I wasn't going to post until I knew more, but....

mom2bunky

it’s ok to vent Blue, it helps. Cry when you want, you’ll feel so much better. I felt every one of those things, but you get past it. Sending you a hug

AliceBastable

Wow, Blue, none of us deserve cancer, nor is it anything we've done, nor is it anything to be ashamed of. You need to take some time off from stressing about it and do fun things - hiking, watching movies, going out with friends, whatever. Don't let the what-ifs consume you or you won't have anything left to cope with what is, if you should need it.

Beesie

Blue, a diagnosis is always a shock to the system. And it is natural that our minds start to go to the worst places.

Do you deserve this? No, none of us do. Is this going to totally disrupt your life for a while? Yup, and that's not fair. But something to consider... as you watch people going about their daily lives, remember that you never know what someone else might be going through. In life, everyone is going to be hit with crap. And yeah, it's often a cancer diagnosis - 1 in every 2 men and 1 in every 3 women will at some point in their lives be diagnosed with cancer. So while I know that you feel unfairly singled out, you are in fact part of a really big group that includes all of us here and lots of those normal looking people you see going about their daily lives.

It's normal to be angry and frustrated and scared, and it's okay to vent and feel sorry for yourself. That can help, sometimes. What's important is that you not make this worse for yourself, because dealing the uncertainty of a new diagnosis is hard enough already. So when you start imagining all the bad things that could happen, stop yourself. As much as any diagnosis is crappy, remind yourself that at this point, your preliminary diagnosis is DCIS, which is as good as it gets. If you feel the urge to start googling all the things that could happen, focus on learning about DCIS. Whenever your mind goes to the worst places, remind yourself that while all of this is unfair and difficult and disruptive, you will get through it. And you will, I promise.

edwards750

Blue - Alice and Beesie nailed it. None of us deserve this and it’s nothing you did to cause it. We just drew the unlucky card.

I went through the process in a fog. I was prepared for the bad news because I was called back in to redo the mammogram. One breast was larger than the other. Game over I knew then.

I didn’t have my meltdown until I got my Oncotype score from my BS. It was low so I dodged chemo. I kept my game face on throughout for my husband and son’s sake. My son took it especially hard because he has a friend whose brother hascancer. Since then two of his friends Mother’s have died. Both younger than me. One was from aggressive BC. He knows now even more how blessed we are that mine was early stage and God willing I’ll be 8 years out in August. No guarantees but so far, so good.

There are lots of reasons to be optimistic but we do understand in the early process of it all that’s a hard thing to be but we are all proof of that positivity because we are still here.

So keep the faith and keep us posted.

Diane