Feeling very overwhelmed

Cherey

I was diagnosed a little over a month ago. The weeks before and after dx were horrible. I had to really lean on all my supports which helped so much. I'm starting chemo in the next week or two - waiting for insurance. So annoying! I'm really sad about shaving my hair. Everyone says "it will grow back" and I know it will but I'm still sad. I am also surprised how fatigued I am and I haven't even started chemo yet. Im feeling overwhlemed with how much time it has taken to deal with this. Anyone else up this late?

Skittlegirl

Sorry that you have found yourself here.

I was diagnosed almost a month ago and just started chemo. I was pretty tired for the week following port placement and now that the chemo has started. I think all the stress and the "this is really going to happen" feelings after getting the port in added to the fatigue. Hang in there!

littleblueflowers

Hey lady, we've all been where you are now. Thanks for reaching out to us. It's completely ok to feel fatigued and overwhelmed- the emotional and physical impact of diagnosis is staggering. It sounds like you are moving forward though. Losing my hair was hard for me too. Its normal. Hair is such a part of our identity! I shaved my head and told myself it was my war shave lol- it made me a warrior woman so I could fight this disease. I stopped wearing a wig 1.5 mos post chemo. You will be fine, sister. Big hugs!

27heart

Hey there, here's a big hug for you. Yes, the weeks of waiting for the dx, and the weeks after are the hardest. And you're past them! Insurance is a pain in the a**, but can serve as a good distraction to take your mind off your dx.

It is perfectly okay to be scared of losing your hair! I cried when I shaved mine. But you'll be glad to hear that it now takes me 10 minutes to get out of the house because there's no need to tame my hair. And no more cleaning stray hair out of the sink. It's not all that bad. You could start looking at wigs! Pick the hairstyle / colour you've always wanted to try. Take the chance to go shopping!

See a psych if you need to. I'm seeing one and she helped me get through the worst days. We need strong minds to get past this ordeal, so remember to stay sane!

We're all here for you. Love, P

Cherey

Thanks so much for the quick reply. I forgot to mention I just had the port placed last week. I wondered if me being tired was because of that. Thanks for sharing!

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Cherey

Yes, counseling helps a lot. I like that - war shave. I will remember that. And actually I have thought about the fact that having no hair will take a lot less time in the mornings. That is a plus for sure. I was relucant to look at wigs but I saw online that its a good idea to look. So I did. Im going again next week. Im glad I went. Thanks for understanding, being so kind and for making me smile.

Tninj

Hi. Overwhelmed, for sure. I was just diagnosed this afternoon with invasive ductoral carcinoma. I just turned 40 in May and received what I thought was a clean mammogram report from my first (baseline) mamm.

I have a 7 & 4 year old (little girls), and my head is spinning.

I'm so anxious that I haven't eaten or slept since the call.

How can I get through this shock?

Does anyone recommend counseling immediately

Thank you...

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