Feeling Alone

FemaleAthlete

Ok, so I'm not really alone per-se - I'm worth my dad in a completely different state - CO; my family it's out East.

I had surgery last week and no one from my family sent me a card nor flowers but they did skype me after surgery. Should I be happy with what I got? Am I expecting too much from them?

I'm just really feeling the impact of this whole BC thing and am having a difficult time with it.

I'm feeling fat and lazy - I'm used to working out on a daily basis.

TIA

Englishmummy

Hello Tia,

First of all, be kind to yourself. I think your emotions run wild after the first week ( I had my surgery 6.10) as the s!#t they fill you with leaves your system, and it will get better.

My family are all still in England and Spain so I feel the pain of not being close to family, even though I have my hubby and children are here in Colorado Springs, I still miss my mum and the rest of the crew....going through this without my mum, well, let's say I didn't think I could do it. My children are young so we have not involved them too much so it is really just me and my hubby. I'll be honest and say at times, he just didn't get ' it' as hard as he tried!

As far as your family go: I think people don't know what to say, write, or send afterall it is not a joyous occasion like having a baby, and let's face it "Get Well Soon" just doesn't set right. Do also remember phones and skype work both ways. If you feel like reaching out, do. Call them. I have found lots of people don't realize how quick you recover - they think you're bedridden for weeks. Maybe they don't call because they think you're resting and may disturb you? My sister-in-law could not believe I was doing laundry 2 days after, she thought I'd be asleep for a week!! Working out, that's hard. I missed it, I am no athlete but it is my sanity. I started walking on the eliptical at the end of week 1 (with Dr's consent). By week 4 I was back running 3.5 miles daily and doing bicep and tricep exercises...I had reconstruction with TE so have restricted movement for 6weeks no pec movements. It goes by fast and though I doubt my routine compares to yours, I was merely hoping to show you will be back in the game soon!

Don't feel lazy, remember if you push things too fast you may end up setting yourself back. Just think about healing. Feeling alone is normal, but you only have to look around here to know that's not true.....

I extend a virtual hand to hold or squeeze. It really will get better.

Laura

Positive_spirit

hang in there Tia....I know this is hard. During times like these, those of us on this forum are there for each other. Letting you know that your feelings are validated and felt by many here. Even those with family nearby struggle with not getting enough support.

kittysister

I agree with Positive. The most comfort and support I have gotten is right here.