My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer

illimae

Great news Seeq, congrats 🎉

Micmel, doing well here. I take the sterile wrap off tomorrow and continue with my nightly foot lotion routine. They’re so pretty, I might never wear shoes again, lol.

Had a zoom follow up about my thyroid today. Tiny nodules are unchanged since discovered 4 years ago and assumed to be benign, no need to annual US, just labs and yearly follow up. Works for me.

I’m up 10lbs from the holidays and birthdays. I start tracking food and walking more on Monday to stay near my current weight or less. DH keeps complaining about his weight, do gently trying to get him on board too.

Bliss58

Tanya, congrats on your weight loss. I've lost 20 lbs., mostly Piqray related, but now on Verzenio my appetite's back and I'm stuck. Think I'll try your intermittent fasting for more loss. Sounds doable.

Karenfizedbo15

Sondra, like Tanya, I too need to steal Suckitude! Made me 😂 today!

moth

My attitude towards my adult kids is totally different - I pretty much ignore everything I'm honestly so glad to have them here that I do not care about the messes, the chaos, the piles of dirty clothes. We all do crafts & hobbies & we're 4 people + animals crammed into a pretty small space. I got used to having this mess during homeschooling them now I just barely notice anything. But then I also don't think of this as my house. It's our house - which I guess is a subtle difference in perception but it's been one that impacted our parenting since the beginning.

For ds, once in a while I stick my arm in with a spritzer of odor neutralizer and mist the air and then close the door - because holy cow young dudes are smelly lol. Ds does a lot of weird experiments too so for us there's more of 'have the fire extinguisher on hand' and 'wear eye protection!' advice. My ds doesn't clean his room. He doesn't do laundry regularly. He leaves incredible messes behind him. As long as he's happy, I'm happy.

I'm just back from my chemo treatment. It's also day 2 of 50mg of prednisone. I thought I'd be eating all the cupboards bare but instead I'm a bit queasy which it turns out is a SE of large steroid doses. I'm eating lots of little things and so far it's been ok. Going to take a walk with Olive now.

Micmel

how old are your children.? It doesn’t bother me as much either honestly.

moth

Mel, my kids are 26 (dd) and 22 (ds)

Micmel

Moth~I am also on the side of it not bothering me. I don't mind a little mess or clutter it never bothered me , still doesn't. I just want his room not to smell from under the door. Shower dude you work alll day. I am realizing that since covid began my DH has been here all the time. Working from our home. He used to have to leave Sunday nights and go back of of town to work all week. Now he is here and my son is finding it a little difficult because for years it's just been myself and the kids all week. I never really gave him shit. DH like things in order and doesn't go for science experiments or not helping out shoveling when we have a storm, or contribute if you expect to eat. All these things he needs to learn. I am pushing as I can. But part of me doesn't even want him. To move out , because then none of my kids will be at home with me anymore. It will just be myself and DH and I'm not sure if I'll go crazy or not. I know I Don't do things exactly as he would like I'm sure as well. But we are so lucky to have this man. I'm in such turmoil. Because it is his home too. He has a right to feel his way also. I'm stuck in the middle. Ugh my son just turned 24. That's not young.

moth

oh I'd hate to be stuck in the middle of that. I know I wouldn't push at all and would just be ah, hey everybody get over it and be calm. Skout's Honor Odor Remover (blue label) is da bomb, btw. It's unscented so it doesn't cover up anything, just gets rid of smells. Doesn't work instantly, takes about 30 min but it's very effective

mara51506

Tanya, I meant to say earlier, congrats on the weight loss for you and DH. Makes sense what you are saying. I tend not to eat after dinner either, not a big snacker myself. I eat the odd chocolate because I am slowly working through the plethora of ferrero rocher hazelnut covered in chocolate from my birthday in November and Christmas goodies. They are still here because I have a strict limit on this kind of stuff. We will see what happens anyway.

