Stage iv with new symptoms

DaveReger

My wife has had stage iv for 6 years now. Recently she has started sleeping a lot (18 to 20 hours a day) her pain level has also increased. The oncologist, who she trusts totally, says that there are no new tumours and the ones she has are the same as 6 years ago. I am so worried and she wont discuss it with me.

Moderators

Hi Dave, and welcome to Breastcancer.org,

First, we're so very sorry to hear of your wife's diagnosis, and her recent changes. We're glad you've found us though, as you'll see our Community is an incredible source of advice, information, and support -- we're all here for you both!

You're sure to get some responses here soon from our amazing Stage IV members. In the meantime, if you'd like, check out the For Family & Caregivers of Loved Ones With a Stage IV Diagnosis forum, where others who have a stage IV loved ones share their experiences, support each other and get support.

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KBL

Hi, Dave. I see no one has responded yet, except for the moderators. I just wanted to say I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Could it be depression? I know my husband hates when he can’t fix things for me. I’m sure you want to help. Hopefully she’ll come around and let you know what she’s feeling.

finallyoverit

Hi Dave,

I also wanted to chime in here.. I started a thread last night on the stage iv forums about feeling off kilter since all of this COVID-19 stuff started. Many folks have answered they feel the same way. Maybe she is just processing that in light of her diagnosis? I’ve noticed I’m more tired and want to sleep more. I think it’s self preservation for me.. I’m exhausted because this is all rattling around in my brain.. sleeping is a good way to pass time and not have to think about it. I hope she opens up to you but please know she may not be able to even explain it yet. I’m struggling putting what I’m feeling in words.

Welcome to the forums. There are a lot of very smart and caring people here.

Finall