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Just checking in. Had surgery last week so have done nothing except nothing. But I am cleaning closets today and have found boxes of things I didn't even know I had. Lots of old pictures and craft stuff and junk. Am hoping to get this all organized into things to throw out, things to give to my son and things to save for the girls.Kind of fun going down memory lane. Even found the hotel receipt from the the first time DH (then boyfriend) and I took a road trip. Not knowing it was memorial day weekend we took off on a lark and the only place we coould find was a NO TELL MOTEL in Converse Texas called the Kontiki Inn. Slept on our jackets and a blanket from the car.
OH THOSE WERE THE DAYS!!!!!
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EWB--you're so right. I did enjoy my time with her this weekend. She just left and headed back to college, so NOW I REALLY have alot of cleaning to do. She can just pick up and leave and make the biggest mess!! But...I don't mind. I always clean it up after her.Soon, she'll have her own place and she'll be responsible for keeping it clean. She's overloaded with studying right now, so it's a wonder she even finds time to eat.
Hope you ladies are having a good Sunday.
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Tomorrow is 2nd chemo, so attempting to get some stuff done here cuz I know I will be pooped in a few days.
Got the kitchen floor swept, carpet vacuumed, now need to do dishes, argh. Wish I had a dishwasher. I am so ready to just shave my head! I am shedding so much, but am clinging to the last bit I have. Thinking by the middle of the week all will be done. sigh
Had fun with the grandkids yesterday at ceasarland, they won lots o tickets, had a ball. loved to see them play. I made me a couple of hats, oldest granddaughter yesterday took claim to one, and made youngest granddaughter one today. so...guess i got a bit done for me now.
time for a shower.
C
p.s. not the absolute oldest/youngest, but my daughter's youngest and oldest
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Hey Nan...losing the hair is really hard, but once I started shedding all over everything, pillow cases, kitchen, counter, etc., I just had my DD give me a buzz cut. It felt sooooooo much better and felt that I was back in contol of that situation at least. I wore lots of hats and cabs, some scarves,tied really cute. I could never make myself wear a wig. But....everybody is different, some people just love the wigs. It's your own personal reference. Whatever feels good for YOU---just do it. Good Luck!! (((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
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Nana - I hope all goes well for you tomorrow. I will be thinking of you.
No cleaning here today. It was 60 and beautiful all weekend so I hiked with my family, did a little yard work and just enjoyed the nice weather. Thanks for all the birthday wishes, ladies.
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Afetr 2 rather sleepless nights, my one thing today will be "shower" LOL. Actually things are going very well, they has started "potty" training, so that is going great, I epect an accident here and there, but we have all tile, except the bedrooms and those are "off limits" we spent yesturday in the yard, my DD and family were over for a barbacue. Margo and I spent alot of time snoozing in the hammok. It was 85 and beautiful sun. (I hate this pic of me but oh well -here goes)
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Oh Cathi, I don't know who's cuter, your puppy or ganddaughter!! You are blessed!
I am so jealous of your picture. I wan to put my hammock outside and relax. Way to early for us! I got a taster of 60 yesterday, heaven!! Today, completely overcast and 30's. Ugh! 60's again for later in the week si I have that to look forward to.
I've gotta get some work done today too. Will start off with a shower and then clean the shower! I'll check in later.
Enjoy the day ladies!!
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Awwwwwwww such a tiny baby Cathi! As for that hammock that is exactly what I need right now:) The sunshine wouldn't be so bad either.
Nan (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))) to you and know we love ya hair or no hair.
Morning to all who may be peeking in for the first time, come join us for a quick cup of tea, crumpets, fun and conversation then lets get those dust rags and get our tasks out of the way today. Then we can all join Miss Cathi on that hammock. (move over girl..........
)I have laundry and a bedroom to re tidy. Then if I'm real energetic I'm going to put some mulch around the front yard today. Anyone else up for roll call this morning?
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I am going to load the dishwasher this morning and then go to work. OMG! Two things! Woo hoo to me too!
