BRACA 1

Hello thankyou for reading this, My name is joules i have a massive family history, i lost my mum aged 44  21 years ago, my aunty 46 20 years ago and my cousin aged 40 1 year ago all with ovarian cancer.  From my cousin it was confirmed that we have the BRACA1 gene my sister is positive and i am negative, my discussion is surrounding my sister whom has two daughters both awaiting the results/ counselling for BRACA1.  MY sister recently had a double masectomy and a rebuild which went horribly wrong and is  currently awaiting a diep flap.  Pior to my cousins death my sister and i both had radical surgery hysterectomy and omphectomy as a preventative measure, 

Following my sisters recent operation she had a scan  in preparation for the diep flap to ascertain where all the veins etc were, from this we have been informed that she has a very suspicious lump in her lung and is awaiting a pet scan, doctors etc are all under the impression that this is very suspicious.  I appreciate i am not the one who is affected ubnlike most of you  and i hop i dont sound patronising but i would dearly love to hear from people in a similar situation and how and what you are all experiencing and any positive information.  I am 44 and a psychiatric nurse (not very good with personal/physical things ) but feel like shit, why is thee not a magic wand, thanks again for reading this, many thanks joules x