just thinking of other breast

Hi Sheri,

I only have one now as well (I had the foob removed after intense pain for 18 months). I've been a "one tit wonder" for almost 2 months and it's not so bad for me. I've had more time though to adjust to everything too. I remember for the first year after the diagnosis with the planning for surgery, having surgery, going through tissue expansion and getting the implant, then being in so much pain, I didn't have much down time. I did go into therapy for a few months (diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder from the breast cancer diagnosis) but after another year, things are "normal". I think it's very common for women going though what we have to feel a certain loss. We had our "girls" all our lives and now one's gone. In some ways, I think it's like a death in a sense because we have lost a part of ourselves society deems important for women. Hopefully this will pass soon for you. Take care.

Margaret

Margaret:  What size are you?  I'm a 40D, so the imbalance is pretty noticeable.  If I wear a bra, then it;s even more noticeable, whereas if I let righty droop naturally, it looks less drastic.  But it's sweaty and uncomfortable... I'm glad you're finally out of the hellacious woods you've been in!  That implant situation is every woman's nightmare!

Jenny

Hi Sheri:

I'm just going to see my doctor to book an appointment to have righty removed. I had lefty taken a little over a year ago, and at that time I was prepared to have them both removed. The surgeon wouldn't do it as he said it would have been very painful for me.

In the meantime, I had an appointment with my oncologist, who also, discouraged me from having it removed. I'm also heavy and it's VERY uncomfortable, and I'm SO self concsious.  Now, I don't have a husband as he left me about 3 years ago for a younger woman. I'm almost 60, and I'm NOT doing this to look sexy..haha.  I just want to be even!  I'm flat one side, then righty is hanging around way down there.  I wear a normal bra with a padding I fill myself, but like you... I notice how uneven they are.

SO, I am determined that this is my body, and I refuse to have any man tell me what to do anymore.  I am cancer free too and I thank God for that.  I think I'd rather go flat than be so uneven.  I am thinking seriously at staying flat.  I'm not out to impress any man...I just want to be comfortable and feel even.

I hope you make the right decision, gal.  Talk to your hubby..  I'm sure he'll agree with you. 

Oh, I also have fibromyalgia and I suffer a LOT of pain from that.  That alone makes me depressed as I can't do things I used to do, and I've been so active all of my life!  I have gained some weight because of.  I think it's time we do what "we" feel is right. After all, we are the ones who will live with it..and "we" are the ones who "feel" the way we do. 

God bless!

cinderella

I'm just finishing up with my chemo and still have rads to go yet,but I think of this always.  I had a large lumpectomy done on right breast and it looks fairly good but is a lot smaller than left (good) breast.  It's only noticeable if I wear something a bit more fitted, which I never do, so it's always loose tops and a blazer or jacket of some type over it.  Since my BS talked me out of the complete removal of the right breast, I kind of regret it now.  If I ever get out of treatment, perhaps I will have the larger breast made smaller to match the cancer breast.  I have such a fear of tampering with it and starting something up in it!  Decisions, decisions, decisions.  I too am a 40D and this one heavy one hanging down there, just blowing in the breeze is not the prettiest thing I have ever seen!

Linda

reported this post. Another nasty sales pitch embedded in a "post".

Leah