A Girl Walks Into A Bar...

SpunkyGirl

Well, I was actually going in to get a haircut, but I'm jumping ahead of my story. We'll get back to that. Ten years ago this week, I had my surgery, my husband was resuming his treatments for brain cancer (he died in 2011), and his mom died the same week of cancer. To say that this month brings me mixed emotions is an understatement.

So, fast forward to October, 2015. It was a little past the four year anniversary of my husband's death, and I was thinking about dating, but how do you do that with the physical and emotional scars that we carry? You do it Spunky Girl style:). So, I walked I to get my haircut, and there was something about the guy at the checkout counter-the words real, solid and handsome spring to mind. I started asking questions about him to my stylist of ten years (is he married, etc.) and find out that they were high school buddies and he's a "great guy". On our second date, I told him about being a breast cancer survivor, and he shook my hand and replied, "Congratulations, I'm a recovered alcoholic!" Lesson learned, girls. We all carry some kind of heavy baggage:). That was ten months ago, and we are in love and looking ahead. My two boys are 15 and 13, and so far are cool with it.

The longer I live and look around, the more dysfunction I see in many people and in their relationships. I don't want to be one of those people. I just want to live and love fully. Don't let your self-worth be guided by this journey. We are so much more than our breasts. Am I still scared some days? You bet! I have to keep reminding myself that NO ONE knows what tomorrow holds, so I am going to live for today, or try my best to.

God bless you all. I'm sure that if I had Weesa helping me write this, it would be a lot funnier and you would be picking yourself up off the floor. I do hope my words give you hope and faith. I love you, and pray for us all.

Peace,

Bobbie

sugarplum

All props to Weesa (!) but nevertheless you've told us a wonderful story on your own & I SO appreciated reading it

I've also been lucky in love - although it's tempered quite a bit after 32 years! - and wish the same for all of us...

Julie

YATCOMW

Bobbie....

I have followed you on your journey and was so sad when you lost your husband with two young children. I was impressed with your strong will and resilience. I am cheering from the sidelines that life hands you everything you wish for.

Best,

Jacqueline

lkc

wonderful for you Bobbie. Enjoy . There is so much happiness for us on the other side

NancyD

This is wonderful news! I so love hearing how life does go on for us.

Momof2inME

Congratulations!

Love hearing such an inspiring story.

Elizabeth1959

What a heart warming story. I am delighted for you. Wishing you nothing but happiness

Elizabeth

weesa

Bobbie, you have always been a part of my journey here and have always been in my thoughts. Who can ever forget your dark days! So heartwarming to know you are thriving.

(I scraped around in my diabolical brain for something riotously funny to say, and nothing comes to mind. I just feel plain and simply mushy inside for you. I think mush trumps funny.)

Great admiration from afar for you, always, weesa

lauren32

Really loved reading your story thank you for sharing it! Wishing you many more years filled with love and Happiness

Moderators

What a beautiful story Bobbie!

Thanks so much for sharing it

lexi4

Your post makes me so happy Bobbie. Happy that you are well and happy that you have found love again.

Hugs,

Lex

jumbledbamboo

Thank you for sharing this☺my very best to you !

live_deliciously

congrats Bobbie on falling in love again and having the courage to move forward. Thanks for sharing such a wonderful story.

ash123

Such a wonderful post.. Thank you for sharing it and all the best.

peacestrength

Wonderful, Bobbie...so good to read your story!

hopefour

So thankful your journey of sorrow has lead you to a season of joy and that you have the courage to reach and embrace it!! Thank you for sharing!! Keep us posted!!

SSInUK

Thank you so much for sharing this. Can't imagine being brave enough to hope to beat my shitty odds and dare to try a new relationship - but you have given me at least a fantasy. V good luck and best wishes for your happiness, sounds deeply deserved. Go Bobbie!

Denise-G

What wonderful news!  Brought tears to my eyes!  Thanks for sharing that good things can

happen after much pain and suffering!  Celebrating for you!

karen1956

Bobbie, so happy for you!!!

Scamp

Thank you for sharing! This gives me hope. Many blessings to you