Gotta Love It....

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Pure
Pure Member Posts: 1,796
edited June 2014 in Stage III Breast Cancer
Gotta Love It....
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  • Pure
    Pure Member Posts: 1,796
    edited November 2009

    I have been off chemo 3 days so I am in depressed crying mode. My husband makes me facial appt at a  spa. He told them I was prego and on chemo.

    My girl walks in-"Hi so I hear your pregnant and batteling cancer"

    My response " nope not  batteling cancer-cancers gone just doing treatment to keep it at bay"

    Her response, " I have another cient who had bc-she had it while pregnant. Had a heatlhy baby. Did treatment and then got preganant again. Unfortuanately, her cancer has returned to her lungs,her husband has left her and is sueing her for full custody of her kids, and she is not going good"

    $100.00 and 1 hour later I am in terars. 

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  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited November 2009

    That was not something you needed to hear.

    But I have a theory that just like good luck, there's only so much "bad stuff" to go around. Maybe the facialist's other client sucked up all the bad stuff for you. :-)

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  • clariceak
    clariceak Member Posts: 752
    edited November 2009

    How can people be so insensitive?  I'm really sorry this happened to you. 

    Are you seeing a pattern between coming off chemo and your mood?  Have you figured out what it is contributing to it?  I hate steroids and tend to "forget" some of my doses because of how it sends me to the dark side emotionally. 

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  • Let-It-Be
    Let-It-Be Member Posts: 325
    edited November 2009

    I hope you didn't give her a tip!!!!  What a cow!! 

    Although that is a very sad story, your journey is not the same as everyone elses. 

    I like your first response "cancer's gone, just keeping it at bay".  I hate it when people assume you're littered with cancer.

    Stay strong!

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  • KerryMac
    KerryMac Member Posts: 3,529
    edited November 2009

    Oh, I am just shaking my head in disbelief. You know, I think some people really "get off" on other peoples misery. Really, I do. They love retelling all their horror stories.

    My Onc told me this at my first appt - she said "Dr D did a great job at removing the cancer from your body. My job is to keep it away"  She always refers to it in the past tense (ie the cancer you had....)

    I applaud your husband for doing something so nice for you! Maybe next time he can specify you get a girl with compassion?? Just a thought!

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  • caaclark
    caaclark Member Posts: 936
    edited November 2009

    You are NOT her! 

    I don't know what is wrong with people!  Sorry you had to deal with that.  I have experienced that type of convo several times but I remember being freaked out when people would talk like that.

    Did I mention?  YOU ARE NOT HER!  Everyone's story and cancer is different.

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  • Annie62
    Annie62 Member Posts: 1,081
    edited November 2009

    What an idiot!!! Have your DH call the spa and speak to the manager. This clueless dodo needs a talkin' to.

     I had a few weird ones like that but this is terrible. 

     So sorry she made things worse.

     Annie

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  • apple
    apple Member Posts: 7,799
    edited November 2009

    geez.

    i'd write a little letter.

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  • Moissy
    Moissy Member Posts: 550
    edited October 2015

    OK, I nominate her for the "Just shut up" club. Some people just are clueless as to what to say...and they should just shut up. But, as CAA said, "You are not her." You are you. Her story is not yours. You know nothing about her cancer or treatment. You are getting the absolute latest, best treatment available in the world. And I bet her husband wasn't the kind of guy who would think of sending his wife for a facial. Call up somebody today who you know is positive....you know the one or two people who always make you feel better, not worse, after you talk to them. I had two friends who fit in that category...my always encouraging buddies no matter how much I was dumping on them. Call one of yours today. (Or just keep talking to us here!)

    Hugs

    Moissy

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  • Bugs
    Bugs Member Posts: 1,719
    edited November 2009

    Seriously...call and speak to management.  Tell them how this made you feel and say your husband didn't pay this kind of money for me to come home MORE depressed.  I would be livid.  I AM livid..give me the number. :)

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  • jenn3
    jenn3 Member Posts: 3,316
    edited November 2009

    I just had a facial/relaxtion treatment at the spa and the therapist has worked with cancer patients. Before the treatment she talked to me about MY needs and concerns and didn't say a thing about her past patients and that's how you should have been treated - it should have been relaxing.

    I sure hope you didn't tip her - and I agree with the others have your DH call and speak to management.  This girl needs to learn to speak to her paying clients better.  Besides that who wants to carry on a conversation while you're laying there trying to relax!!! 

    I'm sorry you're experience was bad.........

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  • everyminute
    everyminute Member Posts: 1,805
    edited November 2009

    Some people think that they are "relating" to you and your situation because they know someone who has gone through something similar.  I agree she needs to have a little chat if she is going to deal with the general public, many of whom may be cancer survivors. 

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  • Pure
    Pure Member Posts: 1,796
    edited November 2009

    Thanks everyone for all your support-I go back Tuesday for a massage. (Not with her) but I guess I will mention to her then. Susan Komen is down the street and they sponser a day each year for bc survivors. It would be worth letting her staff know.

    Tks!!!

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  • KerryMac
    KerryMac Member Posts: 3,529
    edited November 2009

    At the very least it is gossipy. How would you feel if she told her next client "oh, i just had a woman in who is pregnant and has Breast Cancer" It is just bad form. Let them know.

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  • LittleC
    LittleC Member Posts: 151
    edited November 2009

    um... that was supposed to be RELAXING!   The person implementing the procedure should not even be talking unless you ask her something. Being there to relax is about YOU and NO ONE ELSE.  They should NEVER bring up anyone else's situation or bring any stress of any kind into that room. Management, OWNER, whoever, call them!  You should be pampered by them for life for free.  What an inconsiderate jack ass.  Ignorant people never fail to surprise me.  YOU are NOT that woman. YOU are YOU.  YOU will make it.  Especially, with a husband thoughtful as yours to go out of his way to do this for you. {{{hugs}}}

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