Tamoxifen and anti-depressants

hannahstripe

Ok Ladies! For years, I have been a stalker on this site - rarely posting but often reading and feeling so much better to know that so many go through and feel the way I feel. Well, now it is time to come out as I desperately need some advice. I am coming up on completing year 4 of being NED! I know - I am so lucky and grateful. I have been taking tamoxifen almost that long. I am very fortunate to not have dealt with too many side effects - the occasional hot flash and definitely some moodiness.

The husband and I have a somewhat rocky relationship - it can be good for a while and then we begin to fight a lot again. Story of every marriage - he thinks it is me and I think it is him. I am trying to listen and have an open mind - he says that it is the tamoxifen and it is making me act crazy and huge mood swings. I know it is not that simple, he has some of his own issues that play into some of this but what if he is right? I finally gave in and let him call my oncologist and talk to her. There was a mention of antidepressants. I haven't talked to her yet so I only know what he told me she said. But I am worried about taking an anti-depressant, especially if I do not need one.

I do feel angry at him a lot. He is incredibly moody and I think that is a major factor ( maybe he needs meds but we can't talk about that....) but maybe he is right and I just can't see it....

I have 2 wonderful teen/pre-teen daughters who say I can be moody at times but they do not seem to think it is too bad...

Any advice/thoughts would be helpful. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about all of this.....