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A few seconds ago Makraz wrote:
Hi Guys,
I thought I would post some pictures of my rug rats. My youngest won 1st place in the pinewood derby this past weekend. 4 years in a row!! He's lucky. Below are my kids and DH. I made them hike in the wood with me on my birthday. They weren't happy when we started but defintely had fun. Last pic is my boys at the State Police Barricks in Framingham MA. They are by an old police car. Not as cute as the puppy or granddaughter, but I wanted to share! Linda
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I was nesting before my mastectomy The night before I had a hairdresser (friend come to home to start the process of hair getting shorter she put broom away) I on the outside looked so together to others as I was continually told. But it felt like Charlie Brown when his Teacher talks everythin was going through motions. Anyway my cousin called and we both went to get our coffee to have it with each other over the phone. When she returned all she heard was my crying and yelling for her help she yelled im dialing 911 I refused as I was a female ccop in the same city I lived. She hopped in her car pj's and all and came right over I had managed to get up by then. I fell over the broom, while vacuuming the kitchen, where we cut my long beautiful hair the hairdresser had placed it next to fridge and while vacuuming Im a bit rough I must have bumped fridge and broom fell across doorway to hall and lodged behind the stove so when I went to get coffe for our morning chat I never saw the stationary pole that took me out!!!!! I broke my scapula hardest bone in body to break on the right side of course the mastectomy was on left and next day was the beginig of 3rd leg of Chemo where I would be loosing hair etc,, so as far as nesting it almost killed me> as the cellar door was open directly across the way and I hit the open cellar door landed on those stairs.. At Dana Farber they would have suspended my treatment for a while if I didn;t have stage 3 through the lymphnodes all removed not all positive. My husband walked in to see me on couch crying and with my toddler son he was pissed again at me, she took me to hospital as he said he had a schedule to keep with our son pre-school later as I was being wheeled out of x-ray dept. he was sitting in waiting all apologetic but seems this is how he treated my entire time during chemo always pissed off at me. My cousin I told to drop me off as I was a veteran an hospitals by this time, E.M.T. Police Officer, and Breast Cancer patient, I didn't want her to come in as she was in her pj's unmatched ripped and had not brushed teeth etc. She was crying saying she couldn't believe how he had treated me!!! I was so use to it that it doesn't hurt as it use to,,, anyway nesting can kill you!!!! And since my treatments I have not had a clean home and it is overwhelming so if you can get help cleaning take it, I wish I did but was to embarassed at the time, wish I had found this site during the treatment years.
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I was nesting before my mastectomy The night before I had a hairdresser (friend come to home to start the process of hair getting shorter she put broom away) I on the outside looked so together to others as I was continually told. But it felt like Charlie Brown when his Teacher talks everythin was going through motions. Anyway my cousin called and we both went to get our coffee to have it with each other over the phone. When she returned all she heard was my crying and yelling for her help she yelled im dialing 911 I refused as I was a female ccop in the same city I lived. She hopped in her car pj's and all and came right over I had managed to get up by then. I fell over the broom, while vacuuming the kitchen, where we cut my long beautiful hair the hairdresser had placed it next to fridge and while vacuuming Im a bit rough I must have bumped fridge and broom fell across doorway to hall and lodged behind the stove so when I went to get coffe for our morning chat I never saw the stationary pole that took me out!!!!! I broke my scapula hardest bone in body to break on the right side of course the mastectomy was on left and next day was the beginig of 3rd leg of Chemo where I would be loosing hair etc,, so as far as nesting it almost killed me> as the cellar door was open directly across the way and I hit the open cellar door landed on those stairs.. At Dana Farber they would have suspended my treatment for a while if I didn;t have stage 3 through the lymphnodes all removed not all positive. My husband walked in to see me on couch crying and with my toddler son he was pissed again at me, she took me to hospital as he said he had a schedule to keep with our son pre-school later as I was being wheeled out of x-ray dept. he was sitting in waiting all apologetic but seems this is how he treated my entire time during chemo always pissed off at me. My cousin I told to drop me off as I was a veteran an hospitals by this time, E.M.T. Police Officer, and Breast Cancer patient, I didn't want her to come in as she was in her pj's unmatched ripped and had not brushed teeth etc. She was crying saying she couldn't believe how he had treated me!!! I was so use to it that it doesn't hurt as it use to,,, anyway nesting can kill you!!!! And since my treatments I have not had a clean home and it is overwhelming so if you can get help cleaning take it, I wish I did but was to embarassed at the time, wish I had found this site during the treatment years.
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Juliag - sounds like you had a really rough time. I'm sorry to hear all you've been through. It's hard enough to go through, but then to not have to support of your DH, must make it even harder. There are lots of threads here and ladies who are willing to support you. Check them out!
Someone started this thread as a way for us to escape the daily thoughts of cancer, or at least ease them. We have fun here. Sometimes we help each other get motivated, other times, not so much! It sounds like you could use some breaks and humor in your life. Please join us. Also, there is another thread for anyone interested that it called Random Silliness. I love reading the posts there when I need a good laugh!
