What to buy for my wife

jabberwocky57

I was thinking of buying my wife some kind of very comfortable pajamas to wear after surgery. She's having a bilateral mastectomy.

Does that sound like a good idea, and what would feel best? ( I know it's an opinion thing) It's turning to spring, so I'm thinking flannel is out.

Silk perhaps? Any suggestions or thought are appreciated.

Runrcrb

soft is ideal

Button front top

Slightly larger than her normal size

Luckynumber47

I got 2 pairs of button-up-the-front jammies from Soma when I had my surgery 2 years ago. They're a rayon blend, super comfy and I don't overheat at night. Button up the front is important because your wife won't be able to lift her arms over her head for a while. Mine have big chunky buttons on the front but they haven't bothered me, so don't be put off by that. They provide enough coverage that I could wear them without a robe if someone dropped by to visit after surgery. Oh, and I love them so much I still wear them every night.

Here's a link to a top I thought was cute on the Soma website: Cute pair of Pjs Tops and pants are sold separately so you can choose shorts or long pants to match. I put mine on in the hospital as soon as I woke up from surgery because I wanted out of that horrible gown.

Wishing your wife all the best. I listened to a lot of guided imagery tapes before surgery and took a prescribed klonopin the morning of surgery and breezed through with no worries

Lula73

something VERY soft and button up. Something with a long enough top that if she doesn’t want to fool with the bottoms she doesn’t feel exposed. If you opt for a nightgown, go on the shorter side so her legs don’t get all wrapped up in it. About mid-thigh to knee length works well.

LiMa66

First of all- kudos to you for being such a thoughtful and supportive husband. Secondly- ditto to what others have said. Soft for sure. Roomy. Button up. Not sure where you are but you might consider at least one short-sleeved capri style set. I felt warmer than usual after my surgery and found the long sleeves and pants too hot.

Prayers for y'all. This is the hard part, it really does get better. Eventually.

KBeee

You are so kind and thoughtful.

Ditto to what the others have said...soft. I'd say 2 piece, with capri length pants (between knees and ankles. Sorry, my DH would not have any idea what capri length is...but you might be better versed in this). Soft, button up shirts, and some type of soft sweats for around the house are great too for the days afterwards. I also wore a thin hoodie inside out over my clothes, and my drains were tucked into the pockets.

jabberwocky57

Thank you for the help! I definitely would have messed this up.

farmerlucy

I found comfortable zip up hooded sweatshirts at Walmart and Target that already had inside pockets. I still wear them six year later.

avmom

Hi Jabberwocky,

You are very thoughtful to consider what would be best for post surgery jammies for your wife. I agree wholeheartedly with the other posters here - soft soft soft against the skil ( on the inside) is very desirable. I'm a few years out, and still have a deep fondness for soft fabrics against my skin.

A few years ago, I had a set of pjs that were made from a two sided fabric. The outside was smooth and silky, but the inside was soft and fuzzy, like a micro fleece. The soft inside was comfortable, while the silky outside made it easy to slide out of bed. I also had a robe made of the same fabric.

I don't know if this type of fabric is even available in pyjamas any more, but a silky (synthetic fibre would be more “slippy" than natural silk) robe worn over fuzzy pjs might be the best of both. Right after surgery, you can't really use your arms to get out of bed, so a slippery robe might be just the ticket.

Best wishes to you and your wife. You can do this!