Coping with infertility

hausla01

Due to my BRCA2 gene, I had my tubes and one ovary removed almost a year ago at 34, plus bilat mastectomy with reconstruction. I'm trying to hang on to one ovary for a few more years to protect my heart, bones, and mood. I'm still struggling with learning to cope with infertility. I don't know that my husband has the patience or desire for adoption, we are needing to work on our relationship right now, anyway. I'm bombarded with pregnant ladies at work, Kids/babies all over tv, etc. It still hurts. Plus a family member suggested I volunteer for Big Brothers Big Sisters and it really just hurt me more, despite her good intentions. Another person said "at least you are alive". I suppose I would benefit from support from people who understand. How do i get over what people say when they are trying to help!!

NotVeryBrave

As someone who struggled with infertility for years - I know how hurtful those comments can be. And the feeling of being surrounded by babies everywhere.

I also was an L&D nurse for a long time and sometimes really struggled with women "accidentally" having babies all the time.

I ended up seeing a fertility specialist. My issues were not yours, but they can do some pretty amazing things. I don't know what your feelings are on that. I would recommend a consult if you haven't had one.