Feeling Sad Today - Anyone Else!

DancingElizabeth

Hi All,

Just was wondering if anyone is feeling sad as well...

It's Thanksgiving and I really don't wanted to see my DH's family.

I just want to hide in my room with the covers over my head...

I dread having to answer questions from DH's family...none of which have gone through cancer...I can't stop crying..

TwoHobbies

Scared, hugs to you. I remember that feeling facing relatives soon after treatment, but as it turned out, it was good because we didn't talk about it and it was good to not think about it and be my normal self again. Have your set answer prepared if you don't want to talk about it and move the conversation along to something else.

I was kind of excited going to Thanksgiving yesterday, but today I kind of don't want to go either. Mostly I don't want to cook what I said I would.

Hang in there and let me know how it went!

blueteal

hi there.. im sorry you feel that way, if it makes you feel better you're not the only one. I'm guessing the feeling of sadness will never go away. If it's not the cancer it's the trauma of the process of cancer. I've been on tamoxifen for almost 3 months now and I feel anxieties and sadness almost every day. I just want to curl in a ball and cry. Why? I don't know.. I guess it's the meds, giving me depression. Anybody else have this problem?

DancingElizabeth

Thanks Twohobbies and Blueteal...it turned out to not be as bad as I thought it would..

I feel like it's going to be a very long and difficult road dealing with the after-effects of treatment and hormonal treatment...

Sometimes I wonder if I will *ever* feel normal again....maybe it's not possible

Claire_in_Seattle

Hi Scared. You are right at the end of radiation, and also just started hormonal therapy. The great news is that you are at the end of active treatment, which is tough going. Things really do get better and I expect you will be feeling a lot perkier by New Year's if not Christmas.

You will feel tons better once your hair starts to grow back, even if it's a year or so before you are really happy with your new style.

One thing I did for myself once I got brows and lashes was get a makeover at one of the top makeup brands. I credit Lizzie as being very instrumental in creating my "new look". It may all be vanity, but a bright lipstick does wonders for a woman.

If you can get out and exercise, it will greatly help your spirits as well as being good for everything else.

You should be just fine by next Thanksgiving. Yes, things will have changed, but that happens to all of us.

Seven years post chemo Thanksgiving, I am more than fine. I have a rich, full, and active life. As a matter of fact, just discovered that leftover pumpkin custard is just the thing post 25 mile bicycle ride in the rain.

Feel better. In your shoes, I would be planning a fabulous New Year's celebration to kick off a new year, and bit an un-fond farewell (with friends, not DH's family) to a year that was less than fun.

In fact, I did much the same thing at the end of radiation, but since it was June, I had a "global virtual wine party" to celebrate my new life ahead. Happy 2017!!!! - Claire

DancingElizabeth

Thanks Claire - for your very kind and inspirational post! 25 miles is awesome!!! Congrats on being 7 years out from treatment!!