Biopsy results...

JACTsMom

DCIS.

F&@K!

JoniB

So sorry to hear your results. We will support each other.

Boyd748

So sorry!

reflect

JACTsmom, I am sorry. You know we all support you. ((Hugs))

Sarasmiles

I am so very very sorry.

JACTsMom

Your support is appreciated, thank you so much. It was a long night finally telling my family the news and what I've been going through and having to say "I have breast cancer" to my children. I did all I could to reassure them how early it was caught and I'll be just fine blah blah blah but my 14 yr old son took the news badly - as I knew he would - and shortly after I told him I found him sitting alone in the backyard in the dark crying.

vbishop

Once you know a little more (grade, for example) and what the treatment plan is, you may want to your son to an oncology apt with you so he can ask the doctor questions or hear from the horse's mouth that you're one of the lucky ones in how early it is caught.  Just a thought.

reflect

I read somewhere that it's good to say that you "intend to live for a very long time", and that is comforting to the kids and also true. There's also a section in All Topics here I think, about talking to kids. My mom said that to us when she had a heart attack and breast cancer within six months. (And, she has lived a very long time since then.) I hope goes well.

ayr1016

JACTsMom oh, that breaks my heart about your son. My son has reacted similarly. My son actually asked me "are you going to die?" and I reassured him that I intend to do everything in my power to live a long time". So sorry about your diagnosis.

Geeper

JACTsMom- sorry to hear your results. My 14year old son also reacted the same. He is so upset and I catch him crying too. It breaks my heart. I act so strong in front of him and reassure him that everything is going to be fine and not to dwell on it. We have to just keep on fighting and be strong! Sending you a virtual hug.

ChiSandy

I told my son that I intend to live long enough to be a burden on him in my old age and use up a chunk of his inheritance in the process. (Being a comedy writer, he got the dark humor....but being a lawyer’s kid, also asked me to set up a trust....._

JACTsMom

Thank you ladies - great advice. This site has been so comforting to me and has the best info. Today I'm feeling very sad. I'm worried and afraid. All I know at this point is DCIS Cribriform - final path rpt prob tomorrow. Appt w surgeon Wednesday. I know at this point it all looks like I'm lucky it was found early,is not invasive etc but cancer is cancer I guess and at the moment it feels very dark and heavy.

JACTsMom

Ok that's enough of that! That was fast feeling sorry for myself huh?! Time to turn on some loud fun music and clean the kitchen!

reflect

Personally, I favor some Steely Dan--really loud--for my kitchen cleaning. What do you like?

Jujubee16

There's the fighter coming out to clean the kitchen! Good for you. Yes you did catch it early and that's a blessing but you're allowed to be as angry as you want to be. Have your moments and then back to regularly scheduled programming. Don't allow cancer to take over and you lose yourself in the process. Do everything you must do to be healthy again but do it YOUR way. My way has been with a sense of humor and a positive outlook. I wasn't as lucky as you (mine is invasive and DCIS in one breast) yet I feel extremely lucky to have caught it and to be on my way to health. Double mastectomy 2/9...yipeee said no one EVER! Just kidding....anything that gets rid of this cancer is a blessing in my book. No matter how tough or unpleasant. So no feeling sorry for yourself. Sending tons of positive vibes your way. You're going to do great and serve as an inspiration to others. Happy cleaning

JACTsMom

Steely Dan and I like so many different types of music - today I went old school with some 70's greatest hits! Tomorrow I may blast Andrea Bocelli!

JACTsMom

Thank you Jujubee16 - you're funny, smart and beautiful. I support you and I care.

BethL

Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I don't clean the kitchen...I paint. House is starting to look amazing! I find that if I don't keep busy I either fall aslero, or get depressed. So paint it is!

I have 4 boys, 2 older who remember my first battle 10 years ago. They all took it well because they saw that I overcame it before and believe I will again. I wish I was so confident, but to them I am. Helps alleviate some of their fears.

ml143333

Jactsmom - I am so sorry that you joined out club, but once you know your staging and a game plan, you will feel a bit better.  Do talk with your MO about bringing your son with you so that he can ask questions.

My son was 13 when I was diagnosed, one daughter was 12 and the other 19.  My son cried a bit when my husband and I told the kids, but he was trying to hold it back.  I hugged him and told him it was okay to cry, be mad, and to laugh and we would get through this together.  He was pretty stoic through it all and he and I have a really great relationship now.  My younger daughter was a puddle of tears and did ask the question "are you going to die?'  I told her that I asked my doctor the very same thing and he said "Yes, you will die someday, but it won't be from breast cancer."  I told her that meant that I would be okay.  She was a huge help to me throughout my treatment and still is.  My oldest was away at college and on the phone when we told the younger kids.  She cried for a bit.  Because she was away at college for most of my treatment, she doesn't get it like the two youngest.  She's also my step-daughter.  Although I know she loves me and was worried for me, it wasn't in the way that it would be for her mom and I understand that.

Know that we are here for you!