pat!). I had really sensitive ears and wanted to make progress quickly - so the flute was for me! Long story - short: When it came time for my grade to register for our chosen instruments, there were SO MANY little girls who wanted the flute (which was, of course, later the story of my life...), that the band teacher began calling parents, asking them to change their kids' minds, so that other instruments would also be covered.One evening our Mom told me that Mr. Stein had said that my ears were so good that he didn't want to lose me, but that he had suggested that I play the clarinet instead... at which point, I burst into tears and told the entire family that if I couldn't play the flute, I would NEVER play any other instrument - certainly NOT the horrible clarinet! Mom basically then told me I was gonna be out of luck and that she was sorry. Pat took the whole thing in, marched into school the next day, walked up to the band teacher and said that if Maura couldn't play the flute, she wasn't going to play ANYTHING...and that I had cried bitterly (always one with a sense of the dramatic, our Patty!) Next thing my mother and I knew, my application for flute lessons had been accepted and I was handed my rental instrument. I guess people had a hard time refusing her anything even then! Neither my mother nor I knew why it worked out that way, but I spent the next 40 yrs. as a flute player - Thanks, Pat!
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Aw wow ... can't you just picture her doing that guys? Guess it gave you a teeny bit of pressure to get good at it too huh Maura? No skipping practice for you after all that!! Love it ... love it.
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Well I only have memories of Las Vegas and phone calls. We had one conversation and then she called me at suppertime in tears. She wanted to know if I knew anything about some test that had come in higher and she was scared. I barely knew her (it was before Vegas) and I didnt know thing one about the test. So I talked to her and I dont know what I said but eventually she stopped crying and felt a little better. We chatted right through their dinner (I think the family didnt mind if she was getting some support) and mine. Two days later a package arrived and in it was one of the WillowTree Angels = Dream Angel. The address gave her away. I called her back and she said the test was no big deal and she had no clue why she fell to pieces. I asked her about the angel... yes she sent it = because it was Dream and that was half my screen name. She had no clue that I collect angels - I have over 80 of them. We laughed and talked for 4 hours about everything, our childhoods, our teen years and what we thought about children. She told me then that they were going to make a box out of their headboard so that she and gregg could rest in peace in the bed they shared for 30 odd years. I thought it was the most loving couple thing I had ever heard.
End of ramble.
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Such beautiful stories full of love spirit and support, and joy and determination and sister and sistah hood. thank you Maura and dream for sharing. As I knew it would be, it is still a joy to share in Saint's life, it dosn't end here, all the good is perpetuated and growing and inspiring.
I am off after tomorrow for a week, but I will be back to share in the precious reminiscing that is "giving" still of Saint. Maura, thank you, it is lovely to read what you share. God bless you.
Dream, your post is so telling of Saint's spirit and special ways.
Sweet dreams to you all, and God's comfort be with you.
Shiny
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loving these stories . . .
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