Plastic Surgeon's "curve ball"...I'm upset!
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DATNY, as you know I agree with you.
The problem with DIEP is that if you are slender, there's nothing to take from. and there's also a high chance of losing the transplant and having complications. If I had been heavy in the thigh, they said something about taking from my thighs... but I'm not, and if they took the small stomach fat I had, I'd have maybe Double AA mounds AND a huge Cheshire cat scar on my stomach. Why would I do that to myself? Especially if there's a high risk of complications and damage to healthy parts of my body? Nah... not for me at all. BUT I do think natural fat is way better than implants with all their toxic mess and complications. If I were heavy, I would have more strongly considered those procedures.
That stated, in our facebook group Flat and Fabulous, we have a lot of women in pain with implants, and the women with Diep, s-gap, etc are in there due to failure or infection. We have both older and younger women in our group, but I do agree with DATNY that the younger generation has less issues rocking being flat since they've been raised in the era of feminism and choice. We have some amazing older ladies too, but less so and they wear prosthetics more. The bottom line is all the mounds are fake.. one is just internal and the other is removable/external.
I simply cannot understand why a woman would subject herself to so many additional surgeries and risks when she should be living.
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This is a great conversation and it is giving me a lot to think about. Lisey asks an important question about simply living without breasts and changing our focus. I will share why reconstruction is a important option for me:
I have always been large breasted, but have never been "perky." While I have great cleavage, I never liked my breasts without a bra. As I have aged and gained weight, my breasts have sagged terribly and frankly, look terrible. Shallow as it may be, I have envied women with beautiful breasts. When I was diagnosed two weeks ago, I viewed this as a way to finally get attractive breasts. "Making lemonade out of lemons." The "prize" for having breast cancer. It's all psychological...self-image, the losses in my life, trying to take a terrible situation and and somehow gain something from the outcome (other than good health). I have a youthful face and an old body. I am struggling with many external/internal issues that complicate this decision. I wish I were mentally healthy enough to go flat, but in all honesty, I am not sure I am. I want to find the best possible option for me.
I don't want to go through several surgeries, pain, possible failure....heck, I don't want to go through breast cancer, but here I am. I am trying to find a path that leads to wellness and doesn't create another void in my life.
Best and thank you to all who have written!
Mary
Dx 4/17/2018, Stage1, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Mary, you do you. We all have our hangups and issues (mine is going bald), so if breasts are important to you, then go for it. I just hope you are happy with the results as the ones I've seen don't look very realistic. Tissue transplant looks more natural imo.
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I was 5'3" and 125 pounds when I had my single side diep. It came out great you can call me crazy for the additional surgery but my overall health was excellent I healed with absolutely no complications. My scar incision is below bikini line and looks ok to me super flat stomach. I had fat grafting from my thighs 800cc, probably could use another graft after 7 years. I like that all the tissue is mine just rearranged. No foreign objects, both breasts feel the same. The diep has less feeling as far as nerves. I would do it again in a heartbeat for the results. The real breast was lifted about a c cup.
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