I just found out my girlfriend has breast cancer

Hi, Tony. How long has she been your girlfriend? Why would she keep this from you, and yet get a pick ribbon tattoo, which is going to be pretty noticeable to a boyfriend?

I think communication in your relationship needs a little work.

If you truly suspect she is facing breast cancer, or at least had a very close brush/scare with it, then just come out and ask her.

Ask her what she needs you to do, that you want to help and support her and that her health is very important to you.

If she insists she doesn't have it or didn't have a scare with it, then there's not much you can do.

I can't speak for other women with breast cancer, or who have had a recent brush with it, but for me, it would be more important to hear my loved one say they care and they are there to listen to whatever I want to say, even if it means I rant and kick and yell and cry. 

Hey Tony,

I saw you're post and honestly I know exactly what you are going through! My girlfriend and I have been going out for a little over a year now and she just recently found out that she has Breast Cancer. She didn't tell me right away, but I noticed some hints including her becoming distant from me. Cancer is a battle, a battle fought not only by the person with the big C, but also with those who care about them, especially his or her significant other. You want to help them as much as you can and you constantly ask yourself "what else can you do to help ease the situation?" I have come to the point that you can only comfort and be there for he or she. My girlfriend, soon to be fiancee, and I planned to get married later this year and now this life threatening illness has come between us. She is going through Chemotherapy now and is on medication. She has those moments where she just breaks down and starts doubting everything we have planned in our future and then she doubts our relationship. I know that she is going through the one of the toughest things in life to face, but it deeply hurts me when she says things like, "I think we should breakup, Im not a good girlfriend, I treat you badly, or You shouldn't have to go through this." Honestly, I want to be honest with her and tell her that yes it hurts me, but I am not sure how she would react so I reassure her that she is more than an amazing girlfriend to me, which truthfully she is! I love her to death and cannot even begin to imagine what I would with my life if she is not a part of it.