Mental Health

maureenbs

I am in remission. Thank The Good Lord! Now, it seems as if I have the clean-up the after math of my emotions during this past year. I am in therapy, but I have so many emotions even now. My children are adult children (18-21), and their lives seemed to be more important than what I was going through. For this last reconstructive surgery, none could be found by my bedside. I always thought that if something ever happened to me, I would be surrounded with family. It saddens me. Any ideas

keepthefaith

maureen, hang in there! It took me almost 2 yrs to finally come to grips with what had happened and I still struggle with worry at times....nobody else can understand unless they have gone through it. It's not that your family isn't there for you; they just don't know any better. They think it's over and that you are fine. It's good that you are going to therapy. Maybe a local support group would be helpful. Give yourself some time. It's almost like a grieving process, really. Your old self is 'gone' and you are forced to face your mortality. A hard pill to swallow. I felt like I had a dark cloud following me and then it gradually lifted and was gone. You have been through a lot, but you will get better! Best wishes.

Egads007

I ditto Keepthefaith. I was about 2 years before I let go of the sadness and wrapped my head around what had happened. It is a grieving process in many senses. Keepthefaithalso nailed it with emotions brought on by having our mortality dangled in our face, it goes against the human grain. It does fade and it is possible to come out the other side better, different, but better. As for your kids, maybe you could have a non-confrontational sit down with them and tell them what you’re feeling...they may not realize how their lack of support right now is impacting you. Their ages still put them in that ‘selfish ‘ zone, and sometimes they need a nudge...could make a difference. The therapy is good, smart move on your part. Hang in there, it can and will get better, just takes time.