SeeQ

moth - yes, with kids growing up it was 'our' house, and everyone was expected to pitch in and reap the benefits. Our house has never been immaculate. The kids had very trivial 'chores' until adding laundry in high school. However, when returning to the nest after military and college, (all) they needed to look after was their own messes and not expect maid service, plus show common courtesy. We did not have not terribly high standards for their rooms, but yeah, if I could smell it in the living room that was too much - and no food messes to attract bugs! (Florida) Pretty basic stuff. To each his own.

GoldensRBest

Good Morning all! So very excited as our COVID vaccines have met some threshold of being 95% protective, we are venturing out to visit our kids on the east side of the state. I’m so looking forward to time with the grandkids but the real reason is to see this little girl before she is full grown and in dog world that happens quickly. I need me a fix of puppy breath.

Meet Merlot -

Merlot came from the Golden Retriever Rescue of Wisconsin, as did their other dog, Maverick. We will be taking our 3 goldens as well. Sure to make for more fun and more chaos! But all the dogs have gotten along so it will be interesting to see how the pup fits in. She is about 16 weeks now. Fortunately we will arrive while kiddos are in school so the initial meet and greet will take place without boisterous children.

Have a wonderful weekend friends!

Micmel

Adorable! Snuggle time. Have a safe trip.

BevJen

Goldens,

Oh, Merlot is SUCH a cutie. I'll bet you can't wait to squeeze her! That would be a mood lifter for me for sure.

Tanya_Djamila

Goldens so happy for you guys!!!! You’re free.

The puppy is adorable

I’m trying to fight it but I’m full of suckitude this week.

Tanya

Micmel

Tanya ~congrats on your and hubby's weight loss. I'm jealous. I open my mouth and I gain. Although I do have a sweet tooth. I don't eat a lot during the day and I've always fasted. I have one cup of coffee, then dinner at 600. That's it. Some sweet snacks during tv. But nothing major. It's the medication for me. It has to be. The way I eat I should be a rail. Not to mention the family stress. 😕

Mae~ thrilled you're thrilled with your tattoos! Colorful and lovely.

Micmel

It seems like the week before scanning drags. The time the second you're done. Flys. Waiting to scan sucks. Just rather get it over with. Luckily I only have a five minute drive to the hospital. I can come right home.

moth

squeeeeal, puppy!!! Adorbs!

Weather has been improving here and I'm trying to be more intentional with Olive and the games we play. She loves agility and I hope to get some energy to set up some runs for her. Yesterday I felt jittery rather than energetic from the steroids but we will see how day after chemo is. Chemo fatigue and steroid mania will fight it out lol

booboo1

Goldens,

I’m not sure the “cute” factor can be any higher. That puppy is SO adorable. Give a squeeze from Aunt Laurie!

Moth,

I am now on 40 mgs. of Prednisone for my Sarcoidosis flare up. So I am with you on how jittery you can get on this crap.

Mel, you are not eating enough. I hope you were joking when you said a cup of coffee for the whole day and then dinner. Did I misunderstand?

I am awaiting for the arrival of DH. He comes home today from rehab. Will see how things go. I really want to make my marriage work, but alcohol is not coming back into our house. It’s either that or me. So still on the fence about moving back to PA. Time will tell. I’m truly hoping we are on a good path to wellness.

booboo1

Tanya,

Hope you are okay, my friend. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you.

moth

Tanya, big hugs. Let us know what we can do for you.

Laurie - oh boy. I'm hoping the best for you & your dh. Is there an al-anon for you to go to? I wish you didn't have this on your plate.

candy-678

Hello all.

SeeQ- Woohoo on the stable scan.

Well I got my 2nd Covid vaccine (Moderna) on Wednesday afternoon. By Wed evening I had chills, fever, headache and nausea. I had a continuous fever for the next 36 hours. Up to 102 degrees. I have not been that sick (not really sick with this, just the immune system thinking it is fighting an invader) in a long time. I live alone and I wished I could train my cat to get me a drink of water or bring the Tylenol bottle to me. Haha. But, true that it made me think of when the cancer gets worse and I am sick from the treatments how will I do it. .... Anywho... I am still glad I got the vaccine. Today I am better but still not 100%, temp down to 99.6 and mild nausea.

