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Okay butting in here to AGREE completely.  It almost seems like they can't wait to tell you their sad stories.  I think I had 5 people tell me about someone they know who died of BC when I was diagnosed. 

I had that happen too-well, not with a banker but at my daughters' school.  I was there to see a show and newly bald when someone came over to tell me about their mother in law who "died after a long painful battle with breast cancer."  HUH!???  I rarely cried during all of the treatment crap but when I was at my daughter's concert (she was in Kindergarten) I completely lost it.

I laugh about it now but I feel for you.  It is hard to get past those comments.  You will, however, learn to deal with them in your own way.  All that being said, the banker is an idiot-stupid, stupid people!

How about this one?  I had a big holiday party when I finished treatment 2 years ago.  Lots of food, family and friends, It was lovely.  Then I'm talking to my sister-in-law and her husband.  He starts talking about a neighbor who died of cancer.  "It was bad, painful, well you know how it is when you die of cancer."  My sister-in-law had a horrified look on her face, I just got up and walked away. 

What a ninny. Next time, please just do the bank drive-thru, OK?  LOL  Don't worry, I'm sure someone will tell him later what a complete nincompoop he is. But "nincompoop" is too long to put on his trophy...so we'll just stick with "idiot"

People like to bring out their "stories" so they can show you how much they can "relate" to you and your breast cancer, but it really is not the reaction we are looking for, is it?   On a good day, I know they are just inept and don't know what else to say.  On a bad day, I just cut 'em off mid-sentence, and say something like, "I'm all cancered out, what else can we talk about?"

Yep, Gitane, you are so right. No one can relate unless they have walked the walk, so to speak.