This is not weird! I am not crazy!!

MFalabella

Body shaming over large breast "moo" is rude and insensitive. I had DD breast and had to be reduced to C cups. I miss my breasts. Just came here for some much needed confidence. even though my surgeon thought it best not to have mastectomies.

Lisey

MF, I don't think anyone is body shaming others.. we are just speaking about our former selves. I felt udder-like on occassion with mutant 34DDs. I'm grateful to be smaller - though flat isn't really what I had in mind, I'm trying my best to rock the flat. I have been called thinner and some of my friends say this is how they always pictured me, never with the huge boobs I had.

barbe1958

Lisey, that is a perfect top for being flat! I find that "busy" tops, ruching, pleats or any kind of fullness distracts from the flatness.

And no, I wasn't body shaming anyone, I was just stating an opinion. This is supposed to be a safe venue and judgement is not welcome.

glennie19

Lisey, you are rocking that look!

MFalabella

Not judging, just sad

Lisey

MF, this is a board where we trumpet our flatness, and compare the differences. It's probably best you not read our pro-flat journeys then because nearly all of us felt we had udders and are thrilled to not have to deal with them anymore. Why come on here if you are Size Cs? If we are extolling the virtues of being flat, we use how we felt negatively with big boobs as an example. You are the norm, and we here on this board are fighting a society standard of the norm... you're going to have to expect some boob negativity on a board that is FOR US... you are an interloper! lol.. I"m just teasing you, but please remember this board is for those of us who DONT choose recon... so please be respectful to OUR feelings.

ksusan

I liked my large breasts, I had no negativity about them, I miss them, and I'm down with no recon. I never once thought of them as "udders." I'm not "thrilled" not to have them. Neither am I particularly distressed.

barbe1958

I had a reduction when I was about 45 or 46 and had beautiful breasts!!! Better than the originals in fact. Do I miss them....yes....would I get recon...no. It took a couple of years before I had any sensation on my left side for some reason, so I had an idea what recon would be like.

Lisey

Indeed we all handle our body changes differently. For me, finding all the negatives with my old breasts helps make me feel more comfortable with not having them. Perhaps one day I'll miss them, but right now I'm in a good riddance mode - the things tried to kill me and hurt like hell. I also think I was abnormally large for my size, and my breasts were a huge focus for men, which wasn't what I wanted. I had numerous people think I was trying to 'playboy' myself with fake breasts. I'm glad I'm not seen like that anymore.

boricua_63

Hello ladies

I went on Tuesday to removed my tissue expander, ( it got infected) and I feel so good. And no, I'm not having a reconstruction after I finish chemo.

No more pain, discomfort , etc.

Hope everyone have a good day!

Lisey

Good decision boricua. That's exactly what I did too. Be prepared for some extra scar tissue - since our pec muscles were ripped apart. I'm going to have to go to a rehabilitation PT to remove the tightness I still have. But no more pain since they are gone!

dottyrobin

Thanks for the info.& inspiring me. I see surgeon soon and I too opt to not have recon.

solfeo

I don't miss mine either. I wasn't sure if I wanted recon or not when I had my BMX. There was some mild pressure from the surgeons to do immediate recon but I thought I should live without them for awhile just to see how I would adjust. Now on my follow ups I always tell the BS that the longer I go without them the less I want them.

Mine were huge (DDD), heavy and cumbersome, and I also use the word "free" a lot when describing how I feel without them. I had years of benign breast problems (first breast surgery at age 12) so I also like to say they never brought me anything but trouble, including various breast men in my life. haha

Sherrob

You are certainly not weird or crazy. After a failed lumpectompy I chose to move on to a mastectomy and I had the second breast done as a preventative measure. My surgeon presented me with all the options at evey step of the way and repeatedly said he would do whatever I chose to do. When I told him about my double mastectomy descision he supported me and when I said make me flat, no reconstruction. He never once tried to get me to do anything different. He really did make me flat and it is absolutely fabulous, I joined a group of ladies on facebook that are flat like me either single or double who have also chosen no reconstruction. You should check out the facebook page for Flat and Fabulous, it is an awsomeley supportive group.

88leah

Dear Mydogspot - I hope your surgery goes well! Please post an update when you are well enough, because I am sure everyone who has read your post is very concerned, as I am. I am sorry your surgeon and team have pressured you so much! I just had a left unilateral mastectomy (I'm new to all this, so don't know all the abbreviations) and I was not pressured at all to reconstruct. I am so happy with my decision, which I never second-guessed. I just wanted to post a message of support and hope that you are doing well.

boricua_63

mydogspot, good luck with your surgery.

Hugs💕💕