New here and with mixed feeling.

Scotties123

Hi everyone! Give my best wishes to you all at the beginning of my very first post.

I got diagnosed late December, and will have lumpectomy this Thursday.

Well, I am young, will become 30 yso in couple weeks, no kids. After got diagnosed, i was shocked. No one in my family had BC, and I have 3 aunties, 2 sisters, and 5 female cousins. But I did lived a super stressful life and pushed myself too hard on my study and work. So, probably my body is warning me to stop, and to slow down.

My cancer is in stage 1 (less than 2cm), triple +, and the first two ultrasounds didn’t show any abnormal lymph nodes. Well, the latest ultrasound shows one suspect abnormal lymph node, and my surgeon said he will remove anyone that’s tested positive during the surgery. So, fingers crossed. I will have my genetic test next week, and finger crossed again. Not yet seen my oncologist, not sure what chemo will be given, or how long it will be given. And still absorbing all the new info and reading articles about BC.

So grateful that I have a wonderful husband who supports me and encourages me all the time.

Well, let’s fight !

Georgia1

Hi there and welcome. Sounds like you have a good medical team and a supportive husband, and that will help a lot. But please, please, do not let your brain trick you into thinking that stress caused your cancer. Most of us are like you, with no known risk factors. Sometimes cancer just happens out of nowhere.

Keep us posted and let us know how we can help.

windingshores

Yes don't blame yourself or your lifestyle. Most of us don't have genetic reasons for cancer. There are so many reasons for the mutations that are cancer.

With triple positive you will have chemo, if pathology after surgery is the same as the biopsy pathology.

You have a great attitude and have a good chance of doing well. Good luck!

edwards750

Just so you know oncologists don't know why some of us draw the unlucky card. In my case however my sister and I do have a genetic connection - our mother had breast cancer.

There are lots of women who lived the healthy lifestyle and still got BC. The so called risk factors are not the end all causes.

I do hate when someone as young as you gets BC. While it's not reserved for older women only it's still disturbing. I can't imagine being DX when I was 30.

That's great your husband is supportive. You will need and should have all the support you can get.

Diane

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Welcome, Scotties123! We're sorry you find yourself here, but we're glad you've joined our community and hope you find it to be a source of support as you begin this journey. Best of luck on your surgery, please keep us posted on how it goes!

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Scotties123

Thanks to everyone’s kind words.

I have a pretty healthy life style. I don't smoke, don't drink, and go the gym sometimes. The only thing that's "unhealthy" is the stress i put on myself. Well, actually, I am willing to change that, I want to be happy. My husband always says that I don't have to push myself that hard. After I got diagnosed, I started to rethink and look back, and felt that this is a perfect time for me to start a change, to be nicer to myself.

I will try my best to stay positive, to fight and to win.

msphil

yes sweetie Fight and I also have a caring loving husband well he was my Fiancee at the time encouraged me all along. Once all treatment plan in effect the anxiety will decrease some hang in there sweetie. Have Hope always and Positive thoughts got me thru along with my faith. I am now a 24 will be 25yr Survivor this yr. Praise God. msphil idc stage2 0/3 nodes 3mo chemo before and after Lmast got married then rads 7wks and 5 5yrs on Tamoxifen.

Scotties123

Thanks for your kind words and your sharing. And it’s so wonderful that you are gonna have your 25 ys Survivor! Wish you all the best, and more 25 ys to come! I had my surgery yesterday, and my surgeon removed 1 suspecious and 3 normal lymph nodes. I am gonna meet my oncologist in 10 days, I will have more details about my treatment then. Whatever it will be , I am ready!

beach2beach

Hi Scotties123,

Sorry you joined us but welcome. Glad surgery went well and the next part of waiting again certainly stinks, but you will get through it. My sister had IBC at age 48. I was 6yrs younger then her at that time so they started me on an every 6mth run. Id do mammo/sono then 6mths later a breast mri. After 3 years ins decided it wasn't a big enough risk factor of my sisters age and bc type to warrant the mri. She is 57 now and NED. I got the BC diagnosis in July 2017. So much for the not enough risk factor! I had ILC with some other stuff mixed in. I did the 62 gene testing including BRCA etc..nothing. Not my mom or my aunts. Go figure..

Keep us posted..and hope your recovery goes smoothly.

VioletKali

Hi

I was diagnosed triple + weeks shy of my 32nd birthday. I made some different choices than many make, but I am happy.

I have no family history AT ALL. No cancer whatsoever.

GreenHarbor

I was diagnosed at age 51, with no family history. Try not to overthink why you got cancer. It’s not as if you can retroactively eat more fruits and vegetables. ;-) Once my final pathology results were back (it took about a week), and I knew what my medical oncologist’s plan was, I found I felt much better. I at least knew what the plan was. I’ve chosen to view this as an opportunity to make positive changes. For the first time in my life, I’ve joined a gym- a HUGE step for me. Much to my surprise, I’ve found classes I like, and I like how I feel afterwards. I’m trying to eat better as well. My onc said limited red/processed meat, lots of fruits and veggies and 1-2 drinks per week. When I tried this before, it was always to get to a certain weight or clothing size. I’ve “met” so many kind and supportive people here that have helped keep me sane. Good luck!

Tresjoli2

come join us on the triple positive board!