Will know Monday afternoon

debmom70

I have been lurking for a few days. My SIL's friend sent her this website link to forward to me. I am feeling like a fish out of water.

July 6, routine mammogram. July 9, phone call from my GYN that there was a mass present on the mammogram that wasn't there before. July 16 (I was out of town or else I would have gone the week of July 9)-I had diagnostic mammogram; then ultrasound.

I heard the words--radiologist will come talk to you. He came in and told me that I needed a biopsy. I would like to say I held it together--but I didn't. I was crying during the ultrasound. The tech called to set up my biopsy appt. for me. I had no idea what questions to ask. I didn't get a report or any other information.

When I went for the biopsy-I had a little bit more information of what to ask---It is a BiRad (did I get that right) of a 5. It is 1.5 cm and not in the lymph nodes.

I know there is a small percentage that it isn't cancer. My mother has had 3 benign tumors (surgeries). I did ask the doctor doing the biopsy to just tell me his professional opinion--cancer or not. I know he couldn't really tell me. He said-it is suspicious.

During the ultrasound (before the biopsy) that tech saw another small spot near the original mass--that wasn't detected in a prior mammogram or ultrasound. The radiologist said that it looked more like fatty tissue, but biopsied it anyway.

I am 48; single mother to two boys-19 (leaves for college on Aug 17) and 11. I am a teacher and go back to work tomorrow; our first day of school is July 27. I have no family here; but have several friends. I know that I have the support. My children do know what is going on--they were in the car when my gyn first called to tell me a mass was found.

I will get a call tomorrow afternoon. I am not even sure what to ask. I will write down what they say.

What specifically should I ask if it is cancer? I am mentally preparing myself---to hear---it is cancerous.

Sorry this is all over the place--my emotions have been all over the place. I did cry less today.

Ingerp

Unless it’s an “all clear” you need to get an appt with your breast surgeon. You can get a copy of your pathology report, ask any questions you have, and listen to the likely next step. It’s helpful to have someone with you as another set of ears. Taking notes is good. Try not to get ahead of yourself. One step at a time, and the next step is getting your diagnosis. Hang in there

JustBE

oh girl, this sounds very familiar. A little too familiar!

I didn't ask what the BI-RAD was in my report because I had no idea what that was or that I would even be discussing the possibility of cancer that morning. But I want to know!! I just had biopsy on Friday so I've got 5-10 biz days to wait but they said more like 5. I suspect these will be the longest 5 days of my life!

My fingers are crossed for you for tomorrow afternoon!

debmom70

it is BC.

OCDAmy

I'm sorry. This really sucks but I promise once you have the full picture and a plan in place it will get easier. This is a great community for help and support, so don't hesitate to ask. You can beat this.

Jadedjo

@justbe

I know what you mean. Way waaay too familiar. 

@debmom70

Listen to the others. And OCDamy is right. I been in some dark places and am still walking there right now since I was told but coming here has helped a lot. I've seen sparks of light just exchanging words with the people here.

They talked me through a lot and I have no doubt they will be here for you too whenever you need them.we all will be.

Blessed be.please take care of yourself.the wait might be long and stressful but the words "it's cancer" can hit quite hard too.

voraciousreader

register at the NCCN’s website and check out the professionals version of the breast cancer guidelines. Once you have the final pathology report, you can read the guidelines as they relate to your type of breast cancer. Having the knowledge will be a springboard for beginning your journey. Once you have a treatment plan in place, you will feel better. Also check out cancermath.net.

Thoughts and prayers to you and your kids. I am eight years away from diagnosis and I am doing well. My best advise? Pick your medical team and let them do the worrying. My team always gave me the best advise for ME. No regrets.

CoComedy

Sorry Deb! A breast cancer diagnosis is scary but I promise you WILL feel better once you have all the facts and a treatment plan in place!

I am halfway through my chemo regime and feel GREAT! Chemo hasn’t been bad at all and I never had any problems with my double mastectomy. Yes, I have a very positive attitude and why wouldn’t I??? BC is very treatable these days. You will be fine too. It’s just a slight pause in your life. Hang in there and come here for support. Talk to your DR too for an anti anxiety. No reason to suffer during these tough times. Take care!!