Can't Tolerate Complaining From Others - Anyone?

mitziandbubba

Since my dx, I have a whole lot less patience in general. And I was a VERY tolerant person. Now I just can't handle when others complain on and on about what I see as trivial stuff - which is A LOT. I mean, I just can't be upset over most things these days myself - that is a real benefit of all of this. I work for myself and used to be terrified of my clients leaving me - but now I laugh at that. Be afraid of something real! is what I tell myself. Client leaves, I get a new client. Or not. Not life or death - like cancer!

I actually cancelled a spa trip that was my idea with two friends because one of them is a non stop complainer - in her case her life is just so stressful she can't take it. Her life doesn't seem very stressful to me (doesn't work, has household help with her kids, wealthy) but I realize it is all relative so I do not judge. But I try to help suggesting yoga, meditation - heck, that is where the spa trip came from, so she could relax - she doesn't have time to meditate for 10 minutes a day, what am I thinking! I just don't like complaining from anyone!

Anyone else?

Meow13

I have become intolerant of my 84 year old mother. Everything is a big deal for her it borders on the ridiculous. Every little pain or unusual mark on her skin run to a doctor or specialist.

I hate going to a doctor's office waiting around in a room full of sick people. I do all the necessary wellness care and precautions for breast cancer recurrence and pretty much that is it.

I hate to socialize with "health" complainers not fun at all.

mitziandbubba

Meow, I hear you. But health complainers are something I actually could not handle even BEFORE my diagnosis. When I was faced with minor health issues ie a bulging disc in my back, I did something proactive. For the bulging disc, the doctor send me to physical therapy, I did and continue to do the exercises and follow their recommendations, and I am mostly not bothered by the disc. Exercise and diet have "cured" most of my minor physical issues, so when someone complains of a physical issue that is something that PT or exercise or diet will help, I do not want to hear it. Don't complain of your acid reflux (which I have) if you are going to sit in front of me drinking orange juice. Y

Of course, there are health issues that if you want to complain about - I get it. My friend with uterine sarcoma can complain all day every day and I will listen. The funny thing is - she doesn't. The double amputee I see at the gym is always smiling. It is never those people!

I have a friend who is 20 years older than me who basically spends her life at the doctor. Recently her finger hurt and - I kid you not - she made an appointment with "her finger doctor". That's a thing? She is also gluten and dairy intolerant, insists on eating both things and then is constantly sick and constantly at the doctor and always complaining of stomach issues. I'm gluten intolerant - I just avoid wheat, problem solved.

WC3

I guess it depends on what it is they are complaining about. Self imposed problems I am short on patience with, but health problems, even minor ones in comparison to cancer, I have a lot of sympathy for because even seemingly minor health issues can drastically affect quality of life.

mitziandbubba

WC3, I guess that is a big part of my issue - I am so intolerant now!! It's a change in me. I'm not sure I like it.