Just diagnosed, I'm a Christian

Anonymous

Cindy, when most of us are first diagnosed with cancer, I think the shock reaction is that "I don't want surgery nor radiation, and never ever chemo."

I know that's what I said!

But after talking with my oncologists, testing and doing some of my own research, I had surgery, radiation and finally agreed to take anastrozole. I'm not a candidate for chemo but my sister is. She was diagnosed with breast cancer about three months after me. She is triple negative. She has her second breast surgery tomorrow; chemo starts at the end of the month, and radiation after that. She didn't want any treatment either then looked in the face of her young grand daughter.

As a Christian, I certainly don't understand why certain things happen in our lives; I question but then realize I'm okay without some answers. BTW, I'm a former (radical) atheist and humanist with little to no religious upbringing as a child so I understand why others may be offended by some of what you wrote. And it's okay that they are.

I'm not afraid of dying, or even suffering if I have to but, like my sister, I've looked into the faces of my two grandchildren and daughter.

Cindy, seek guidance through your faith, but please don't let it alone keep you from treatment you may need.

edwards750

Well said viewfinder. Sorry for you and your sister. I too look intobthe faces of my two 3 year old twin grandsons. Such precious children. I did radiation but unlike others I never considered not doing it.

Diane

AliceBastable

Egads007, will you accept this rose 🌹? Or at least this nose 👃? 😁

Egads007

Alice, LOL!! I’m a materialistic athiest so I’ll take both )

CindyL33

Hi Alice, *sigh, I never said any of that, at all.

As for posting somewhere else, this was my first time here and I saw a great many topics and discussions...didn't know where to post so I just started one. Didn't know I would get the 3rd degree or probably never would have came here for help/information/support/somebody going through the same thing, anyone else going the health route, etc etc....idk, I guess I apologize for not studying the whole entire website but I had more important things to study and wasted a whole lot of time more or less defending myself.

God bless you ALL, I hope He truly does heal you all. If you don't ask, how can you expect to receive?

wrenn

Cindy, you basically walked into a room of a well established community and started insulting everyone. You also insulted the medical community that has been keeping many of us alive. That makes people defensive.

I can understand that receiving a cancer diagnosis can cause anger but you are taking it out on the wrong people. People here are very supportive and have been a life saver for many of us.

I wish you well.

CindyL33

Thank you so much viewfinder... that's exactly how I feel. I did have my conciliation today with my new breast surgeon and my guy came along. We'll be together 20 yrs. On the 10th of this month. We have a 17 yr old boy who has my whole heart and like you and your grands, he has been on my mind. My new doc was amazingly awesome, he is also Catholic lol... so glad I left the other. So, as I said in a few of my other posts, I would trust in God. I have and He sent me to the new surgeon who answered all my questions and filled me in on the ones I didn't know to ask. I still don't know the size of this bugger in me but he told me it wouldn't be a big mass so no reconstruction. ..that was a big worry and I did listen to him. What a bonus having someone you feel you can trust! So I do trust him and decided on the surgery. I didn't feel that little nudge I sometimes do when I make the wrong decision and I had some time to talk with God. I'm still doing the health thing and haven't decided on radiation yet. I'll cross that bridge when it comes. I feel good about the decision and so is my guy, relieved he is. Still need MRI and check lymph nodes during surgery...hopefully no more surprises.

Thanks again for your nice post and for actually 'getting me'. I didn't know what to expect here but I wasn't trying to offend anyone. If it's ok to pray for you and your sister, I would like to. 💟

exbrnxgrl

Cindy,

You seem like a nice woman and I respect your right to your beliefs. Please understand that this is an international forum with a varied mix of religious or non-religious beliefs. You might want to consider that your tone comes across, a bit, as proselytizing. For example, “ If you don't ask, how can you expect to receive?" Now, I'm not Christian so not entirely sure what this means, but my assumption is asking a Jesus for something. Why would non-Christians, agnostics and atheists want to do that?

You are very enthusiastic about your religion and it colors all aspects of your life. Good for you, but remember this is a secular site and many of us not only don't share your beliefs but we are quite happy with our own and don’t wish to be preached to, warned about Satan etc.Take care.

CindyL33

That was for the person I responded to who asked the question. All my posts are responses to each individual question. For most I think I remembered to type the name in the response.

Forget is, I give up good luck to you and everyone here

CindyL33

Wrenn. No, no I didn't, atleast not intentionally insult anyone. If just stating my person feelings about sickness, drug companies (only the one doctor), treatment and God, was insulting to anyone, I apologize.

Never entered a topic forum before or whatever this is. I read some other posts and thought I was doing it right. I guess as a first post you're not supposed to tell your 'story' type of thing so people know where you're coming from?