Now to get caught up on reading posts.

Micmel

BooBoo~actually I wasn’t joking. My body isn’t hungry. The thought of eating makes me sick. Ibrance makes my mouth very sore on my weeks on. So it’s hard for me to enjoy anything to eat. I’ve tried all the mouthwashes and yogurts and doctor ordered stuff. It just doesn’t help. I’ve always been this way though. Small lunch. Then dinner. Before cancer. Now I’m just not hungry and I cannot taste it to enjoy anything. My mouth always burns. It’s not enjoyable. Most days I don’t even get hungry. I could go days without eating and it wouldn’t even phase me. I’ve mentioned it to my doctor. He said I should try to eat, but when my body is hungry I will eat. He didn’t seem overally worried because my blood work is always spot on. Ruined taste buds from heavy chemo...... just like neuropathy of the tongue. I guess you could say.

Rosie24

Candy, Sorry to hear about your bad time after the vaccine. It sounds miserable, even if it was just a reaction and not an illness. But soon you'll have that immunity we're all hoping to get. Hug to you. 🌺.

Micmel

Candy~ my goodness! I hope you’re doing better I cannot believe you had such side effects. It makes someone not want to even get the shot. I’m sending you a hug. I hope you’re feeling better and I am sorry you had that happen.

Micmel

Suckitude - the act of admitting your attitude sucks and you could give a shit.

Karenfizedbo15

Candy - feel better soon! I think I will take an antiemetic on the morning of second jab as had to take one after the first.

Mel - recent experience has me empathising with you re the eating, cooking etc. On the new drug (xeloda) the smell just puts me off and feel sick at the thought of food. My DH feeds me home made soup, in a small mug, which helps as does figuring out the time of day best to eat!

Micmel

I’m sick of bland soft things. I miss my hot wings and pepper. I miss just being able to eat without it coming back up on me. Nothing carbonated like soda. Seltzer is ok. Nothing heavy or too creamy. I love steak though lol and seafood of any kind . Now
I’m a little hungry.

cowgal

I got the Moderna vaccine Tuesday in the afternnon. I am in my last week of my Ibrance cycle before I get the week off and I definitely had fatique, fever, chills, swollen lymph nodes, achy arm, and a mild head ache. I came home from work the next night and was in bed by 8:30. My husband had to put extra blankets on me as I couldn't get warm. They say the second dose is worse but I will be glad to have it behind me as I have been working and trying to isolate as much as I can.

GoldensRBest - Enjoy your trip! a mountain of rambunctious goldens sounds wonderful!

Reading through a lot of the posts, it looks like a fair amount in our group are a little down. Hopefully, things will improve.

I started acupuncture for my back and sciatica issues. Too early to tell but hopefully, it will alleviate the pain. The doctor said he would address the neuropathy in both my feet as well.

illimae

Karen, I hope the food issues subside soon. I had problems early on with Xeloda too but after finding the right SE meds and some time to adjust, my appetite improved (too much maybe). Hang in there.

mara51506

Tanya I am sorry your week is full of suckitude, that is definitely an apt description for me. Was very tired today but did manage to get some walking in. Went to a local food place that has really good frozen food section, steps above a grocery store and got some frozen, pre seasoned burgers to cook up in my Breville. Much less expensive than the burger place. Will be nice to either chop it up after cooking it and add to some beans for additional protein with beans, we will see. I still have taco seasoning to use and I will see. I did wind up taking the bus part of the way which was good to do. Still had to walk approx 15 mins but it got me closer to home. Sidewalks are now freezing and thawing so parts of them are slippery. I usually walk on the road. Was nice and sunny though.

Goldens, I would even want to hug that cute little dog and I am a cat person at heart. Very cute.

Missed so many other posts, just hoping weeks are improving, Candy I am glad you are on the road to recovery. Side effects are so hard to predict. On a lot of these vaccines I hear there may be sickness for a couple of days as the body fights the invader. That was an appropriate analogy.