SO HOW DO YOU FEEL??

Barb- I know how you feel. Mine is always You look good and How are you doing. I am so sick of answering those questions too.

 I know they think they should be asking us these questions but do they REALLY want to know or are they just being polite?

Hopefully someone will come up with that witty comeback for us............

Oh my gosh!  I totally understand!!!  How about the "How are you doing" question while looking at your chest?  Stupid doesn't begin to describe the audacity.  And it's WOMEN that do this!!! 

Hi there Barb!

Yeah, I've been getting the "you look awesome" "you look like a superstar" thing lately.  I sure as hell don't feel like it!  And even with makeup on I still feel very VERY BALD!!!!  I don't care if I have a wig on (which I don't wear very often)! 

I guess really you can't blame people though, I mean what are they going to say---"you look like s&#t"!  No, I don't think so.  But it does get wearing at times when you don't believe it yourself!

Hope all is well with you!  Any cute foster Danes lately?????

Sharon

Seems like there are 3 categories of people who ask these questions.

First - "How are you doing" who are really thinking "I know I have to ask this question to be polite because this person is sick but I really, really don't want them to to answer the question. I don't want to know anything about this."

Second - "How are you doing" who are really thinking "I sure hope they tell the straight skinny on how bad it all is so I can pass on to everyone else that I talked to the sick person and she confided to me how terrible it all is.  Boy I'm glad my life is better than hers!"

Then there's the last group who really want to know and want to give support anyway they can.  I was surprised by a co-worker who not only asked how I was doing but then told me "You're my hero."  My response back was blunt - "Give me a break.  You don't mean that!".  But we started talking and he really did mean it.  This was coming from a guy who has met his goal of running a marathon in every state.  At times that meant running two marathons in a long weekend.  Now he picks his marathons and does the 80 and 100 mile races.  And he admires me?  Turns out he admires all the women going through this.  His Dad died of cancer without telling anybody or even trying to fight it.  So he looks at what we are going through and appreciates how we face it and fight it for our families. 

I've always felt good and have this cute little "gooood"  ready to pop out.  I don't offer any more info and the conversation usually ends after they tell me how cute my hair is.  I was bald for a long time.. like 18 months.

I think that there are those who really care and those that want the inside scoop.  The ones that want the inside scoop I either answer with a short "I'm fine"  or tell them straight up "I don't let my mind go to place you're asking about". The ones that care I'll give them the truth - having a good day, bad day, blah, blah, blah.  I get tired of it.............. and I sometimes wish they would just leave me alone, but I guess it's human nature.  Then.......... there are those who have to keep reminding me of my short hair, curls and how it's growing in almost every day - those are the ones that are really bugging me.  Yesterday it seemed everyone had to tell me the hair on the crown of my head was slightly sticking up.  Really???? Like I didn't know it..... There isn't much I can do with it so I leave it alone.  But.......... I haven't said anything mean yet because I know they mean well. 

I seriously just get sick of hearing myself complain.  I think that's what I'm going to start telling people.  When they ask I just say fine, and then for some reason it seems that everyone asks but how do you really feel.  In my situation, although I have been known to be a bit naive sometimes, I think the people who ask really are sincere so I wouldn't want to say something mean or even just to shut them up.  I think they'd understand though if I just said I'm doing ok, I just really am sick of hearing myself complain about it.

And Kerry - the last 3 posts I have read from you on diff threads have made me really LOL:)  I really would be ecstatic if my hair came in with pink polka dots!!!    That would be awesome!

ha ha... i just came back from the petstore.. had to buy some bugs.

one of my favorite gals there (they're all gay and flirt with me something fierce) asked how i was doing.. she said i had a poodle cut.. with the fondest intentions.

I keep getting the "oh you look great" line.  Should I REALLY believe that????  I mean I'm NOT walking around bald, and I HAVE lost some weight, but I don't think I look great.  Still just stubble on my head---have one more Taxol left.  When did you girls start getting yours back???

Sharon

Grrrr, I went to the gas station the other day and the idiot said, "why did you cut your hair so short?" - I told him, I didn't want to, I'm going through chemotherapy and it all fell out - he just smiled and nodded, he probably didn't understand me.  How rude!

Not very well!  He was Indian.  I was, why ask if when I tell you, you're not really going to understand anyways???