Feeling anxious again, waiting for marker results

Cindymb

Hi ladies. I was diagnosed yesterday. IDC. All of a sudden I am getting panic attacks, thinking I will have triple negative, definitely need mastectomy, chemo. I'm so hoping and praying that it will be lumpectomy with some radiation. I have a job, 2 grown daughters I haven't told yet. One of which has had a terrible pregnancy and due in a month. Sorry for the rambling. I probably just need some reassurance that either option will be ok. Thanks 🤗

DebAL

Cindy, I'm sorry you are going through this. Easier said than done but try not to let your mind go too far ahead. Remember, treatment options are choices although in certain circumstances some of them will come highly recommended. There will be a lot of decisions you will make in the near future. Take a deep breath and seek support from your medical team, those close to you , and this forum. Waiting is one of the hardest parts of a breast cancer diagnosis. Try your best to stay busy and don't Google too much. Hugs and we are here for you!

HockeyChick_CA49

Cindy, I understand how you feel. I was just diagnosed with IDC. I'm waiting on HER2 status, already ER-/PR-. My anxiety is through the roof. Have to go for more scans to check if the cancer has spread beyond my LN.

I'm here if you want to chat.

Cindymb

hi Deb and Beth 🤗

My update is that I went to the breast surgeon on Wednesday the 6th. I got an MRI today. My other breast has some small benign looking things going on. We need to know what all that is before a lumpectomy or mastectomy is decided. I am a candidate for lumpectomy but honestly, if there's even a chance of anything becoming cancerous in that other breast, I'm considering getting them both removed. I dont ever want to go through this hell again. I know I'm ER+ and my lymph nodes still look ok. Still alot unknown. I have an appointment with the genetics doctor and plastic surgeon on the 18th. I dont cry as much but my chest feels constantly tight and anxious. Still cant tell my daughters anything.i am very thankful for my husband and my faith.

Deb, why did you need chemo and how have you been handling it? Thank you for your advice. It is all so overwhelming!

Beth, we will get through this. I am praying for you.

beach2beach

Hi Cindymb,

You are doing whatever you can do during this time. It's scary crazy, overwhelming and laden with" what if" thoughts. I was ER/PR + and Her2-. I had the option of a lumpectomy but due to many reasons I chose a dbl mastectomy. Mainly because I did not want to worry about making that decision later on the down line. It will be a year for me this August(surgery) but I was diagnosed in July. I opted for direct implants at the time of surgery. luckily for me I did not have a rough time with surgery or recovery. Everyone is so different. I have 3kids. 23,21 and 17. I didn't tell them until I knew everything I possibly could about my status and then told them I was doing what I felt was the most I could do for myself and planned on being around here for a while. I tried to make them feel the least stressed as I possibly could. My daughter took it harder than my sons.

Did they tell you the size of the area? I had the OncotypeDx test done after surgery and it came back as a 9. So no chemo for me. Depending on all the factors in your case, you may indeed have surgery and then wait until that test comes back. Ask the surgeon if he/she does that.

And you are correct, YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!

OCDAmy

Cindy, don't be afraid to ask for anxiety meds. It sounds like you might need them to get through this scary stage. They really helped me.