Article for family of cancer pts to know what NOT to say to them

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Artista928
Artista928 Member Posts: 2,753
edited March 2016 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/mar/...


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  • LisaAlissa
    LisaAlissa Member Posts: 1,092
    edited March 2016

    Wonderful article. Thank you so much for posting it.

    Even one of the comments had an amazing insight for me. I hadn't realize that the attitude that engenders so many of the silly things that people say that are so hurtful is a continuation of an attitude out of the Middle Ages that illness is a sign of sinfulness and failure.

    It never has made sense: "if only we can live "right"--do all of the right things we will never get ill and, consequently will never die." But it's all about fear.

    Thank you very much for posting it...I almost didn't read it, but am very glad I did!

    LisaAlissa

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  • octogirl
    octogirl Member Posts: 2,804
    edited March 2016

    Thank you! I have been wallowing in a bit of self-blame the last day or two...and this really helped. We shouldn't say these stupid things to ourselves either!

    Hugs!

    Octogirl

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  • StaceySue2U
    StaceySue2U Member Posts: 281
    edited March 2016

    This part really resonates with me:

    "Don't tell a sick or injured person what they should do, because it's a sneaky and harmful way of dealing with your own fear of death. You're saying, tsk tsk – I wouldn't let this happen to me the way you've let it happen to you."

    Honestly - I think that's what all the "cancer prevention" advice in the media is. It's just a way for people to convince ourselves that we have control over their health and, if we follow the rules, it won't happen to us. I followed the D(*& rules.

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