More waiting-need a pep talk!

Staceybee

I saw someone post that 80% of breast cancer is waiting, which is true and so excruciating. It took me a month from diagnosis of ILC to get a lumpectomy yesterday and I thought I would feel so relieved but now I am worried sick about the node biopsy results because one showed up as weird on my films. And of course I have neck and shoulder pain and abdominal pain which the surgery team so far has dismissed but I am convinced it is all connected and not good. I have young teenagers and I am most scared for them, they don’t know anything yet. Any suggestions to help me get through the coming days

Moderators

Hi Stacey,

We're so sorry for all you're going through -- but try not to worry yourself so much. We know it's hard, the waiting, and there are many of us here who have been where you are. It tough, but you can do it! Try keeping yourself busy by doing some of your favorite hobbies, read a book, go shopping, exercise. Try to stay calm and keep your mind busy -- we'll send good thoughts your way!

--The Mods

keepthefaith

staceybee,so sorry you are dealing with this. The waiting is absolute torture. I remember being so relieved when I had my LX. The time between my biopsy and SX was a month and it was excruciating for me. I tried to stay busy, take walks, read, journal, watch a funny movie, hang out with family or friends as much as possible and take one day at a time. Remember, worrying won't change the outcome, but it will change today. Enjoy the moment and don't let cancer take today away from you... I know it's easier said than done. If you find that you can't sleep or get too anxious, ask your Dr for meds. Stay away from Dr Google. Come here for support and BREATHE!!! ((HUGS))

Pattimills2017

Oh how I understand the waiting. I was diagnosed on February 11th of this year as needing open heart surgery. 3 days later I was diagnosed with breast cancer. The appointment with my breast surgeon was scheduled 1 month out. My heart surgeon would not touch me until we new more about my cancer. My breast surgeon would not touch me until my heart was fixed. Heart surgery was March 23rd. Lumpectomy and sentinel node removal was May 8th. Now waiting until June 7th for the results of the Oncotype DX testing before finding out the course of my treatment. I remember back in February that everything seemed like an eternity. Now I look back and it all seems like a blink of time. I keep that in mind while I wait some more. And 7 weeks of rads seems like such a long time. And not even knowing if chemo will come into play. I have learned on thing. God's timing is always perfect. Never early and never late. We shall play this waiting game together and learn to find comfort in our waiting.