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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2009

    Mel, mouse said it perfectly. You are amazing.

    Thanksgiving is the anniversary of events surrounding two family tragedies. Needless to say, it's a very difficult one that we'd all like to just skip. Thanksgiving has always been our favorite family holiday...very close, fun, warm, nurturing. It can never be the same again. No one wanted to plan or attend anything. My youngest son, home from college, committed to being with me. We were going to have a plate of food delivered by the church across the street and just hang out. Then today one of his college friends who lives in Seattle invited us to join her family. How sweet! Then one of my daughters sent a message that she and her husband were cooking dinner and anyone who felt like it should come. Low key, just hanging out with people who love each other. So I guess we are reluctantly "doing" Thanksgiving, and I have a sneaking suspicion that it will be okay. Things do work out. 

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited November 2009

    Mel, I understand about your DS's girlfriend, but if that's what she wants, then they should move apart. She would be using him if she stays in a relationship while she "looks around to see if there is anything better"! JMHO

    So glad your SO is doing better, but I must have missed something about his leg! What the heck happened?

    Hugs to all...

  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited November 2009

    Mel - good to see you... sounds like a lot going on...all good though. How are YOU doing?

  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited November 2009

    md_mouse , Thank you! I'm so glad to have meant you here too! I hope you have a great and peaceful holiday.xxxx

    Oh Judie. Go ahead , kick me! I'm sorry , I forgot it was this time of year for you and your family. After my dad passed away , it was hard and still can be a bitter-sweet time with holidays and special occasion days. Its never the same. But we have to go on. And thank God for the precious memories I have of days pass with my dad. Love you Judie. I'm be holding you close in my thoughts.xxxx

    Hi Barbe , thanks for your input. I voiced somewhat of the same to my son when we talked. But I must let him make his own decisions , no matter if I'm screaming inside , "NO, DON'T DO THAT!lol

    No Barbe , you didn't miss it , probably forgot since all this started back in July with his surgery then! He was in ICU , on a ventilator for almost two weeks. When they took him off and woke him, he had been awake for about two days , when a nurse in training dropped , what he said was the tv/bed remote on his leg. He hadn't even gotten out of bed yet. Anyway , no one would acknowledge it. So for four days he laid there , no treatment. Finally they called in a bone doc and he ordered an x-ray. His leg by then was purple , swelled and had a two inch abrasion on it. They said it was not broken , but he could not walk on it. To painful. So he went to rehab and was there for about a month. Came home using a walker. Home nurses came to change the dressings. It still wasn't healing. So I started taking him to our family doc , cause his "surgeon" was useless. Our doc tried all he could , and finally said he believes its not healing due to bad circulation , and wanted him to go back to the vas. surgeon. I said , no way ,not him and not that hospital! So we got a new doc, new hospital. He found out he still had a blockage. They had to redo the other surgeons previous work. So that more or less brings you up to date!

    Did you get your scans done yet? Hope it all turns out good for you. xxxx

  • honeygirl
    honeygirl Member Posts: 1,718
    edited November 2009

    Hi Elaine! Yes , mostly all good. Lots to give thanks for on turkey day! I'm still "plugged up" in the ears. Its so frustrating. But if thats the worst thing to happen , I'll take it.lol How are you doing? Sounds like you are gonna have a very busy week. But lots of fun too. xxxx

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited November 2009

    Had my bone scan on Thursday. They took 20 minutes on my hips, 20 minutes on the rest of my body and then wanted another 15 minutes on my hips again. I pray to God that they find what is causing me so much pain as two Demerol aren't cutting it anymore!

    Thanks for asking.

  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited November 2009

    Barbe, I am praying the scans will find the cause of the pain and it will be an easy fix!

    Mel, luckily we will be at my Mothers for the holiday and everyone is really good about letting me rest etc. I'll probably sleep most of Friday Undecided. Hoping the ears are "opened" soon... thats not much fun. Hugs and happy holidays.

  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited November 2009

    Barb, here;s praying that the hip pain is "just" arthritis" (I have it so I can attest to the level of pain).

    Judie, the most "wonderful" Thanksgiving I've ever had started out as an underplanned day. Moving from my home (after a casual start with the parade and some turkey) to a friend's for another course on a simple invitation (less than a progressive dinner but more than just dropping in?) provided a mix of people that excited the mind in ways that I will always cherish. Do it and be open to the things that you find there. I'm a firm believer that no invitation is totally random...and the reason why is something we need to experience, even if it is nothing exciting...just a peaceful and relaxing day allowing us to reflect on all that we a truly thankful for.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2009

    Mel, don't you dare kick yourself!!! Kick NancyD, she's the one who asked what everyone is doing Laughing. Then kick me, because I answered! Tongue out. Actually, I'm beginning to think we are going to pull it off after all. We're late getting started, but it is feeling right. We're a strong family. But now I have to bake a zillion of my famous rolls and bake pies. I thought I was safe! Sigh...

