Mom with BC is fine...but I'm not?

shootingstar930

My mom underwent a total mastectomy with expander placement. She started chemo last week. Throughout this process she has grown very excepting and is always so positive. I'm so happy she is in good spirits and staying active. I however, can't seem to get out of this 'funk'. I have fun with my mom and put on a brave face and most of the time feel fine! I'm so thankful! But I still feel sad a lot. My boyfriend always says I'm doing so well given the situation and taking care or everything. I'm 23. However today he wants to plan to do something and I get stressed easily and can't just plan something! I know I'm over thinking it and my mom tells me I'm crazy to not get out on days off... Just been through an emotional roller coaster lately! Help!

mrenee68

First I'm sorry about this situation, it can take you by surprise and knock you to the ground. Have you thought about talking to a therapist? A cancer diagnosis for anyone can be a huge reality check, even if you aren't the one with the cancer. It makes you think about how each day isn't a given and how much people mean to us. You need time to process and deal with the roller coaster of emotions but sometimes it can help to talk to someone to help sort out your feelings. Take care

pajim

shootingstar, you're going through the shock/grief process just as your mother is. You're simply doing it differently. And it's possible that your Mom is putting on a brave face for you just as you are for her.

I agree with mrenee68 that if you feel your reactions are affecting your life, you should talk with someone. Doesn't have to be a therapist. You could try the Cancer Support Community, or her cancer center probably has a support group for families.