Vulnerability and shame

Lily55

I was sent this video to watch as I feel so disconnected from "normal" people.....would be interested to know what you make of it as I have told people how I feel and how vulnerable and ashamed I feel and apart from a psychologist they all either denied it, said I look fine, you would never know...........etc and have not found any ordinary person, ie a non BC veteran, who actually understands ......

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o

Lily55

Am I really the only person who has a sense of shame and huge vulnerability?

farmerlucy

This is awesome Lilly - I haven't made it quite all the way through but I loath vulnerability and am the queen of numbing. I come from a long line of stoic Swede numbers! Thanks for the link. I'm going to finish it then share on my Facebook.

farmerlucy

Here's a live link. MelissaDallas taught me the magic of a hard return when posting a link!

Oakmoss

Hi, Lily, I didn't know this person, but I liked her talk. Some of us probably are confronted by feelings like vulnerability and shame sooner than others. My father died when I was a very little girl, and believe me, I knew I was vulnerable then! It's the big stuff in life that grabs your attention. I also contracted, as a young adult, a nasty chronic illness, and boy, did that reinforce the feeling of having to struggle in an often hostile world. To me, one of the most important things she said concerned learning to live with uncomfortable feelings and states. When I got sick years ago, I realized I had to show myself a lot of compassion, especially because others didn't always do so, and also because it does start with ourselves.

I hope what I've written makes some kind of sense. I had surgery today and I've learned that I say all sorts of things in the aftermath of general anesthesia.