    I'm sorry about the ears. That must be miserable. I've never had it that bad, but when I have blocked eustachean tubes, big yawns followed by powerful swallows gradually clears them for me. But then I have never had chronic ear or sinus problems.

    Barbe, my hand is there. Squeeze it as hard as you need to through fear, pain, relief, joy. It's tough...I was a labor and delivery nurse for many, many years. Anything breakable is long gone!

    Varsity Nordic, my son's college improv team won their bracket yesterday in the NW College Improv competition. Finals tonight. If they win, it's off to the nationals in Chicago for the rest of the team. It will be held in Feb and my son will be in London for his semester abroad but will be rooting for the team. 

    Whitman's improv team normally doesn't compete. They just do shows for fun at the school. Like everyone, Whitman has had to cut costs, and they decided to disband the ski team, Varsity Nordic, because it was very small and expensive. In solidarity, the previously un-named improv group took on the name so that the Whitman ski team could live on.  Gotta love them!

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2009

    Nancy, you posted while I was still composing. What wonderful words and images. Thank you. I will  keep them in my heart on Thursday. Truly.

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited November 2009
    Thanksgiving Friends Thanksgiving is a time
    For reviewing what we treasure,
    The people we hold dear,
    Who give us so much pleasure. Without you as my friends,
    Life would be a bore;
    Having you in my life
    Is what I'm thankful for. By Joanna Fuchs - BUT FROM ME TO ALL OF YOU -XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO
  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited November 2009

    We're all thankful for you as well, Cathi.  I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time right now.  My prayers are with you and your family.

    Love and hugs,

    Karen

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited November 2009

    Mel, your post made me sit up and listen. I'm so sorry you have such bad problems with your ears. It must be painful and annoying. I so hope you feel better soon. My eldest son had tubes put in his ears when he was about 5 because of repeated middle ear infections. I think it's a bit of a controversial operation for children now but it did seem to help him a lot. I hope you can find a good treatment and get relief soon. I was also one who didn't know or missed that news about your S/O. I'm so glad he is now getting better and is receiving better treatment from a much better hospital and doctor. That first hospital and that nurse! That was dreadful! I hope he is back to much better health soon. I think your son sounds like a wonderful person (I'm not at all surprised - look as his sweet mother). Your restraint in offering advice is admirable. I hope the girl he loves either realises what a gem she has or moves on so that someone else can appreciate and love him.

    xxx

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited November 2009

    Judie - I can only imagine how you feel. Sad memories around special celebration times can be so heartbreaking. I remember how I used to feel at Christmas when my kids used to always be with their father and I seemed to be bombarded with ads featuring happy families. That used to hurt but, looking back, it was comparatively low down on the scale of sadness. I hope you find a few soothing and loving moments during this time. oxox

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited November 2009

    Barbe - I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Hope your pain is due to something relatively minor and treatable. xxx

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited November 2009

    Cathi - hugs and prayers for you and your daughters and the sweet Ella. Thank you for being here and you (and so many others - all of you here!) are inspirational. xox

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited November 2009

    Elaine, I hope you have a restful and pampered Thanksgiving. oxo

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited November 2009

    Nancy - you deserve this holiday. Don't work too hard! Hope you enjoy your "long sleep ins"! What a great idea to bring in the caterers. xxx

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited November 2009

    I've been away again, renovating (it never ends!). Thankfully, the heatwave has passed and now it's quite chilly - loving it!

    Love to everyone, including those I haven't mentioned. xxx

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited November 2009

    Hi everyone and happy thanksgiving. This week I am taking vacation with my hubby and only able to get on my son's computer while he is at school. We are waiting for the sun to come out and dry out the leaves so we can rake them this week. 

    I had a wonderful lunch on Friday with Mouse. she was driving through NC and I met her in Statesville.

    Sheila

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited November 2009

    IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII''''''''MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM BAAAAAAAAAAAACKKKKKKKKKKKK!

    Hi Sisters!!

    I got back from Sunny AZ on Sunday evening...been working ever since! haha. That's ok...I had lots of R&R in AZ!! My sister is the BEST!! She treated me to a full body massage. We got pedi's...we slept in, went running, out to eat...I layed by the pool....it was sooooooooooo restfull!  Thanks for asking!

