Overwhelmed

Seilien

does anyone else feel too overwhelmed?

All my treatments, diagnosis, dr visits have gone so fast. It's been 2 years from 1st diagnosis and it has gotten better but then worse. Before, there were clear steps on what to do next, now, there is limited options but at the same time I am constantly pressured to make hard decisions without enough serious facts or support. There are a lot of "What if" or "This could happen" but decisions need to be made right away because it might be too late.

I am already too tired going through the treatments, surgeries and making all the big decisions while simultaneously making other people feel better about my situation that I'm emotionally, mentally overloaded.

Is there a way to cope without completely shutting down? Is this a normal reaction? I'm considering therapy but honestly they can't give me the medical advice that I want. Has anyone felt, not necessarily sad, but confused and tired on how to handle everything?

Spookiesmom

Yes, it’s normal to feel this way. A lot of us do. Family and “friends “are sometimes the worst. Find a nice way to tell them to stuff it. Say you’ll let them know what YOU have decided, and when. Don’t answer their calls and text until YOU are ready. Even tell them you will cut offall communication if they don’t back off.

moth

You know what ... I think therapy is a good idea. It would help with boundaries - it's not your job to make people feel better about your situation - and it can give you peace with accepting that there isn't one best answer and that whatever you decide, it's the right decision at the time.

It won't give you a medical decision but it can give you *peace* about a medical decision.

Seilien

Thank you. Therapy might be the answer still. I am feeling absolutely cornered.

I have been thrown into so many treatments. Without my oncologist talking to me on the next medical plan, I am getting calls for more medical procedures and they have already started scheduling without me knowing. I am being washed away by the situation. It is already too much. I need a moment before any more is forced into me. A day or even a week.

Spookiesmom

Honestly the first time was a blur. My surgeon took my case to the tumor board, and then the tests started. I had no idea who wanted what, I just showed up where and when I was told to. I do remember thinking it would be a lot better if I just set up a tent on the hospital campus and stay there.

They originally thought I was stage IV denovo fooled them!! But yes, it was a lot of tests.