They don’t match

auntpondie

it’s been 9 months since I finished radiation after my lumpectomy. Now, the breast I had surgery on is literally 2 cup sizes smaller than my other. I can only wear sports bras ( which isn’t terrible) but I am becoming very self conscious about it. When I take my cloths off, I find myself staring at the huge difference. Anyone else have this and what did you do? Did you choose surgery to correct? Thanks in advance and hope every one is feeling good!!

bcincolorado

My plastic surgeon said it would be covered to "reduce and lift the non-surgical side if I wanted. I personally was tired of surgery and chose not do it. I am several years out now. Am I lop sided? Yes!! Padded bra no one knows. Most of the time though I chose not to wear one now even and wear something to cover them so no one can tell anyway. I have several blouses that cover that area nicely. Husband does not mind. One side is "me" at least and not damaged by cancer. Best wishes to you.

AliceBastable

Unless a person has surgery to minimize the non-cancer breast, either at the time of the lumpectomy or later, or augmentation of the cancer one, we're all lopsided. I had DDs before, now I've got one DD and the other is C-ish. If I wear a bra around the house, it's usually a stretchy leisure bra or an old baggy worn out seamless one. For more public wear, it depends what outerwear I'll have on. For sweatshirts and heavy, slightly oversized T-shirts, I wear whatever is comfortable that day. Sometimes the band on my stretchy bras rides up on the C-ish side and that's not comfortable. I bought a couple of inexpensive Hanes wireless (I've always hated underwires) with seamless non-stretch cups and very slight padding, and I really like them. The band stays in place and the cups don't press against my breasts like the stretch cups do. With any kind of bra, sometimes I'll stick a rolled-up soft child's sock in the C-ish side; it fills it out a little and keeps the bra from drifting toward the DD side. I kind of wish I'd had the DD reduced because even though C-ish is a funny shape, I don't get underboob heat rashes on that side now.

RP1

I’m writing in relation to one of my dearest friends - (I’m a guy btw...).

She was diagnosed with Stage 2 in early January and had surgery within a month - the affected breast was replaced, first with a temporary implant and subsequently with a permanent silicone one.

She says that both breasts are almost the same size - and she is truly thankful and realises she was very lucky to have avoided chemo/radiotherapy -

However, as she comes to terms with what she’s been through, she has decided to drop some weight. She doesn’t (in my opinion) need to lose any weight, but she feels she is about 14-20lbs heavier than she’d like. It has now dawned on her that her “real breast” will reduce in size, whilst the one with the implant won’t.

She is worried about her appearance and the possible negative reactions she may get when she starts dating. Worth noting - we are both early 50s and have known each other since our mid teens. She was and still is the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen - but any words of reassurance I give her don’t help -

In member’s experience, what, if any negative reactions have you had to this and how have you dealt with it?

Genuinely appreciate any advice that may help