    I am working now...so I skimmed the posts. I just wanted to say hello to all of you!!

    Happy Thanksgiving to all in the US...and Wonderful Blessed day's to those who are not here.

    Don't feel bad about Tony....outta sight outta mind!  I have a new guy I have been talking too on the phone..we are getting together on Friday.........I'll keep ya posted! lol. Also, on my flight from Denver to here....there was a nice looking man, "noticing" me...and when we arrived here...he made a point of talking to me, he gave me his card...no ring (I checked) and said..."I would love to hear from you".  So....maybe I will play the field.

    Love to all and I hope and pray everyone is doing well. Back to work...sorry...

    xoxo

    Lisa

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited November 2009

    Just a quick pop in to say Amanda saw her DR again today she has lost 4  pounds,  but was very sick over the weekend with some kind of tummy buggy,  could keep nothing in - food or water, the fluid level for Ella while it still stinks at 4CC (should be 10) did not decrease from last week, YEAH.  She will have another level 3 US on Friday,  IF (and thats a big IF) Ella and Amanda can hold their own for 3  more weeks then they will take Ella then,  she will be almost 38 weeks. So I guess no matter what we will have her with us before Christmas. THANK YOU  all for your thoughts and prayers for Amanda,  Ella and Me too. Right now I just can't DEAL WITH OR THINK ABOUT ME,  for some reason God havs put choices before me I never thought I would have to make,  I know for now I have made the choices that are best,  when the time is right  or meant to be another way it shall be.  PLEASE DON'T WORRY,  my scan results sucked,  BUTTTTTTTTTTT I am not going anywhere for awhile anyways. 

    I am praying for you all this THANKSGIVING ( EVERYONE EVERYWHERE)

    XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited November 2009

    Cathi, I felt a great wave of love for you when I read your post. You are such a dear sweet woman and I'm praying so hard for you, Amanda and little Ella and your whole family. May you have strength to face whatever happens but most of all I pray that little Ella will come through this ok and that that the scans are wrong - I do hate to hear that they were bad. I could kick the wall and swear right now at the injustice and unfairness in this world.

    Lisa - you have a wonderful attitude! You're not afraid to take a chance and be open to new people - I really love that about you. No wonder that man gave you his card - he could see your wonderful spirit shining out beyond your outer beauty. Glad you had a lovely restful time with your sister.

    Sheila and eveyone - happy thanksgiving! It's not something we tend to celebrate here but I think it's a wonderful concept. I will be with you all in spirit.

    Love to you all,

    Jane xoxox

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited November 2009

    Oh, and Sheila - how cool that you and Mouse were able to catch up! xx

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited November 2009

    Thank you Jane,  don't kick the wall and break your toe or anything.  XOXOXOXOXOXOX That would be my luck. Things will be ok  - as they are meant to be that is,  even though I get mad at God sometimes I have always known that he is really the only one in control.  I am not a quiter and I don't give up eaisly,  just sometimes I guess we have to decide what is priority. 

    For those of you who don't have FB thought I would share something I made for my family for Thanksgiving. 

    http://www.onetruemedia.com/otm_site/auth_dvd?work_id=10162440

  • Wren
    Wren Member Posts: 324
    edited November 2009

    Cathi,

    I'm thinking of you and sending healing white light and support your way. Did you make a DVD for your family? I couldn't log in to see if that is what it was. Neat idea either way.

    Hugs!

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited November 2009

    Love and hugs,

    Karen

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited November 2009

    Welcome back, Lisa.  I'm glad you had a wonderful time in Arizona.

    Cathi, I can't even tell you how worried I am about you.  I understand your not really being able to focus on yourself right now with everything that's going on.  What a wonderful Christmas present you'll have in baby Ella.  I pray that she will be born healthy.  I pray for your health as well, my sweet sister.

    Happy Thanksgiving to all,

    Karen

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2009

    My pies and roll dough are in the refrigerator. My son is asleep on my couch so that he can help in the morning, and bake his famous apple pie. My daughter called for last-minute turkey advice. My SIL insisted on baking even more pies and asked if he could do anything else. The teen-to-twenty grandchildren are totally jazzed. Life does go on after all, and I am thankful.

    And I am thankful for each of the sweet spirits who come here to laugh, love, cry, and tantrum. You have given so much to each other and myself. Blessings on all and a happy turkey day!!!!

    Judie

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited November 2009

    Happpy Thanksgiving  to all my sisters here. I am thankfull for each and everyone of you!! I am so blessed to have the love, support and kindness that we share here.

    Cathi...praying for you and your daughter and Ella.

    Back to work.

    xoxo

    Lisa

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