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Theresanne
Theresanne Member Posts: 90
edited June 2015 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts
  • I am 3 yrs out from my diagnosis and treatment...and my anxiety is just getting worse...worried about recurrence, mets, every....single....day. and I absolutely detest going anywhere, especially where there are people I know. my husband is having a celebration dinner to acknowdedge 10 yrs in his business. Many of his clients , friends etc. will be there. I thought I would at least stop by, but I am so freakin sick of" how are you?". "are you ok know", " Is everything alright?"...I feel like Im the poor cancer patient ..the freak show...the center of the pity party..I cannot stand it! And chem surely did a number on me..I look older, my hair is awful... I know my husband will be disappointed, my kids upset if I dont go...but I am so sick and tired of this. Anyway, my husband will be with all of his clients talking...I am sure he would get over it quickly, besides, our relationship is terrible now since my cancer. the gift that keeps on giving. I posted here..I dont know where else to turn....sorry.
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  • farmerlucy
    farmerlucy Member Posts: 3,985
    edited June 2015

    I so understand about social situations. Often I take a happy pill before those types of gatherings. Don't get me wrong I don't take them often but they do take the edge off my social phobia. It is painful sometimes when I glance at the mirror and see Mrs. Claus but oh well, she is well loved! I learned long before breast cancer that "I yam what I yam" to quote Popeye. Folks can like it or not - it's their problem not mine. Gentle hug.
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  • Theresanne
    Theresanne Member Posts: 90
    edited June 2015

    Thank you...

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  • voraciousreader
    voraciousreader Member Posts: 7,496
    edited June 2015

    Theresanne...luckily for me, I told few people of my diagnosis, so I am spared by those types of questions. My advice though, would be to make yourself impervious to those kinds of situations by just turning the table and asking others how they are without missing a beat when they ask how YOU are! It takes practice...so you might like to say it a few times in front of a mirror. Trust me....it works! Whenever someone asks me how the DH and I are doing, I just ask, "How are you?"


    I wish you well and congratulations to your DH!

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