I'll figure something else out. I certainly don't need to be insulted either, every other comment.

Good luck to you, I hope everything works out for the good.

CindyL33

Thank you xbrnxgrl. I looked a few places when I came here, not for anything specific. Noticed a bunch of topics, didn't see them all. Figured first timers were supposed to post in the just diagnosed area as I did since bc is brand new to me and so is this website. Seemed self explanatory--first time, first thing, first whatever. Didn't expect such meanness is all. I may check out other threads if I can find them. I only have my phone as computer or a may just go.

Thank you, be well and God bless whether you believe or not, it certainly can't hurt anyone by saying it

CindyL33

I will delete the topic if possible as not to offend anyone else. Have a good life all.

Trishyla

In that same spirit, Cindy, I will ask the Goddess to rain down her blessings upon you.

I wish you all the best in Her Name.

Trish

CindyL33

If that's your belief Trisha, have at it...That's exactly how I feel about mine, believe what you want.

May God bless you too

CindyL33

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Someone please tell me how to delete my topic

MCBaker

just let it fade away. It will do so quickly, as these forums are very active. Everyone makes mistakes, and no one can deny it. Please join our little Catholic group. We can have a good conversation on the problem of pain. It gets everyone.

wallycat

This thread reminds me of the fights my sister and I have. It seems ok for the religious zealot to foist their opinions and beliefs but god forbid anyone say something outside of the zealot's thought pattern. Cindy, you have EVERY right to say what you want, you just really should be more considerate on where you foist your beliefs. Once open for discussion, you should allow and accept someone else's foists on you. It is a two way street. No one needs to get angry about reading someone's thoughts. Pummeling someone with their way and only their way...that's when the issues arise. This forum has many types of people and for you to presume your word is gospel is small and uncaring. We are here to help each other...with cancer but not with brain washing. If a topic is presented, it should be an open dialogue instead of a monologue.

I'm thrilled you found a doctor that your gut/god/family buys into and you can have a great outcome and live a wonderful life.

My personal experience has been that those who over-profess religiosity and cling to it are doing so to absolve some imagined/real-life sins. Not all, but a lot of the circles I've been exposed to seem to notice that. I hope your beliefs are not manifested in a need but a love and go with your god and have a great life. If you truly are a "loving christian" than please, be decent and not defensive. It's all about love...with a god or without.

msphil

hello sweetie I too am a Christian born raised Catholic I had my cry at diagnosis then took it to my Lord i now know that I had work to do for Him. To encourage and Inspire others to fight with Hope and Positive thinking. I was diagnosed while making wedding plans to 2nd husband I prayed to God for. I am now a 24yr going on 25 this yr. Praise God. Couldn't have done it without the knowledge God gave the docs to help me. My Faith is even stronger and each time I encourage others I'm humbled to be use by HIM. I wrote a book bout it all, "The Healings Of Breast Cancer"A Physical And Spiritual Healing Of My Body And Soul. Phyllis Alexander on Amazon.com and Barnes&Noble. msphil idc stage2 0/3 nodes 3mo chemo before and after Lmast got married then 7wks rads 5yrs on Tamoxifen. God Bless Us All.

Princess_Meg

Hi msphil, good to know that you are a Christian like myself and I want to believe that your book is free and not for sale in the spirit of lending a helping hand to another. Stay blessed

msphil

hello sweetie my book is only $15 and i have and donate to American Cancer Society since I wrote the book honey. Again led by my Lord to continue to help others. God Bless Us All. msphil idc 0/3nodes stage2 3mo chemo before and after Lmast 7wks rads and 5yrs on Tamoxifen. p s I also donated to libraries sweetie.

Princess_Meg

Hi Msphil it is good to know that you do donations and the book is quite afforadable. Stay blessed

CindyL33

Thank you Ms Phil, for understanding my point. I am so happy for you and congratulations on your new partner. May God Bless you both

CindyL33

Thank you, I should have realized but I didn't before posting, the people not of faith would take my post the wrong way. I'm sure you know I was not trying to push or "brainwash" anyone. My feelings on the post at That exact moment were of happiness that God put it on my heart to trust Him. That is what my post was about, nothing more, nothing less. It was about me and only me. I'm not sorry I posted my feelings at all, God says, suffering is good...and for Him . Everyone is entitled to believe what they want, that's called free will. Thank you for the link to your forum. Xo

msphil

hello all I want to make myself clear I wrote my book to help others going thru and the cost also helps by donating some proceeds to American Cancer Society to also help other I have donated free books to libraries in community and have sent free vpoies to those who can't afford the $15. In the spirit of my Christian faith born and raised Catholic 12yrs Catholic school raised by parents also Christians that's Always been my heart. The book was God led to write to help All not just Christians. Love to all my family here. msphil