One of my best friends has been diagnosed with BC

Hi there

I read a post last year that really opened my eyes. You'll read survivors "takes" on how to handle them through their difficult battle. Worth reading for sure and you'll even get some laughs. When the ladies start venting, you can't help but giggle. Check it out under "Just Diagnosed", title is "Be Positive!!!" (Shuuut Up!)

Stand by your friend no matter what. There may be times you don't need to say a word. Being there for her will mean everything to her. I wish you the best through a difficult time.

Teresa

Sometimes it's just holding someone while they cry.  Go to the kitchen and bring a glass of water and a damp cloth. 

When your friend can breathe again, encourage her to talk with simple phrases such as, 'tell me what you are thinking', or 'what worries you the most?', or 'help me figure out how to help you'.  

Her thoughts will be jumbled and she may say things you would not normally hear from her, but after awhile you will begin to see a pattern in what she shares with you.  Maybe she is fixated on the fear of treatment or the possibility of death.  You can not 'fix' these things for her.  But you can help her find helpful resources for dealing with them.  Let her know that you are available to help her research online, or find the right doctor, or see that her kids are ok, or whatever seems to be the source of her overload.  

She just needs to know she isn't facing this alone.

God bless her and God bless you for being there for her.