Dealing with husbands stroke and now my cancer within 60 days!!

Marie711

Diagnosed about a week ago, waiting on the FISH test because the her2 was inconclusive. 2cm IDC. Feels like it's taking forever!! I feel great one day, next day I'm sure I'm dying and every symptom must be metastasis! It has been one of those years. Watched my husband have a stroke in March, thankfully he is doing much better and now this! I'm glad there are places like this where others understand, even the reactions of close friends have been different.

I_Spy

Oh my goodness Marie that is terrible. Hang in there. And I know exactly what you mean -- I haven't been diagnosed with invasive cancer, and even I feel a pain and think "is that a bone mets???" and then I laugh at myself but it's not funny. The one thing that will get better for you is as the time goes by, you get used to the "new normal" and things even out a bit. At least for me. A year ago I would never have thought I would be getting a PBMX, and now I'm planning for surgery kind of matter of factly ....

fizzdon52

I totally understand. My elderly mother came with me at my appointment when they told me I had Breast Cancer and 3 days later she had a stroke. I will always feel responsible. She is okay now but it was a terrible time. Waiting is just the worst as well. When you know what you have got and how it is going to be treated you will feel better. Thinking of you all the way from New Zealand, Donna xxx

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Marie711-

We want to welcome you to our community here at BCO> We're so sorry for the circumstances that have brought you here, but we're glad you've joined us, and hope you find the support you need!

We've put together some links that many of our newly diagnosed members find helpful, which you can find here: https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/5/topic/8....

We're glad to hear that your husband is doing better! The first days and weeks are hard to navigate, but soon you'll feel like you have a handle on this. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help you on the boards, that's what we're here for!

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msphil

so sorry you had to join us here but we are here for you, for we know what you are going thru, sorry about your husband and glad he,s doing better. Once your treatment plan is in effect things will calm down a bit, take care and we all here our constantly in my prayers.msphil(idc,stage2, 0/3 nodes, L mast chemo and rads and 5 yrs on tamoxifen) and all while planning my wedding, but am now a 21 yr Survivor(Praise GOD)

LAstar

That is far too much for any family to go through! I hope you are finding your way forward. I'm glad to hear that your husband is doing better. Best wishes on all the yucky decisions and getting this stuff behind you so that you and your hubs can enjoy life!