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caaclark
caaclark Member Posts: 936
edited June 2014 in Stage III Breast Cancer

Can someone help me put into words why the following bothers me:  I got on facebook today and one of my "friends" posted that her 12 year old daughter is shaving her head on March 13th in solidarity to children who have cancer.  I know it is a fundraiser but for some reason it irritates me and I can't quite figure out why.  It's not a locks of love thing, it's just a shave your head to raise money thing.  I don't know if I am just off base but it just annoys me and I don't know why.  Am I the only one who feels this way?  Maybe I am just weird.

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  • msmpatty
    msmpatty Member Posts: 818
    edited February 2010

    Carol,

    I agree!   A hair dresser friend is also having her head shaved next month for a BC fund raiser and I find it sort of noble, but also irritating.   Maybe because they have a choice?   It's one thing to go around bald because you choose to, quite another to lose your hair battling this disease.  Or maybe I resent it because they'll be viewed as heroic, while we just look sick and pathetic?  Anyway..I, for one, don't think you are weird!

    Patty

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  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 8,458
    edited February 2010

    Well, I don't mind the shaving for a fundraiser - it's a bit weird, true, but it does raise funds.

    The ones I absolutely do not understand are the ones who get together as a group and shave their heads in "solidarity" with a friend who has cancer. What good does that do?

    Leah

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  • Diana63
    Diana63 Member Posts: 773
    edited February 2010

    I think for me it trivializes Breast Cancer somehow, I feel the same way about the pink stuff. Its like they think hey we'll slap some pink on this, go for a run or shave our heads. Now don't you feel better. I swear if one more person tells me they ran for me, I will say you had better run for yourself, you could be next.

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  • apple
    apple Member Posts: 7,799
    edited February 2010

    there was a 2nd grade teacher at my school who got breast cancer (she's doing great).. some of the boys in her class buzzed their hair.. then shaved their heads.. soon 3/4 of the boys in the school were bald.. we thought it was awesome.   it made the papers and we were so proud of them.

    i certainly don't mean to trivialize your discomfort.  Some people really are empathetic... (on the other hand, some people just want attention).

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  • KerryMac
    KerryMac Member Posts: 3,529
    edited February 2010

    Diana - that is a great line - "you should run for yourself, could be you next"

    Also I have found that everyone has to tell me now when they have gone for their mammogram. 

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  • Diana63
    Diana63 Member Posts: 773
    edited February 2010
    I am waiting for someone to ask me to check a lump on there boob Laughing I have been asked to look at a rash.
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  • Mamita49
    Mamita49 Member Posts: 538
    edited February 2010

    Carol,

    I soooooooo understand and fully agree with you. Totally,------------ and NO----- you are not weird, you are very, very normal.

    Carol 

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  • cherneski
    cherneski Member Posts: 726
    edited February 2010

    I am a bit off with this too.  I would not let my 13 y/o daughter shave her head for any reason.  Dye it, cut it, do whatever just dont shave it.  Sorry I think it is strange.  I also have a lot of problems with raising money for the cure anymore.  I have a very twisted view on all of it.  IDK

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