One time middle aged drama queen......

Bippy625

I am a former drama queen.

Before BC, it was all about me, me, me. Office politics? Oh yes, let me get into all of it. Hateful, nasty, stupid competition with my colleagues? Count me in. For years, I participated in all of it. And also, in my personal life. To self destructive extremes. I am not proud of it, but own it.

Well, after bc.....not interested. No more drama, in my own life. And believe me, I am not into anyone's drama either.

Well. i can tell I have hurt a friend by not getting lathered up on her behalf about a work issue she is having. She said to me, "are you not outraged at all?" And I admitted that I was not. This did not go over so good. But, was it not enough that I listened to her tale? I don't waste anytime getting upset at things that are not life-threatening anymore. Sometimes I do miss the days when I was just like her. It is silly. She should realize that I am not into it, and we have discussed the fact that I am allowing nothing negative into my life from now on. And believe me it's nothing earth shattering or horrible. Basically she is an unbelievable talent, but disappointed that the government entity she is working for does not realize it. Hello? Welcome to life at the county. Are you all guessing what I wanted to say, at least you don't have cancer! I was trying to talk her down but she wasn't listening to me, and then I could tell she got pissed and had to go. I'm just not into expending any energy when I try to help, and I'm not heard, and someone just wants to dump on me.

Anyone else experienced anything similar? Just not into hearing about it

Nomatterwhat

Good for you Bippy.  I do understand as, I am the sounding board at our law office and everybody comes into my office and lets go.  That is fine, I can handle that, as I try to just listen and not participate.  My MIL, on the other hand, pushes those buttons between my husband and I and we have had some of our nastiest fights of our 32 years together just this week.  She is not in the best of health, but she always becomes needy when my husband is on vacation.  So my stuff that is on my list is put on the back burner and doesn't get done.  Do they ever cut the cord?