Surgery-trying to decide

ColleenS80

hi all,

I’m trying to decide between lumpectomy and mastectomy. It’s killing me! I’d rather have lumpectomy, but I read that HER2+ makes us high risk for recurrence, and I do NOT want recurrence.

Does anyone have stories they’d like to share on what decision and why? I know it’s personal and I know I have to make my own choice, but I’m having a really hard time. My husband says “go with your gut” but my gut changes every twenty minutes. Part of me says, have a lumpectomy, the risk isn’t that much higher and you can avoid major surgery and multiple reconstruction surgeries. There are even studies that suggest you do better with lumpectomy than mastectomy. Then part of me says, you are high risk just have a mastectomy...if it comes back you’ll never forgive yourself.

Help! I’m driving myself insane.