New: invasive ductal carcinoma triple negative

Jarnwine1

I am 38 and received my pathology report yesterday. I have grade 3 invasive ductal carcinoma, triple negative.
I had a unique situation. My sister is the office manager of my doctor and she actually received my results over the phone. So, since she knew I was at work, she told my parents, husband and other sister. They met me at home to tell me together. I feel so supported and loved. My family joked and said cancer picked the wrong family member because I'm the strong and stubborn one. I am a fighter and will do what I have to do to make it through this.
The hardest part was telling my teenage kids. We cried together and I promised them that I have every intention on fighting this. I want them to ask questions if they have them I want them to talk to me and us lean on each other through this

I am waiting until Monday so I can schedule an appointment with my oncologist to come up with a plan. Waiting is the worse.

serendipity09

Jarnwine - Sorry to hear about your diagnosis and sad that you find yourself her. You will see that you came to the right place for support.

Waiting is definitely the worst, but once you have a treatment plan, I think, you'll feel even better. Keep that great attitude. Being positive is so helpful throughout treatment! You've got this!

Please let us know how it goes on Monday with the MO.

Sending warm and positive thoughts your way.

J_bryant923

I was diagnosed last week, same, triple negative. I have been consumed by thousands of thoughts and fears.. I am starting chemo this Wednesday. I'm 36.

NorCalS

Jarnwine1 and J_Bryant,

Just writing to lend support. Before I started treatment, I was terrified of chemo, especially the adriamycin/cytoxan combo. However, it was doable. If possible, try to prepare yourself for the common side effects, i.e. nausea, vomiting, mouth sores, loss of appetite, odd taste of food, hair loss. There are threads that discuss these side effects and how others dealt with them to get through treatment (i.e. icing hands and feet to prevent peripheral neuropathy). I had vomit bags and buckets placed in every room of the house and in the car just in case. Fortunately, I did not have to use them, but I was glad that they were there just in case.

Hugs to you both

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AB45

Just coming by with warm thoughts to you both. Waiting is the worst..Find what brings you comfort and do that often and alot! There are many women who come before you and when your treatment is over, it will be your turn to pay it forward to others...YOU FIGHT and never loose hope...YOU WILL BE A SURVIVOR

Jarnwine1

Thank you all! I am happy I have found this community for resource and support as I am about to take on this challenge.

msphil

oh sweetie so sorry I know those words as do others here I continue to come here to Inspire others. I was diagnosed while preparing for our 2nd marriages to man I prayed for then this at 42. But fiance now husband family friends helped me get thru had many cries and why me fiance held me many days and nights to help me sleep along with Ambient my doc ordered. Faith Hope and Positivity got me thru also and im now a 27yr Survivor Praise God. Sweetie it is doable we are here for you. Hold on you can get thru this.nsphil IDC stage2 0/3 nodes 3mo chemo before and after L mast got married now 27th Anniversary then 7 wks rads and 5 yrs on tamoxifen. Hold on sweetie we re here for you.