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Hi my name is Juliag8199 I found this site yesterday when I googled DEPRESSED and how to get motivated to clean house, to overwhelmed and up popped you wunderful people,,, Just reading your posts made me feel like a person. That I wasn't crazy, lazy, ungrateful etc!!!! I'm up before noon time and couldn't wait to read more about myself through all of your trials and tribulations.. Emotionally this is the best I've felt in the longest time!!! Please help me to utilize this site better for the sake of just feeling not so lonely I love that all of your statements, blogs, articles, answers see i don't even know what to call them, have hit a bulls eye on all my thoughts and feelings I allready love love love this site,,,,,,, Juliag8199
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Good morning gang!! First of all ((((((((((julia))))))))))....girl, you've been through the ringer, huh?? So so sorry!!!
(((((((((nana)))))))))))) hoping chemo goes ok..........as well as can be expected.
Cathi....Margo is soooo cute!! Now is that YOU in that hammock?? Gorgeous!! Seeing that hammock makes me want one too!! Do you have to have trees to tie them to, or can you buy them to sit up on their own. I would ABSOLUTELY LOVE ONE. Of course, I don't guess I would get much house work done
OK.......I've gotta get going today. Thanks mom2two for keeping us motivated. It REALLY does help!! Barbe has already gotten her things done today
I couldn't pass this up.............and my first name really is Lisa
Hope everyone has a wonderful Monday!! Happy cleaning!!!!!!!!!!
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Welcome Julia, you have been through alot, this is as you can see the housework - or not housework support group. Mom2 is our "founder" she puts me to shame for sure (xoxoxoxoxo) we just check in a few times a day and let everyone know what we are up to (me I am lazing out in the hammok the past couple days) I forgot how hard it is to be a new mom - LOL.
Baebe started the "one thing a day" and that works great for so many of us, and quite fun , I just picked up on "poopie" I'm done - LOL
Mazark, your family is just a handsome bunch of guys, great pictures.
Coonie thanks for the compliment, that is me in the picture (I hate having my picture taken since all this stuff) but I am getting better. That Hammok is absoulutely wonderful, Ed bought that one at Lowes last year, it does attach to the trees, but you can get the ones that come with poles to attach. I swear this one is so cumfy - bad thing right now though is our pollen count is so high, you lay there and your a big green monster when you get up - Oh well the price I must pay for sunshine and warm temps.
I'll be back later. - XOXOXOXOXOXOX
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I sat here with a cup of coffee and watched the apartment gardeners snip and blow leaves and all looks pretty and ready for spring to pop. Does that count? Welcome to the new ones. Keep the pictures coming, I am envious of your hammock.
One thing I will do today is get the trash to the dumpster. Starting Sunday, they have a service that is supposed to pick up trash in a special 13 gallon container that each of us will get and put outside our door between 6 and 8 pm. Sounds too good to be true, but I am the farthest from the dumpster and will give it a try.
See ya later, HUGS, Nancy
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Nancy, yes, it counts. I love to hear about the gardeners. I can wait to see some out and about in my area. A sure sign of spring!!
Mom is mulching, something else I can't wait to do. I raked some leaves yesterday when it was 60, under the top few layers of leaves were frozen leaves. They were white! I tried!!
Nana, I hope chemo went well for you today. You are doing great!!
BkC - those were the days!! Sounds like a great memory and weekend.
Today I did 2 load of laundry and cleaned the stove, oven and microwave. Thanks enough for now. Lunch time!
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Well went in to work this morning and about 11am the daycare called to say my 4 year old is sick. So I have picked her up brought her home given her meds. and put her and 5 year old down for a nap. (couldn't pick up one and leave the other) So I will work the rest of the day from home.
Just put a load of laundry on and folded what I had in the basket.Think I will sweep and mop my kitchen and clean the girls bathroom real quick while they are down. And then back to the work I get paid for doing.
It's such a pretty day here after the damp rainy weekend wish I could just sit in the sun and do nothing. Nope Nope gotta get this stuff done. Better get started before I talk myself out of it.
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Juliag just want to say:
Grab that dust rag and come on in!
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Didn't get to the mulch today but did get most of the house done before the appraiser got here. What a great motivator for getting housework done! Even got hubby to get dd's room repainted (hee hee hee
) Bad part is I think I pulled an inside stitch loose near my dog ears. I could feel the skin sag a little more than usual. Guess even after 5 months there is some healing still going on.
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Hi everyone!
Home from tx! Gary,my ox nurse, gave me my breakfast - the benedryl, pepcid, zonftrin (sp?) and steriod - then when that was done, then the taxol. All together it takes a little over 4 hours.
