Take it lite, sisters!

Felicia,

I backed away some time ago for the same reasons.  That said, I come back from time to time....like today....to see if I can contribute anything useful or learn something helpful.  

Member of the Club made a very good point.  The off breast cancer topics can be draining of precious enegy we need to heal.   I find it helpful to remember that while we are all created equal, our paths take us on various journeys.  We can be at any point along that journey--these may not necessarily coincide with mine. 

You are wise to know when to care for yourself.  It's not selfish in a negative way at all.

Hope that you return sometime in the future.  I miss the 'good old days' too.

tanti auguri,

Marilyn

Felicia, I am not sure what is going on and who the people are that keep deleting peoples posts but I am so angry that the mods are not stepping up to the plate and oding their jobs!!!!  I am going to miss you as I always read your posts and they bring smiles to my face.  For me I rely on these boards to get through most of my days and I really lean on you all to help me.  You will be one less person there to lean on.  You are the 2nd person today I havel talked with about this and just todn't get it.

How could someone dislike you or do mean things without knowing who you are?  Why haven't the mods noticed a behavior of certain people deleting threads that did not violate any rules?  Whay are they not being punished for abusing the rules and privileges of the board.  maybe if we ban together approaching the mods they will respond?  Maybe a new thread specifically addressed to the mods ofor the mods?

Either way, if you leave I will miss you.  Please find a way to keep in touch.

I'm really upset that someone has deleted Felicia's comment (above) on her own thread that she started!

I'm really confused...deleted "by the community"?  This is not the moderators?  There's a sniper?  I've been away from the boards too long it seems.  I don't know what's going on either.  I didn't see the post before it was deleted but given what's been said here so far, I can't imagine it was outside the guidelines for posting.  But I really don't know because it's been censored.

I've always recommended these boards to women here who find themselves needing support during this time.  I had such high praise of the quality of the support.   Not that people can't make their own choices about life, but I don't think I'll be recommending this site any longer. 

I'm not looking to put my head in the sand--and I don't want to add to anyone's burden who I might recommend here dealling with this disease (one very recently).  God I remember well my first days, months and even years!  How much I needed these boards!  How much I still do! 

The negativity here, even though reflecting the potential of our human condition, is a cancer in and of itself that eats at the energy of health.  

Sad, very sad. 

Pm'd you a few days ago Felicia, and hoping you got it?  IF you're reading, please read your pm, would love to stay connected through emails dear friend!

Gonna miss you Girl!  I also had no idea of the negativity going on. 

Apparently it all has ties to the political threads, which I think if the mods were smart they would remove all of the threads having anything to do with politics, b/c all it does is cause rifts between folks.

I thought once the election was over things would calm down, but apparently is hasn't stopped, and people are deleting posts that don't violate BCO conduct rules, which then sets off everyone else in turn.

Can't we all just get along?

There are alot of threads on this site not really related to BC - such as the games, etc.  I think all should be allowed and folks should be respectful of the variety of opinions.  The off-beat threads take our minds of the BC crap and at times that is what I need for a few minutes.  If you can't be respectful, then don't post on the thread. 

Just my little o'opinion ...and I am entitled to it.  ;o))

I look forward to the political threads being removed. 

I enjoy "moving beyond" but not the nasty stuff I've seen on those boards--other topics are great and, I agree, take our minds away from the bc crap---but not those threads.  They just generate hate.

I added to the Obama thread saying that I think the idea of taking down the political threads is a terrific idea.  They are so divisive and don't serve our community at all.  I am a very political person but I go elsewhere for that, there are plenty of blogs and forums for politics.  There aren't many like this for the bc community.  I hate that Felicia felt she was driven away and I hope she comes back.

Felicia:  I sure hate to see you leave - your posts were always interesting.

I agree that the political threads should be removed.  There is no room for them on this board - there is way too much animosity.  I am going to write to the moderators asking that they take a look at this suggestion, perhaps if more do the same they will remove them.

I just want to remember each and every single person on this forum that how much effort our newest angel Deb aka AlaskaDeb had made in order to bring peace to this place. Everytime something went wrong here and things got out of hand, she was almost always the first one to change the subject to something delightful or funny. She had never told anyone what to do or what not to do, but she had loved peace and always tried to be a peace maker and she really was, as y'all know. Considering how much she and all of our sweet sisters who are lo longer here must have wanted to be here with their beloved ones, it's certainly not the time nor the place to let our bond go rotten. Just my two cents.

Hugs,

Fum

Dream..... VERY good suggestion.

Isabella.

I agree..Felicia's post should never have been deleted.......It is such a shame that our sisters are being run off because of the few who are such dirty rotten lowlifes.....This is appalling to say the least....I have seen this board go down hill for the past 6 months with all the bickering and name calling....This is a support board!...But apparently some of the newbies and possibly oldies (like dream says how can you know who is doing these awful things?) ...Felicia  please don't leave....You are needed here...You helped me with recon decisions back inthe day and I still read your posts to keep up with anything and everything......Such a sad state of affairs we are in.....Also I too am looking forward to the political thread being removed.....Politics are not needed here......Hugs to you all...Lucy

Whats really pathetic, is that Felicia has been banned from the boards for 10 days due to a post she sent to someone.

So on the thread about Deb C., Felicia had to pass her words of condolence through someone else.

Enough already! Everyone should comitt to not spew word vomit on other people. Everyone should comitt that even though we can't pick our family of BC sisters, when push comes to shove, no matter what our differences are, we will always have each others back.

Right now, I could care less who you voted for, or what G-d you pray to. Another one of our sisters is dead, and all we should be screaming about is Where the hell is the cure???

It's bad enough we have to lose each other to the beast... I'm not going to lose sisters over petty fights.