When I took my shower, the hair fell out in huge clumps! I cried. yes, I am really thinking it has to be shaved. Not just because, and this is my cleaning for the day ... the hair mess in the bathroom was horrible! I mentioned to my counselor last friday I was thinking of doing it just to have more control over the process of losing it, it's too emotional losing it gradually, and yet for some reason, I want to hang on to what little I have left,
And when I came home just now, there was even more I didn't see, so more to clean up ... cleaning hair is like dusting dust bunnies, never get it ALL!! So, Wednesday I am going to have my dd stop after work and shave my head. woo boy, another turning point in my life ladies.Cathi, take a nice big snif of that great new puppy smell for me! allergic to dogs but not cats, so no longer can have one but so love dogs.
took out chicken breast for dinner, putting potatoe in oven to bake, have to eat a really nice dinner today, for rest of week will be probly soups, easy, quick meals ... at least now I know how my body reacts to the tx.
btw - 50 degrees here today, didn't wear my coat home, hat yes, but temps will drop to the 20s by the end of the week, just in time for spring. how mean is that???
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Hey Ladies......before I forget...bkc are you the mom of Cameo?? I think we've talked before. If so, how is she doing?? I've thought of her alot! Hope she's doing well...
((((((((Nana)))))))))) so sorry about the hair thing. It IS very discouraging. Mine was coming out in clumps on Christmas day 2007. It will always be a Christmas to remember. But....being one year out from chemo, I have a FULL head of hair.......curly and wavy, so there just hang in there. You can do it!!!
ooooohhh Mom2two....you'd best be careful. Sounds like you're doing too much. I think our bodies have been forever changed.......hope the appraisal went well. I know you're glad to be done with that. You should take the evening off and relax
OK...........I really need to get some things done. Had doctor's appt this morning and it took FOREVER...just waiting. Haven't done a thing in the house, but I did get a few groceries. Put another one of those pork roast in the crock pot with lots of veggies!! DH will think I've been cooking all day
Happy cleaning everyone!!
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Okay mom, I gotta tell you. I've been doing coniptions at my desk at work trying to see how you twigged that stitch in your dog ear. I'm only 3 months out TODAY! (hah, just realized, looking at the calendar) but I'm pretty sure I'm all healed up inside from my double mast.
I have been reaching, stretching, bending and otherwise confusing everyone who walks by. Looks like I have gas or ants (or in the throes of an orgasm). I even found some paper behind the back of my desk.
You might have done more than just "slipped stitch", are you feeling a bit better now? You aren't allowed to do anything tomorrow!
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ummmm ... here's hoping it was an orgasm
... reaching, stretching, bending ... all involved, LOLa sink with dirty dishes in it but no energy after tx today (plus all the meds knock me out for a while). will have to wait till tomorrow. going to sit and watch tv for a bit.
take care,
Cheryl
p.s. son is coming tomorrow to buzz my head - he'll help me with the housework, too, he's a gem when it comes to that, now
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Mom2 - you are doing too much, at least 6/mo for complete healing inside, shame shame - must I PM you and do an official scolding - LOL.
Nana, I know it stinks the whole hair thing, but it will come back, don't you over do it either with TX and all going on.
I did manage to get 3 pairs of Ed's slacks ironed, Got the vacum on the Florida room , it's indoor out door carpet but it still gets horrible looking,
I guess for awhile make-up will be applied and reapplied several times a day.
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Hi everyone,
Well made a decision I would do one thing a day which is better than nothing. Mmm a nice cup of tea, and looking at the garden with spring in the air. Tea anyone? So many choices.
French Vanilla, Cherry, Lemon, Orange Spice, Earl Gary, Breakfast blend, Mint, Chai, Licorice, Green Tea, Lavendar, Chamoile, etc.
Be blessed!
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Don't forget to clean your keyboards, Ladies. You may gets some bad germs while sleeping!
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Hi Coonie,
Yes it's me. I'll have to run over there and fill you in on the goings on with Cameo.
Well after a nap and Tylenol my 4 year old was as good as new today. Well not exactly up to her normal stuff but I'll bet she asked me a million times "Mom when we gonna do something fun?" This was after I'd already colored, played hide and go seek,watched a movie,put together a Noah's Ark floor puzzle and baked cupcakes. Finally swept the kitchen and convinced the girls to put their toys away so I could vacuum the living room. And now they are in bed and almost to dreamland.
Think I'll go make a cup of hot tea and finish my book.
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Hey Nana ! Going to chemo counts as one thing! And, you came home too! That's two things in my book....
bkc, you should have asked her what HER version of fun was! I'd certainly like to have been playing like that today...
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